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GoBabyGoGo · 30th Oct 2009, 09:17 PM

what do you look forward to

what makes you happy

whats the meaning of life..lol

?

Shevanel · 30th Oct 2009, 09:23 PM

Love. I'm sure theres more. But my brain is currently focused on Love I guess.

30th Oct 2009, 09:26 PM

surfing.

30th Oct 2009, 09:59 PM

Working/being with kids.

I remember when I worked as an after-school teacher, I had to take care of a girl with down syndrome (she normally had her own teacher, but she was running late that day). So I took the girl and my regular fifth grade class to the gym, where the kids started racing each other. One of the fifth grade boys kept beating everyone, and the girl looked at me and said, "He's fast. Can I race him?" I smiled, said go for it, and asked the boy if he wouldn't mind racing her. He agreed, and when I waved my arms down for them to start running, the boy pretended to trip so the girl could take the lead. She was so incredibly happy when she beat the fastest boy in the school.

Watching someone do the right thing without being told to do it -- that makes life worth it for me.

Shevanel · 30th Oct 2009, 10:33 PM

I concur with these last few posts as well ^_^

mattypants · 30th Oct 2009, 11:35 PM

i think i'd +1 for love

shorty · 31st Oct 2009, 12:50 AM

Lust and laughing. Not sure about love yet.

Not sure of the meaning of life. But going to try and enjoy it while I can!

FlawlessError, thats a lovely story.

Just Adam · 31st Oct 2009, 01:47 AM

umm...im sure ill think of one just give me a min....

umm...hmmm...i would say love but those kind of odds i cant waste my money on the bet...

i dunno what the reason or the point is im jsut here and allways will be...

Darkwing65 · 31st Oct 2009, 01:51 AM

Mid day naps, Good conversations, going on long hikes, Beauty in everything

Amy · 31st Oct 2009, 04:03 AM

Right now?
My future.

haelmarie · 31st Oct 2009, 04:55 AM

Learning?

malachite · 31st Oct 2009, 04:59 AM

The hope that someday I'll do something worth wild.

Stuie · 31st Oct 2009, 05:21 AM

Learning, music, love, life itself, nature, being happy and making other people happy. That's pretty much everything I can think of.

tokwa · 31st Oct 2009, 05:51 AM

When you'll be remembered.

LivingInLyric · 31st Oct 2009, 06:47 AM

Making other people happy and sharing moments of uncontrollable laughter

**Owen** · 31st Oct 2009, 06:58 AM

Oh boy, this post is going to be a long one. I guess its time to earn my custom title.

what do you look forward to
For most of my life, I looked forward to things. I looked forward to high school as a reprieve from middle school. I looked forward to senior year as a break from all the things I didn't like about high school. I looked forward to college as the end of what I didn't like about high school. In each case, I was disappointed. In each case, I found that though the superficial aspects of life may change, that life itself remains very much the same.

Since then, I have given up looking forward these major transitions in my life and I now recognized them as simple milestones; nothing else. I rarely look forward to things anymore simply because experience has shown that they are in no way guaranteed to be good. I still look forward to things that historically have rare disappointed me: my birthday, the holidays, a visit from my parents, hanging out with certain friends, etc. Aside from those rare exceptions, however, I live in the moment, for in the present there is unlimited potential, and things we don't like can be changed.

what makes you happy
All the things that make other people happy: a good book (nonfiction in particular), a good friend (ones who stimulate me intellectually in particular), a good movie (comedies in particular), a good walk or bike ride (by a river or beach in particular), a good meal (spaghetti in particular), a good video game (Rock Band in particular); when a friend does a favor unasked with no hope of reciprocity; when I do something nice for someone; when I accomplish something that was difficult and took a lot of practice; when I accomplish something that wasn't difficult but took a loot of effort over a long period of time. Of course, these things are all fleeting; what really makes me happy is discussed bellow.

whats the meaning of life..lol
Ah, the meaning of life, a question that has plagued me for far too long. This very question was probably the cause of the depression I felt for most of my high school years. Why? Because I'm a nihilist. As a nihilist, I believe that life is inherently meaningless, without purpose, and lacking any tangible value aside from the value that we give it. We go through a billions-of-years long period where we don't exist, we then exist for a few decades, and then we don't exist again for a few more billion years. Our life is nothing more than a blip on the cosmic radar, and it's hardly that. This may seem needlessly pessimistic to you, but as a person who is relentlessly logical, it's the way I think about life.

For the longest time, these beliefs depressed me badly, and I found myself unable to really enjoy life to its fullest. All of my happiness was superficial, since it was just an attempt to distract myself from the depression that could always be right around the corner. However, I recently found out about Nietzsche's theory of the overman, a man who acknowledges life as meaningless and lives his life to the fullest regardless. Because life has no intrinsic meaning, he creates his own. Because life has no true purpose, he embraces all parts of his life. Because his life has no given value, he gives it value by treating like a work of art. I think that is the meaning of life: to recognize that life has no meaning and to live regardless, to be the overman. And that's what really makes me happy: being the overman.

Black Cat · 31st Oct 2009, 07:00 AM

My cat
The existence of love in the world
Knowing people need me every now and again
Hot fudge sundaes, and waiting for someone to share them with
Random acts of kindness done by or for complete strangers
The feeling that someone out there is doing the same thing as you at the same exact point in time
And I am secure in the knowledge that things can and will always get better, no matter how hopeless they may seem

I could go on all day; those are just a few things that I live for...

MusicIsLife · 31st Oct 2009, 08:32 AM

Music, and the whole culture behind the concerts I go to. It makes my faith in humanity return, because everyone looks out for eachother, and usually no one is overtly mean or something.

31st Oct 2009, 08:36 AM

Music the drive to be with someone. Live and do things I want to do.

malachite · 31st Oct 2009, 10:55 AM

Those perfect little moments. They are very brief, but they rock!

30th Oct 2009, 09:17 PM	#1
GoBabyGoGo Music Nerd. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 99% Location: Sydney, Australia Age: 20 Posts: 433 Join Date: May 2007	what makes life worth it for you what do you look forward to what makes you happy whats the meaning of life..lol ? __________________ "If I were you, I'd have sex with me!"

30th Oct 2009, 09:23 PM	#2
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: what makes life worth it for you Love. I'm sure theres more. But my brain is currently focused on Love I guess. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

30th Oct 2009, 09:26 PM	#3
paco Guest Posts: n/a	Re: what makes life worth it for you surfing.

30th Oct 2009, 09:59 PM	#4
backtothekitchen Guest Posts: n/a	Re: what makes life worth it for you Working/being with kids. I remember when I worked as an after-school teacher, I had to take care of a girl with down syndrome (she normally had her own teacher, but she was running late that day). So I took the girl and my regular fifth grade class to the gym, where the kids started racing each other. One of the fifth grade boys kept beating everyone, and the girl looked at me and said, "He's fast. Can I race him?" I smiled, said go for it, and asked the boy if he wouldn't mind racing her. He agreed, and when I waved my arms down for them to start running, the boy pretended to trip so the girl could take the lead. She was so incredibly happy when she beat the fastest boy in the school. Watching someone do the right thing without being told to do it -- that makes life worth it for me.

30th Oct 2009, 10:33 PM	#5
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: what makes life worth it for you I concur with these last few posts as well ^_^ __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

30th Oct 2009, 11:35 PM	#6
mattypants Chacun à son goût Full Member Gender: male/garçon/hombre Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some friends Some family and the lesbians Location: Los angeles, Ca Posts: 2,733 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: what makes life worth it for you i think i'd +1 for love __________________

31st Oct 2009, 12:50 AM	#7
shorty vertically challenged Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Sister and a couple of friends. Location: Land of Oz Posts: 320 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: what makes life worth it for you Lust and laughing. Not sure about love yet. Not sure of the meaning of life. But going to try and enjoy it while I can! FlawlessError, thats a lovely story.

31st Oct 2009, 01:47 AM	#8
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: what makes life worth it for you umm...im sure ill think of one just give me a min.... umm...hmmm...i would say love but those kind of odds i cant waste my money on the bet... i dunno what the reason or the point is im jsut here and allways will be... __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

31st Oct 2009, 01:51 AM	#9
Darkwing65 El Comandante Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexualish. Out Status: A few people Location: Albuquerque, New Mexico Age: 24 Posts: 470 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: what makes life worth it for you Mid day naps, Good conversations, going on long hikes, Beauty in everything __________________ CHALLENGE THE STATUS QUO! ‎"Puede salir cuando quiere, Pero nunca yo partir"

31st Oct 2009, 04:03 AM	#10
Amy DFTBA Full Member Gender: Somewhere between female and I don't know Out Status: Open, not out. Location: Northern California, United States Age: 18 Posts: 2,380 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: what makes life worth it for you Right now? My future. __________________ "The opposite of love is not hate, but fear" Forrest Church

31st Oct 2009, 04:55 AM	#11
haelmarie it's ok to be afraid Full Member Gender: No. Orientation: No. Age: 18 Posts: 767 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: what makes life worth it for you Learning?

31st Oct 2009, 04:59 AM	#12
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: what makes life worth it for you The hope that someday I'll do something worth wild. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

31st Oct 2009, 05:21 AM	#13
Stuie Hugs - $POA Full Member Gender: e^(πi) +1 = 0 Orientation: Schnoo Out Status: Moo Cow Location: Canberra, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 1,463 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: what makes life worth it for you Learning, music, love, life itself, nature, being happy and making other people happy. That's pretty much everything I can think of. __________________ STRAAAAAAAAAAAWURUWERT AND THE LESBIANS! MADDATRON3000X's (Maddy) Fag Hag Loves Pauline in the form of the equation f(x): (-∞,2) -> R, 2^-x

31st Oct 2009, 05:51 AM	#14
tokwa Yez, that is my lips. Regular Member Gender: Guy Orientation: Girls/Guys Out Status: IDK Location: Phil Age: 19 Posts: 288 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: what makes life worth it for you When you'll be remembered. __________________ Show me your teeth.

31st Oct 2009, 06:47 AM	#15
LivingInLyric A Lovely Mess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Some people Location: New Hampshire Age: 18 Posts: 239 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: what makes life worth it for you Making other people happy and sharing moments of uncontrollable laughter __________________ ~Amanda & Bri~

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31st Oct 2009, 06:58 AM	#16
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,870 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: what makes life worth it for you Oh boy, this post is going to be a long one. I guess its time to earn my custom title. what do you look forward to For most of my life, I looked forward to things. I looked forward to high school as a reprieve from middle school. I looked forward to senior year as a break from all the things I didn't like about high school. I looked forward to college as the end of what I didn't like about high school. In each case, I was disappointed. In each case, I found that though the superficial aspects of life may change, that life itself remains very much the same. Since then, I have given up looking forward these major transitions in my life and I now recognized them as simple milestones; nothing else. I rarely look forward to things anymore simply because experience has shown that they are in no way guaranteed to be good. I still look forward to things that historically have rare disappointed me: my birthday, the holidays, a visit from my parents, hanging out with certain friends, etc. Aside from those rare exceptions, however, I live in the moment, for in the present there is unlimited potential, and things we don't like can be changed. what makes you happy All the things that make other people happy: a good book (nonfiction in particular), a good friend (ones who stimulate me intellectually in particular), a good movie (comedies in particular), a good walk or bike ride (by a river or beach in particular), a good meal (spaghetti in particular), a good video game (Rock Band in particular); when a friend does a favor unasked with no hope of reciprocity; when I do something nice for someone; when I accomplish something that was difficult and took a lot of practice; when I accomplish something that wasn't difficult but took a loot of effort over a long period of time. Of course, these things are all fleeting; what really makes me happy is discussed bellow. whats the meaning of life..lol Ah, the meaning of life, a question that has plagued me for far too long. This very question was probably the cause of the depression I felt for most of my high school years. Why? Because I'm a nihilist. As a nihilist, I believe that life is inherently meaningless, without purpose, and lacking any tangible value aside from the value that we give it. We go through a billions-of-years long period where we don't exist, we then exist for a few decades, and then we don't exist again for a few more billion years. Our life is nothing more than a blip on the cosmic radar, and it's hardly that. This may seem needlessly pessimistic to you, but as a person who is relentlessly logical, it's the way I think about life. For the longest time, these beliefs depressed me badly, and I found myself unable to really enjoy life to its fullest. All of my happiness was superficial, since it was just an attempt to distract myself from the depression that could always be right around the corner. However, I recently found out about Nietzsche's theory of the overman, a man who acknowledges life as meaningless and lives his life to the fullest regardless. Because life has no intrinsic meaning, he creates his own. Because life has no true purpose, he embraces all parts of his life. Because his life has no given value, he gives it value by treating like a work of art. I think that is the meaning of life: to recognize that life has no meaning and to live regardless, to be the overman. And that's what really makes me happy: being the overman. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

31st Oct 2009, 07:00 AM	#17
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: what makes life worth it for you My cat The existence of love in the world Knowing people need me every now and again Hot fudge sundaes, and waiting for someone to share them with Random acts of kindness done by or for complete strangers The feeling that someone out there is doing the same thing as you at the same exact point in time And I am secure in the knowledge that things can and will always get better, no matter how hopeless they may seem I could go on all day; those are just a few things that I live for... __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

31st Oct 2009, 08:32 AM	#18
MusicIsLife EC Addict Full Member Gender: Not even sure anymore. Something in between. Orientation: I like girls :) Out Status: Everyone on orientation 7 people on trans issue. Location: Montréal, QC Age: 23 Posts: 1,595 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: what makes life worth it for you Music, and the whole culture behind the concerts I go to. It makes my faith in humanity return, because everyone looks out for eachother, and usually no one is overtly mean or something.

31st Oct 2009, 08:36 AM	#19
Jiggles Guest Posts: n/a	Re: what makes life worth it for you Music the drive to be with someone. Live and do things I want to do.

31st Oct 2009, 10:55 AM	#20
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: what makes life worth it for you Those perfect little moments. They are very brief, but they rock! __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.