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-Michael- · 18th Oct 2009, 01:45 PM

You know when you know you've got an inevitable awkward moment arriving.
And you shit yours pants non-stop.

Yeah.

So my boyfriend's dad found out we're together.
After i left apparently he was like
'So he's your boyfriend then?'

my boyfriend said he was just a bit D8
and told him he'd tell him about it when he's back from being out with his friends.

So i'm here awaiting to here what his dad says to him.

His dad's a cool guy
and apparently he said it cooly
and he's having a good hour or two to think about it on his own
yeah i think he'll be a bit disappointed.
But i can't say he'll be shocked.

But next weekend.
When i go back round to his house.

ARRGGHH

I wont be able to look his dad or his brother in the eye.
Unless he tells me he knows and he's cool with it.

In which case i'd anoint him as the coolest father ever.

I hate when you know there's no way out of awkwardness.

Have you guys had this?
(not the exact situation, the whole inevitable awkwardness)
Most people who are out almost CERTAINLY have

AtomicCafe · 18th Oct 2009, 02:16 PM

I've had SO many experiences like this. Strangely, I can't think of one specific example. It's like, after that awkwardness, I repress those memories and forget about that.

Hopefully all goes well for you! Just remember not to be ashamed when you see your bf's father. Were you a straight couple, would you still be hiding it and unable to face him? If his father is fine with his being gay, then you should treat the situation no differently!

(Now, if this is the first he's heard of his son being gay... extra good luck with that!)

-Michael- · 18th Oct 2009, 04:13 PM

Aha apparently he's knew for years.
And this just certified it.

He's really cool about it.
Really doesn't care.
Like...seriously couldn't care less.

Just said he hopes he doesn't have to deal with homophobes and then we cant do rudies while he's in the house.

:')

Paragon · 18th Oct 2009, 04:16 PM

i prefer physical pain over embarresment and awkwardness, i dont know what its called but i have a phobia of it, thankfully nothing awkward cooncerning my sexuality has happened, besides the constant "are you gay" which i deny

18th Oct 2009, 08:12 PM

cha, so I hung out with this girl since like 5th grade and she falls madly in love with me. She invites me with her family who keep pushing me to go out with her. I come out to the girl after highschool. She tells her mom. Everytime I see her the tension is through the roof. Doesnt help when she invites me everywhere with her mom...and her boyfriend. I recently started declining but I saw her mom there again today and she was like "see your boyfriend doesnt hug me like Legnaj" She is in denial. we've never talked about it lol.

**Lexington** · 18th Oct 2009, 10:20 PM

>>>my boyfriend said he was just a bit D8

I spent about five minutes going "He was just a little bit...date?"

Lex

-Michael- · 19th Oct 2009, 01:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

>>>my boyfriend said he was just a bit D8

I spent about five minutes going "He was just a little bit...date?"

Lex

Great :')

malachite · 19th Oct 2009, 05:18 AM

Well, at least you know its coming, so you can brace yourself.
You could be blindsided and those moments suck even worse.

18th Oct 2009, 01:45 PM	#1
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,199 Join Date: Jun 2008	Awaiting awkward moment You know when you know you've got an inevitable awkward moment arriving. And you shit yours pants non-stop. Yeah. So my boyfriend's dad found out we're together. After i left apparently he was like 'So he's your boyfriend then?' my boyfriend said he was just a bit D8 and told him he'd tell him about it when he's back from being out with his friends. So i'm here awaiting to here what his dad says to him. His dad's a cool guy and apparently he said it cooly and he's having a good hour or two to think about it on his own yeah i think he'll be a bit disappointed. But i can't say he'll be shocked. But next weekend. When i go back round to his house. ARRGGHH I wont be able to look his dad or his brother in the eye. Unless he tells me he knows and he's cool with it. In which case i'd anoint him as the coolest father ever. I hate when you know there's no way out of awkwardness. Have you guys had this? (not the exact situation, the whole inevitable awkwardness) Most people who are out almost CERTAINLY have

18th Oct 2009, 02:16 PM	#2
AtomicCafe Gay by Day, Dyke by Night Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Asexual Lesbian Out Status: Out, Loud, and Proud Location: Tucson, AZ Age: 19 Posts: 208 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Awaiting awkward moment I've had SO many experiences like this. Strangely, I can't think of one specific example. It's like, after that awkwardness, I repress those memories and forget about that. Hopefully all goes well for you! Just remember not to be ashamed when you see your bf's father. Were you a straight couple, would you still be hiding it and unable to face him? If his father is fine with his being gay, then you should treat the situation no differently! (Now, if this is the first he's heard of his son being gay... extra good luck with that!) __________________ That child has several options: staying in the closet, suicide. And then one day, that child might open up the paper and it says, "Homosexual Elected in San Francisco." - Harvey Milk

18th Oct 2009, 04:13 PM	#3
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,199 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Awaiting awkward moment Aha apparently he's knew for years. And this just certified it. He's really cool about it. Really doesn't care. Like...seriously couldn't care less. Just said he hopes he doesn't have to deal with homophobes and then we cant do rudies while he's in the house. :')

18th Oct 2009, 04:16 PM	#4
Paragon ECs Dramatic Fanboy! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi, but more on the gay side. Out Status: Around 8-12 people, but still closeted to most. Location: Ireland Age: 17 Posts: 325 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Awaiting awkward moment i prefer physical pain over embarresment and awkwardness, i dont know what its called but i have a phobia of it, thankfully nothing awkward cooncerning my sexuality has happened, besides the constant "are you gay" which i deny __________________ Jessica Stam's #1 fan, I'm sorta like her e-stalker, stealing things like usernames, Pictures, Random Information, ETC.

18th Oct 2009, 08:12 PM	#5
Legnaj Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Awaiting awkward moment cha, so I hung out with this girl since like 5th grade and she falls madly in love with me. She invites me with her family who keep pushing me to go out with her. I come out to the girl after highschool. She tells her mom. Everytime I see her the tension is through the roof. Doesnt help when she invites me everywhere with her mom...and her boyfriend. I recently started declining but I saw her mom there again today and she was like "see your boyfriend doesnt hug me like Legnaj" She is in denial. we've never talked about it lol.

18th Oct 2009, 10:20 PM	#6
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Awaiting awkward moment >>>my boyfriend said he was just a bit D8 I spent about five minutes going "He was just a little bit...date?" Lex

19th Oct 2009, 05:18 AM	#8
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Awaiting awkward moment Well, at least you know its coming, so you can brace yourself. You could be blindsided and those moments suck even worse. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

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