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J Schuelke · 14th Nov 2009, 08:43 PM

A little while ago I was walking through a mall just hanging out with some friends, and while they were in a store, I decided to just people watch. Of course I was eyeing up the hot guys that passed by every once in awhile. Then one of my gal pals comes up and asks if i found my mate yet, lol. I said no, and that I was looking for subtle hints that might tip me off a little bit. How the way they are dressed or maybe body language. In poker terms it would be called a tell.

So her next question caught me off guard a little bit. She asked, "so what's your tell?" And honestly I couldn't really think of one. I'm neither femme or really butch, just inbetween.

Since then I was kinda curios if anyone has an obvious tell or have seen one.

14th Nov 2009, 09:06 PM

You mean if we come off as obviously GLBT?

J Schuelke · 14th Nov 2009, 09:32 PM

Yeah, that's what I mean. lol failed to mention that part.

Silvermark · 15th Nov 2009, 02:48 AM

Not sure if it truly classes as a tell; but I play with my hair far too much.
Always trying to make sure it looks good and stuff...

Though if anyone asked me if I was Bi or gay; especially someone I liked; I'd probably get all flustered and stupid... Something which has given me away about certain things many a time.

Revan · 15th Nov 2009, 02:57 AM

Apparently I have a bounce in my step, though that could be from just my happy-go-lucky attitude XD

Jeimuzu · 15th Nov 2009, 04:57 AM

I wear a few gay things, I'm getting more and more focussed on fashion, and I shag boys.

Schu · 15th Nov 2009, 05:14 AM

I've met the most astoundingly camp people that are completely straight. It's rather odd.

I'm pretty sure I don't have a tell really, until you start talking to me about a subject that would give it away.

15th Nov 2009, 06:34 AM

i dont have a tell either. infact i think its just my personality that makes people think im gay. i dont know why either.

HighintheClouds · 15th Nov 2009, 08:13 AM

I'm generally happy around people, very springy, and apparently my mannerisms have become more feminine. Plus, I listen to very bouncy music (Bottle It Up, anyone?).

adam88 · 15th Nov 2009, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Schu

I've met the most astoundingly camp people that are completely straight. It's rather odd.

Perfectly describes a cousin-in-law of mine. Unless he's hiding it extremely well. I don't think he would as he's very open about a lot of things.

My tell? Probably my mannerisms and patterns of speech. I used to be extremely self-conscious about them, but recently not so much. I'll act like myself, and if people have a problem with it that's their problem, not mine.

Brandford · 15th Nov 2009, 10:24 AM

Apparently I walk like a girl and I have an involuntary habit of saying ew whenever someone says something sexual about a boy and a girl or if we are watching a tv show or movie and theres an intimate scene between a boy and a girl. Oh and when im around a boy I like ill wring my hands or wring something else in my hand. Once I was talking with a boy i liked and I kept wringing my sweater in my hands and almost ripped it in the process and i know he noticed because he was giggling

Revan · 15th Nov 2009, 12:35 PM

Met this guy, fab hair, fab clothes, mannerisms of a gay guy including flicking the wrist at one point (not stereotyping but I know no straight guys who do that until maybe now), yet his facebook says interested in girls, and my friend tried hitting on the guy and nothing. So either he's not interested in my friend and has interested in women for a cover OR totally straight...

SpinachWrap · 15th Nov 2009, 12:51 PM

I need to get myself a tell. No one has ever figured it out without me telling them.

15th Nov 2009, 02:55 PM

I'm not super feminine but apparently I "look gay" or have a "gay aura" according to my friends.

15th Nov 2009, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by 71390S

I'm not super feminine but apparently I "look gay" or have a "gay aura" according to my friends.

Same with me.

And the fact that I watch Roseanne and Chelsea Lately.

JB1986 · 15th Nov 2009, 06:05 PM

I wear a rubber rainbow pride bracelet. Dead give away right there, LOL. Other than that, I'm not sure. I tend to wear darker colors for some reason, and I have no fashion sense. Well,my wrists are slightly limp, and I tend to say "hi" in a higher pitch than my usual speaking voice. I'm not overtly femme, yet I'm not butch. Who knows?

guacj · 15th Nov 2009, 09:59 PM

I dont know what mine is, but some of my friends said that they just knew. If I were to go to the mall with someone though they would surely know as soon as I would see a sale sign at express. I guess my tell would be my obsession with shoes and how I dress.

RaeofLite · 15th Nov 2009, 10:02 PM

(I'm not a dude, obviously lol)
But I'm told that I swagger sometimes. I'm not drunk either. :P But I remember growing up and mom always told me: "You're doing it wrong! Walk like a lady". >.<
I still dress in some femme clothing once in a while, but I can come across as dykey if I dress in more "guy" clothing due to my walk and take charge attitude.
Oh and there's teh fact that I obviously check out chicks. lol I've been told by friends that "I'm so gay".

Stuie · 16th Nov 2009, 12:52 AM

The fact I play bassoon. Literally, almost all the male woodwind players in Melbourne are gay. One orchestra I was in, all the male woodwind players were gay except one and the guy I'm going out with also plays bassoon.

Other than that, I guess I'm not super-stereotypical. Maybe a few little things like the wild gesticulation at times, but I'm not particularly campy.

Just Adam · 16th Nov 2009, 12:56 AM

my tell hmm dunno really i dont like to fit stereotypes

but i suppose it would be not careing when my friend is all wow hot wwoman and im like meh.

14th Nov 2009, 08:43 PM	#1
J Schuelke Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: My Mom, and most friends Location: wisconsin Age: 23 Posts: 190 Join Date: Apr 2008	your tell A little while ago I was walking through a mall just hanging out with some friends, and while they were in a store, I decided to just people watch. Of course I was eyeing up the hot guys that passed by every once in awhile. Then one of my gal pals comes up and asks if i found my mate yet, lol. I said no, and that I was looking for subtle hints that might tip me off a little bit. How the way they are dressed or maybe body language. In poker terms it would be called a tell. So her next question caught me off guard a little bit. She asked, "so what's your tell?" And honestly I couldn't really think of one. I'm neither femme or really butch, just inbetween. Since then I was kinda curios if anyone has an obvious tell or have seen one. __________________ Every day should be gay pride day.

14th Nov 2009, 09:06 PM	#2
71390S Guest Posts: n/a	Re: your tell You mean if we come off as obviously GLBT?

14th Nov 2009, 09:32 PM	#3
J Schuelke Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: My Mom, and most friends Location: wisconsin Age: 23 Posts: 190 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: your tell Yeah, that's what I mean. lol failed to mention that part. __________________ Every day should be gay pride day.

15th Nov 2009, 02:48 AM	#4
Silvermark Unsure about being sure Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: No longer labelled. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Southampton Age: 19 Posts: 100 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: your tell Not sure if it truly classes as a tell; but I play with my hair far too much. Always trying to make sure it looks good and stuff... Though if anyone asked me if I was Bi or gay; especially someone I liked; I'd probably get all flustered and stupid... Something which has given me away about certain things many a time.

15th Nov 2009, 02:57 AM	#5
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,562 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: your tell Apparently I have a bounce in my step, though that could be from just my happy-go-lucky attitude XD __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

15th Nov 2009, 04:57 AM	#6
Jeimuzu Wreck Cognition Full Member Gender: Heterogametic Orientation: Rawr. Out Status: 99% out. Location: Middlesbrough Age: 23 Posts: 1,744 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: your tell I wear a few gay things, I'm getting more and more focussed on fashion, and I shag boys. __________________

15th Nov 2009, 05:14 AM	#7
Schu Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to whoever I can be bothered telling Location: Adelaide, Australia Age: 26 Posts: 105 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: your tell I've met the most astoundingly camp people that are completely straight. It's rather odd. I'm pretty sure I don't have a tell really, until you start talking to me about a subject that would give it away.

15th Nov 2009, 06:34 AM	#8
gaz83 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: your tell i dont have a tell either. infact i think its just my personality that makes people think im gay. i dont know why either.

15th Nov 2009, 08:13 AM	#9
HighintheClouds Well Met (Touché!) Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Tis only men I stare at. Out Status: I think rumours spread way too fast for my liking. Age: 21 Posts: 385 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: your tell I'm generally happy around people, very springy, and apparently my mannerisms have become more feminine. Plus, I listen to very bouncy music (Bottle It Up, anyone?). __________________ 希望, Hope, Espoir, Esperanza, Speranza All these words.. All one meaning... We're all over the world. May we find this wherever we are.

15th Nov 2009, 10:24 AM	#11
Brandford Friendly Misanthrope Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: everyone that asks,my mom (i think) and my sister Location: Woodbridge, VA Age: 19 Posts: 6,656 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: your tell Apparently I walk like a girl and I have an involuntary habit of saying ew whenever someone says something sexual about a boy and a girl or if we are watching a tv show or movie and theres an intimate scene between a boy and a girl. Oh and when im around a boy I like ill wring my hands or wring something else in my hand. Once I was talking with a boy i liked and I kept wringing my sweater in my hands and almost ripped it in the process and i know he noticed because he was giggling __________________ "I find nothing more depressing than optimism." --Paul Fussell Last edited by Brandford; 15th Nov 2009 at 10:26 AM..

15th Nov 2009, 12:35 PM	#12
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,562 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: your tell Met this guy, fab hair, fab clothes, mannerisms of a gay guy including flicking the wrist at one point (not stereotyping but I know no straight guys who do that until maybe now), yet his facebook says interested in girls, and my friend tried hitting on the guy and nothing. So either he's not interested in my friend and has interested in women for a cover OR totally straight... __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

15th Nov 2009, 12:51 PM	#13
SpinachWrap that queer poet with the hat Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Queer Posts: 79 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: your tell I need to get myself a tell. No one has ever figured it out without me telling them.

15th Nov 2009, 02:55 PM	#14
71390S Guest Posts: n/a	Re: your tell I'm not super feminine but apparently I "look gay" or have a "gay aura" according to my friends.

15th Nov 2009, 09:59 PM	#17
guacj My favorite color is Rainbow! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Friends and immediate family Location: Ohio Age: 25 Posts: 150 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: your tell I dont know what mine is, but some of my friends said that they just knew. If I were to go to the mall with someone though they would surely know as soon as I would see a sale sign at express. I guess my tell would be my obsession with shoes and how I dress.

15th Nov 2009, 10:02 PM	#18
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: your tell (I'm not a dude, obviously lol) But I'm told that I swagger sometimes. I'm not drunk either. :P But I remember growing up and mom always told me: "You're doing it wrong! Walk like a lady". >.< I still dress in some femme clothing once in a while, but I can come across as dykey if I dress in more "guy" clothing due to my walk and take charge attitude. Oh and there's teh fact that I obviously check out chicks. lol I've been told by friends that "I'm so gay". __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

16th Nov 2009, 12:52 AM	#19
Stuie Hugs - $POA Full Member Gender: e^(πi) +1 = 0 Orientation: Schnoo Out Status: Moo Cow Location: Canberra, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 1,463 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: your tell The fact I play bassoon. Literally, almost all the male woodwind players in Melbourne are gay. One orchestra I was in, all the male woodwind players were gay except one and the guy I'm going out with also plays bassoon. Other than that, I guess I'm not super-stereotypical. Maybe a few little things like the wild gesticulation at times, but I'm not particularly campy. __________________ STRAAAAAAAAAAAWURUWERT AND THE LESBIANS! MADDATRON3000X's (Maddy) Fag Hag Loves Pauline in the form of the equation f(x): (-∞,2) -> R, 2^-x

16th Nov 2009, 12:56 AM	#20
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: your tell my tell hmm dunno really i dont like to fit stereotypes but i suppose it would be not careing when my friend is all wow hot wwoman and im like meh. __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.