Flirting!

[RaeofLite]

So I decided to start a thread on flirting. Yes, it's life's nice way of giving humans a break and helping us get to know one another (either truely innocently, or those with "innocent intentions" ).

So how do gay/bi guys flirt with fellow males? (I'm more curious here).

I know we flirt by:
-gently touching the arm or hand when we talk to one another
-prolonged eye contact, smiling or doing the 'hair thing'

but I'm still getting used to flirting with women openly since this is my coming out year. Any other ways of flirting you could mention? The guys can feel free to jump in here and say how they flirt with others too.

[NickT]

Usually, when I flirt, I'm not even aware of it apparently. What seems like fun and games to me may make someone go, "Nick, stop flirting, he's straight." I'unno.

One thing I like to do to knowingly mess with straight guys though is a knee-tickle. You press all your fingers together, like a duck bill, press it against the middle of your kneecap, and slowly spread out your fingers around it. Done right, it feels VERY weird and slightly sexy.

[ethelred]

Well, I haven't had a chance to really flirt, BUT I have always been haunted by the thought that I am rather flirtatious with women. No idea if I am, and probably the more I amp it up the more obvious it is that I am not actually interested but that I am instead having fun.

I don't see myself doing anything physical flirting wise, but with this hair (it is 4-6 inches below my shoulders now and increasingly more lovely as I care about it more) I am compelled on a daily basis to 'do the hair thing' as well. Eye contact, light chit chat instead of the nerdier topics...a little lean in if I am wearing my favorite slim black sweater.


...Jesus Christ I'm gay.

[haelmarie]

The eye-fuck.

It's when you catch eyes with a guy and they give you a totally lustful, invasive, soul-wrenching stare. It only lasts for a fraction of a second, but it gives everything away.

I guess it's not really flirting.

One thing I like to do to knowingly mess with straight guys though is a knee-tickle. You press all your fingers together, like a duck bill, press it against the middle of your kneecap, and slowly spread out your fingers around it. Done right, it feels VERY weird and slightly sexy.

HOT.

Originally Posted by RaeofLite

So I decided to start a thread on flirting. Yes, it's life's nice way of giving humans a break and helping us get to know one another (either truely innocently, or those with "innocent intentions" ).

So how do gay/bi guys flirt with fellow males? (I'm more curious here).

I know we flirt by:
-gently touching the arm or hand when we talk to one another
-prolonged eye contact, smiling or doing the 'hair thing'

but I'm still getting used to flirting with women openly since this is my coming out year. Any other ways of flirting you could mention? The guys can feel free to jump in here and say how they flirt with others too.

that's how we flirt too. although the touching is usually arm shoulder or lower back.

also making fun of some very small meaningless quirk.

i definitely do the hair thing, haha, and one of my girl friends said she loves when guys reach their hands behind their heads cause it shows their arm muscles. i might scratch my back over the shoulder sometime.

[Owen]

Originally Posted by ethelred

I don't see myself doing anything physical flirting wise, but with this hair (it is 4-6 inches below my shoulders now and increasingly more lovely as I care about it more) I am compelled on a daily basis to 'do the hair thing' as well.

I demand pictures!

I've never really flirted before, and being a nerdy person, it probably wouldn't be easy for me to do. I guess I'd just do the normal things friends do, but do them for a bit longer, like looking in his eyes or touching his shoulders. Meh, I'd probably just wink.

[Absentminded]

I'm a natural flirt, so I'm almost always unaware that I'm being flirtatious. One of my friends told me the other day "yeah, you were hitting on me when you met me!" It took me a minute to realize that I actually wasn't.

I guess when I flirt with girls, I usually tend to be a little more straight up, and do things such as walking up behind a girl and just slinging my arm over their shoulder, and if I really like them, they ALWAYS get a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

Guys...well, it's just fun to get them going...and I'm still kind of assertive while flirting with them Usually, I'll be all over them, ruffling their hair, smacking their asses, just getting REALLY close with them...
OR, if it's my group of close friends, there are 2 guys, and 3 girls, and we ALL act really gay (2 of us girls are), so I'll get up close with one of the other girls, and we'll just look like something's going on, and it NEVER fails to make the guys look like

[George]

..I just don't flirt. lol

Pretty sad.. With my exes we just joked around a lot and the jokes got more and more personal, until we started doing the whole 'you ask a raunchy question about me and I ask one about you' thing. xD

[x2x2x2x2y2]

I don't flirt either. I'm very quiet and to myself which = no flirt.

[AtomicCafe]

I'm a verbal flirt, haha. I completely lack the ability to read body language, so I never got a hang of that. Now I'm practically infamous in certain places because I'm perfectly fine with going up to a woman and telling her her stunningly beautiful she looks. They usually respond that I would make a good corny gentleman. :P

[RaeofLite]

Originally Posted by AtomicCafe

I'm a verbal flirt, haha. I completely lack the ability to read body language, so I never got a hang of that. Now I'm practically infamous in certain places because I'm perfectly fine with going up to a woman and telling her her stunningly beautiful she looks. They usually respond that I would make a good corny gentleman. :P

Haha, that's awesome. I might have to try that one day.

[Maddy]

I can't flirt. Like, at all. I always imagine I'll either get slapped or laughed at, I'm neither attractive nor suave enough to get away with it.

[x2x2x2x2y2]

Originally Posted by Maddy

I can't flirt. Like, at all. I always imagine I'll either get slapped or laughed at, I'm neither attractive nor suave enough to get away with it.

Same exact thing here.

[Just Adam]

i dont know how to flirt i jsut end up getting stressed beeing around peopel and going to the bar...

[RaeofLite]

I think that's why it's so much easier to go on a dating website and meet people there or a LGBT meething/dance because you know that the people there are 90+% likely to be bi/gay. Whereas if you hit on someone on the street... they might be straight. If you have luck like me and your gaydar only works on hit and miss basis. >.o

well flirting and getting a date are different. i flirt with guys all the time and they flirt back not realizing it. doesnt mean i'm actually interested or that they are either. but it is fun

but its a completely different kind of flirting in an LGBT setting. much more physicality. which is why next year i'm living in the gay district of my city instead of on campus at my catholic university haha.

[SolitaryKnight]

I don't think I'm very good at flirting. I've sometimes noticed people flirting with me (usually girls though), but I've probably been too naive to really notice some flirts.

[Katherine]

I kinda suck at flirting. I'm not great at casual conversation to begin with, so flirting's really not my thing. I usually let the other person do it.... Maybe that's why I'm single....

[jazzrawr]

I flirt too much. I really do.

Apparently I have this crooked smile that I shoot at people when I flirt, and it makes me look like a troublemaker. My ex girlfriend said it made her want to jump me. XD
I also wink a lot, hug people from behind, and I tend to be the person who grabs 5 of my friends' butts as I walk down the hallway.

When I actually like someone though, I just make a lot of contact. Stand really close, sit close to them and put my arm through theirs, hug them from behind and smile at them when they turn their head. Stuff like that. People always say they love my eyes, so I make a lot of eye contact.

[RaRa]

Originally Posted by jazzrawr

I flirt too much. I really do.

Apparently I have this crooked smile that I shoot at people when I flirt, and it makes me look like a troublemaker. My ex girlfriend said it made her want to jump me. XD
I also wink a lot, hug people from behind, and I tend to be the person who grabs 5 of my friends' butts as I walk down the hallway.

When I actually like someone though, I just make a lot of contact. Stand really close, sit close to them and put my arm through theirs, hug them from behind and smile at them when they turn their head. Stuff like that. People always say they love my eyes, so I make a lot of eye contact.

I'm the same way!!! lol

And apparently my smile is the biggest indicator that i'm flirting. And since i'm like always smiling I guess that means i'm always flirting. xD