What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

tinarenee · 11th Nov 2009, 10:24 AM

Mine would be funny, energetic but not overly so, faithful, loving, gentle, compassionate, she would find my not so occasional bouts of social awkwardness cute and charming, she would tell me when I’m being a dork, she would enjoy the occasional day just cuddling on the sofa watching tv or reading, she would not only enjoy giving affection but receiving it

- anything from a pat on the butt when passing in the hall to an entire day of pleasurable activities.

She would enjoy sharing her interests with me and be willing to try mine.
She would stick around to give and receive support when things go wonkie.

She would allow me to love all of her especially the parts that she thinks are unlovable

, she would be my best friend.

Of course that’s in a perfect world.

Paragon · 11th Nov 2009, 11:16 AM

fun, shy, tall (boy n girl)l, slim (girl), blonde (girl), muscular (boy), cuddly, interesting, funny, blue eyes, the list goes on

malachite · 11th Nov 2009, 12:18 PM

he'd be able to make me laugh with his jokes and melt my heart with his smile.

He's let me see the world in his eyes and let me cry on shoulder why I'm down.

Amy · 11th Nov 2009, 12:49 PM

A Nerdfighter/honourary Nerdfighter.
I know that sounds really, really picky, but there's so much that they wouldn't understand.

Plus, I would like a Made of Awesome (the Nerdfighter's version of a Maid of Honour) at my wedding.

Stuie · 11th Nov 2009, 12:52 PM

Anyone who loves me who I love in return. Simply that, although to be frank, I'd prefer if they played music, preferably bassoon.

**Lexington** · 11th Nov 2009, 01:03 PM

I got 'im.

Lex

11th Nov 2009, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Stuie

preferably bassoon.

You sad sad boy.

I have 'Mr Perfect'. Rather complex on how I fell for him and he fell for me.

Greggers · 11th Nov 2009, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Amy

A Nerdfighter/honourary Nerdfighter.
I know that sounds really, really picky, but there's so much that they wouldn't understand.

Plus, I would like a Made of Awesome (the Nerdfighter's version of a Maid of Honour) at my wedding.

But...but...

Im not a nerdfighter and i still love you more than the world itself </3

- - -

*cough*

As for my perfect husband material...

I would like someone who is gifted in some form of the arts, be it music, acting, actual art, dancing, whatever. I am a very artistic person myself and i find artist people in general are better with expressing and opening up to emotion. And i am a VERY emotional person, so i need someone who is good with that / also like that.

I would like someone who's smile and/or eyes can sweep me off my feet. I want butterflies every time i look into his eyes or see his smile. Im not too picky about looks, and there is not even one "type" i prefer, but eyes and smile are important to me. They can lift my day in one second flat. If you need an example, Scotty Walker AKA Luke MacFarlane.

I would like someone who loves me more than he loves himself and someone i love more than i love myself. One thing about me is that when i truly love someone, i shift into a "waiter" mode. I try and make them happy because that makes me happy when they are happy. Id love someone else who loves me enough to go out of his way to do things for me, and it would really compliment eachother.

I would like someone who is unapologetically themselves. I want alot of things in someone, but this is one of the only ones id say i "need". I want someone who does not claim to be anything other than themselves. I get that no one is perfect, so i like it when someone i love does not try (and fail). Then i can deal with it, and i will deal with it for someone i love. The other part of this is i want someone who is very proud to be gay. I am very proud, and i see myself with a big future in helping the LGBT community, so i think id need someone proud enough to stand by me in that if not help.

Amy · 11th Nov 2009, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Greggers

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Originally Posted by Amy

A Nerdfighter/honourary Nerdfighter.
I know that sounds really, really picky, but there's so much that they wouldn't understand.

Plus, I would like a Made of Awesome (the Nerdfighter's version of a Maid of Honour) at my wedding.

But...but...

Im not a nerdfighter and i still love you more than the world itself </3

But you're an honourary Nerdfighter.
Because you totally are not a Decepticon.

Stuie · 11th Nov 2009, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Stuie

preferably bassoon.

You sad sad boy.

I'm going out with another bassoonist at the moment. We're such a bassoony couple.

We've even played bassoon duets together and we're going to the orchestra tonight and then tomorrow we're going to go through our excerpts for our auditions on Saturday. We rock.

RaeofLite · 11th Nov 2009, 01:47 PM

She would be pretty, inside and out. short, long hair I don't care. Preferably gay... since some bisexuals have bad reps or are "experimenting" (I hate being an experiment). I love light coloured eyes. She'd have a good job (able to support herself and hopefully happy doing it). She might be creative (in some artistic way), funny.. she has to be funny or have a sense of humour. And healthy. That way we could be healthy together (exercising, eating etc). And hopefully optimistic.

11th Nov 2009, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Stuie

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Originally Posted by Jiggles

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Originally Posted by Stuie

preferably bassoon.

You sad sad boy.

I'm going out with another bassoonist at the moment. We're such a bassoony couple.

We've even played bassoon duets together and we're going to the orchestra tonight and then tomorrow we're going to go through our excerpts for our auditions on Saturday. We rock.

^ Nuff said!

NobodyKnows94 · 11th Nov 2009, 01:56 PM

Blonde hair, blue eyes, reasonably tall, and a 6 pack. As for Personality, he'd have a great sense of humour but know when to be serious. He'd also be the leader of the relationship.

NickT · 11th Nov 2009, 01:59 PM

Hoo boy...

Hair: Natural hair color unless it really does look good otherwise. Not short like a buzz cut, but not long enough to reach the shoulders either. Medium is good. Curly is meh, I prefer straight hair.

Face: Nice and smooth. Obviously acne might appear, but that's natural. Little to no facial hair either, unless a stubble actually looks good on him.

Body: Slightly muscular, doesn't have to be ripped. Cannot be too skinny, cannot be too fat. Healthy BMI, basically. Not too hairy. I don't want him to be too tall as I'd like to able to kiss him without standing on my toes, but he can't be so short that I feel like I'm dating a 10-year-old.

Legs: Again, not too hairy. I find legs to be one of the sexiest parts of the body, so it'd need to look good.

Personality: Likes videogames, intelligent, witty, forgiving, cute, sexy, good cook (I seriously cannot feed myself.), willing to cuddle.

Yeah, I know, picky. I'm sure once I get a boyfriend it'll get more flexible. >>;

silverhalo · 11th Nov 2009, 02:07 PM

My girlfriend......... well she is just about perfect, and the bits of her that are not so perfect well I love them just as much too

Katherine · 11th Nov 2009, 02:32 PM

My perfect girl:

Someone cheerful, hyper, and funny, with a great sense of humor. Someone who I have lots of things in common with. Someone who isn't afraid to make the first move or be affectionate. Someone with nice hair (particularly a brunette) and pretty eyes.

Oh, and she has to play video games. And love animals. Especially cats.

Totoro · 11th Nov 2009, 02:35 PM

Perfect: 1. Intelligent (or enough to make smart conversation with)
2. Not afraid to get his opinion out. (Someone who isn't afraid to express himself)
3. Can lighten up my day ... maybe funny, or whatever gets me happy.
4. And just cute all around, by my standards.
Basically describing the aspects i like about the guy i like xD Ahh, he's just too perfect for me.

Brandford · 11th Nov 2009, 02:38 PM

Someone who can make me laugh, anyone who can amuse me has me for life. Preferably gay, ive been left for a girl before, it definitely hurts more than being left for another guy. Someone whos honest, Intelligent, trusting and open. Someone i can argue with without getting all emotional about it. Someone who is confident, unlike me and somewhat short tempered but not too short tempered. Someone romantic and who wants to be with me, dominating yet submissive sometimes. Preferably someone whos not too outgoing, who wants to just stay home with me alot. Someone who is not interested in sports, maybe one or two but not obsessive over it and wont argue with other people about what stupid team is going to win. Someone i can talk the day away without even noticing how long its been. Lol though this is only a discription of Mr. perfect i dont expect to find him and if i do i dont expect him to be interested in me. All i really want is someone who loves me and i love them back and all they want is me and all i want is them

11th Nov 2009, 03:11 PM

My current boyfriend.

He is a hermit and socially awkward. Hates 95% of humans and prefers trees to babies. But he's the most compassionate/sweet/patient/kind/intelligent/funny/loving guy I know. Not a mean bone in his body.

Swamp56 · 11th Nov 2009, 03:24 PM

I don't hold any preferible traits for a potential partner.

11th Nov 2009, 10:24 AM	#1
tinarenee Member Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: out to 4 friends and most importantly my husband Location: Georgia Age: 43 Posts: 55 Join Date: Oct 2009	What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have? Mine would be funny, energetic but not overly so, faithful, loving, gentle, compassionate, she would find my not so occasional bouts of social awkwardness cute and charming, she would tell me when I’m being a dork, she would enjoy the occasional day just cuddling on the sofa watching tv or reading, she would not only enjoy giving affection but receiving it - anything from a pat on the butt when passing in the hall to an entire day of pleasurable activities. She would enjoy sharing her interests with me and be willing to try mine. She would stick around to give and receive support when things go wonkie. She would allow me to love all of her especially the parts that she thinks are unlovable, she would be my best friend. Of course that’s in a perfect world. __________________ YES NO NO YES NO I TRIED THAT YES BOTH WAYS NO I DON'T KNOW NO AGAIN ARE THERE ANY MORE QUESTIONS? GOOD.

11th Nov 2009, 11:16 AM	#2
Paragon ECs Dramatic Fanboy! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi, but more on the gay side. Out Status: Around 8-12 people, but still closeted to most. Location: Ireland Age: 17 Posts: 325 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have fun, shy, tall (boy n girl)l, slim (girl), blonde (girl), muscular (boy), cuddly, interesting, funny, blue eyes, the list goes on __________________ Jessica Stam's #1 fan, I'm sorta like her e-stalker, stealing things like usernames, Pictures, Random Information, ETC.

11th Nov 2009, 12:18 PM	#3
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have he'd be able to make me laugh with his jokes and melt my heart with his smile. He's let me see the world in his eyes and let me cry on shoulder why I'm down. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

11th Nov 2009, 12:49 PM	#4
Amy DFTBA Full Member Gender: Somewhere between female and I don't know Out Status: Open, not out. Location: Northern California, United States Age: 18 Posts: 2,380 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have A Nerdfighter/honourary Nerdfighter. I know that sounds really, really picky, but there's so much that they wouldn't understand. Plus, I would like a Made of Awesome (the Nerdfighter's version of a Maid of Honour) at my wedding. __________________ "The opposite of love is not hate, but fear" Forrest Church

11th Nov 2009, 12:52 PM	#5
Stuie Hugs - $POA Full Member Gender: e^(πi) +1 = 0 Orientation: Schnoo Out Status: Moo Cow Location: Canberra, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 1,463 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have Anyone who loves me who I love in return. Simply that, although to be frank, I'd prefer if they played music, preferably bassoon. __________________ STRAAAAAAAAAAAWURUWERT AND THE LESBIANS! MADDATRON3000X's (Maddy) Fag Hag Loves Pauline in the form of the equation f(x): (-∞,2) -> R, 2^-x

11th Nov 2009, 01:03 PM	#6
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have I got 'im. Lex

11th Nov 2009, 01:47 PM	#11
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have She would be pretty, inside and out. short, long hair I don't care. Preferably gay... since some bisexuals have bad reps or are "experimenting" (I hate being an experiment). I love light coloured eyes. She'd have a good job (able to support herself and hopefully happy doing it). She might be creative (in some artistic way), funny.. she has to be funny or have a sense of humour. And healthy. That way we could be healthy together (exercising, eating etc). And hopefully optimistic. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

11th Nov 2009, 01:56 PM	#13
NobodyKnows94 Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Posts: 6 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have Blonde hair, blue eyes, reasonably tall, and a 6 pack. As for Personality, he'd have a great sense of humour but know when to be serious. He'd also be the leader of the relationship.

11th Nov 2009, 01:59 PM	#14
NickT Mr. Grammar Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Kentucky Posts: 985 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have Hoo boy... Hair: Natural hair color unless it really does look good otherwise. Not short like a buzz cut, but not long enough to reach the shoulders either. Medium is good. Curly is meh, I prefer straight hair. Face: Nice and smooth. Obviously acne might appear, but that's natural. Little to no facial hair either, unless a stubble actually looks good on him. Body: Slightly muscular, doesn't have to be ripped. Cannot be too skinny, cannot be too fat. Healthy BMI, basically. Not too hairy. I don't want him to be too tall as I'd like to able to kiss him without standing on my toes, but he can't be so short that I feel like I'm dating a 10-year-old. Legs: Again, not too hairy. I find legs to be one of the sexiest parts of the body, so it'd need to look good. Personality: Likes videogames, intelligent, witty, forgiving, cute, sexy, good cook (I seriously cannot feed myself.), willing to cuddle. Yeah, I know, picky. I'm sure once I get a boyfriend it'll get more flexible. >>; __________________ Gay Pride!

11th Nov 2009, 02:07 PM	#15
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,158 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have My girlfriend......... well she is just about perfect, and the bits of her that are not so perfect well I love them just as much too

11th Nov 2009, 02:32 PM	#16
Katherine Professional Cuddler Full Member Gender: 75% female Orientation: 110% gay Out Status: 98% out Location: The land of rednecks and pine trees (Georgia) Age: 19 Posts: 1,745 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have My perfect girl: Someone cheerful, hyper, and funny, with a great sense of humor. Someone who I have lots of things in common with. Someone who isn't afraid to make the first move or be affectionate. Someone with nice hair (particularly a brunette) and pretty eyes. Oh, and she has to play video games. And love animals. Especially cats. __________________ Overly emotional five-foot-tall vegetarian gamer girl who procrastinates way too much. Loves food, art, cats, and making people smile.

11th Nov 2009, 02:35 PM	#17
Totoro EC's Lurker Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada - Ontario Age: 19 Posts: 487 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have Perfect: 1. Intelligent (or enough to make smart conversation with) 2. Not afraid to get his opinion out. (Someone who isn't afraid to express himself) 3. Can lighten up my day ... maybe funny, or whatever gets me happy. 4. And just cute all around, by my standards. Basically describing the aspects i like about the guy i like xD Ahh, he's just too perfect for me. __________________

11th Nov 2009, 02:38 PM	#18
Brandford Friendly Misanthrope Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: everyone that asks,my mom (i think) and my sister Location: Woodbridge, VA Age: 19 Posts: 6,656 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have Someone who can make me laugh, anyone who can amuse me has me for life. Preferably gay, ive been left for a girl before, it definitely hurts more than being left for another guy. Someone whos honest, Intelligent, trusting and open. Someone i can argue with without getting all emotional about it. Someone who is confident, unlike me and somewhat short tempered but not too short tempered. Someone romantic and who wants to be with me, dominating yet submissive sometimes. Preferably someone whos not too outgoing, who wants to just stay home with me alot. Someone who is not interested in sports, maybe one or two but not obsessive over it and wont argue with other people about what stupid team is going to win. Someone i can talk the day away without even noticing how long its been. Lol though this is only a discription of Mr. perfect i dont expect to find him and if i do i dont expect him to be interested in me. All i really want is someone who loves me and i love them back and all they want is me and all i want is them __________________ "I find nothing more depressing than optimism." --Paul Fussell

11th Nov 2009, 03:11 PM	#19
71390S Guest Posts: n/a	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have My current boyfriend. He is a hermit and socially awkward. Hates 95% of humans and prefers trees to babies. But he's the most compassionate/sweet/patient/kind/intelligent/funny/loving guy I know. Not a mean bone in his body.

11th Nov 2009, 03:24 PM	#20
Swamp56 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Boston, MA Age: 21 Posts: 2,166 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: What would your perfect partner/spouse/gf/bf be like? What traits would they have I don't hold any preferible traits for a potential partner. __________________

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