Jealousy

[Pseudojim]

I don't identify myself as one of the stereotypical 'jealous types'. But at certain moments of my life i've felt myself affected by intense white-fire-in-the-brain jealousy that's difficult to rein in. It's something i really really dislike about myself.

I won't go into the specifics of those moments, but it's not as though it will happen if i see her (perhaps him some day) doing something so simple as chatting with some other guy, or even dancing, or anything like that... that stuff's just innocuous. But if i see someone ogling her, or obviously flirting and trying to mack, i start boiling. I control it and stay reasonable, but the feeling is there. I never get angry at my partner over it. It's irrational... i'm so trusting of partners, but i can't handle them being hit on by other people?

anyone else had a problem with this, and/or have any advice toward defeating the feeling?

yeah. I just recognize it for what it is and keep myself in check.

[Étoile]

I am often envious and jealous myself. (Note: Envy and jealousy are two different things. Envy is wanting something that another person has and/or wanting them to lose that something you envy. Jealousy is the fear of losing someone that's already yours.) I try to keep the green-eyed monster locked down but it's hard when you constantly compare yourself to other people and see your crush flirted, or worse, flirting with others.

These feelings often stem from a lack of self-esteem and real/perceived need of something we don't have. Confident folks wouldn't have to call every hour, get angry when their partners decide to go out with friends instead of you after they've spent the whole week with you, or feel as if every hot guy/girl that walks by may potentially steal their partner.

Do some self-reflection and see why are you so often jealous. Do you feel inadequate? Are the guys that flirt with her more popular, more charming, more attractive? Does she pay you any or as much attention as she does the flirtatious guys?

[Pseudojim]

Originally Posted by Étoile

Do some self-reflection and see why are you so often jealous. Do you feel inadequate? Are the guys that flirt with her more popular, more charming, more attractive? Does she pay you any or as much attention as she does the flirtatious guys?

Well, at the moment i am single, but i don't think any of these are why i get jealous, i think it's just an animal territorial thing.

[Just Adam]

im jealous of many many things but i just accept it and think good for them.