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pokeypanda · 17th Nov 2009, 10:24 AM

I’m writing a paper on gay bashing and just wanted to use some personal experiences. Can you tell me about a time you were every discriminated against for being gay, weather it be in public or private by a friend or stranger. Any type of story will work

Thanks in advance

gemerency · 17th Nov 2009, 10:33 AM

well. My freinds neighbor is now a pretty good freind of mine, but when he found out i was gay he started ranting endlessly about how wrong it was and how god forbids it, ect. ect. His religion pretty much dominated his thoughts until I told him to pay attention to reality and see things from a normal point of view.

he still won't sit next to me but now we can chillax and play video games, talk and joke around.

btw this is the most grammaticly errored message i've ever sent >.<

Silvermark · 17th Nov 2009, 10:44 AM

Grammar is for exams. This is the internet.

As for gay bashing? No actual personal experiences, since I managed to not realise I was bisexual until college (High-school?)
But my friend came out as being gay during Secondary school (Middle school?) and was teased and insulted and laughed at for the next two years. But he never cared about it, ever.
To this day, he still doesn't give a **** what anyone else thinks of his sexuality.

RaeofLite · 17th Nov 2009, 11:00 AM

Experiences I've had:
Mother telling me it's horrible, wrong, and I'm going to hell. That it's disgusting and why would i want to be with a woman? As if it's a choice... (Though this might be because she's partialy scared for me and she still denies to herself that her "otherwise awesome daughter" is gay.

).

-Had things thrown out of car windows at me as they sped past and insults such as dyke and lesbian thrown out of the same cars.

-Had a guy come up to me at work asking if I had a boyfriend. In seriously CLOSE proximity as if he was ready to unbutton his pants... I lied in this case because I was scared. I told him I had a huge boyfriend who was a nightclub bouncer and that we loved each other very much.

And this isn't so much gaybashing but lack of undersatnding:
-Guy: "Was our sex not good? Did I not do well? I was told I was good in bed.."

-Another guy: "Didn't you have bfs in the past? ...So why did you change?" Then I had to explain denial on my part for several years as I pieced it together.

Étoile · 17th Nov 2009, 03:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Silvermark

Grammar is for exams. This is the internet.

As a member of the Global Grammar Police Association, I'll have to charge you with a fine of $100 for careless speech.

17th Nov 2009, 03:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Étoile

Quote:

Originally Posted by Silvermark

Grammar is for exams. This is the internet.

As a member of the Global Grammar Police Association, I'll have to charge you with a fine of $100 for careless speech.

And as resident Grammar Nazi, I will be liberating that $100 from you when you receive it.

Anywho, the extent of my gay bashing experiences is being called "fag" or "queer." I've had a pretty good time of it, really.

Silvermark · 17th Nov 2009, 03:17 PM

Oh, and I'm also a Grammar Nazi; I was just kidding about the grammar.
I should charge him for using smilies without a license.

Back to topic?
One of my old-old-friends back from before I moved and crap (Long story, basically other part of the country), he came out as gay and almost got stabbed. Luckily he moved school soon after...

**Lexington** · 17th Nov 2009, 04:09 PM

39, and haven't had much more than random people calling me "faggot". Which simply means they're good at gay identification, actually.

And I actually read the thread title as "Gay Bashing...I Need Personal Experience". And I couldn't decide if that meant "I need experience in bashing gays" or "I need experience getting bashed since I'm gay. Neither sounded all that pleasant...

Lex

littledinosaurs · 17th Nov 2009, 04:42 PM

Not that is really gay Bashing but today i had a rather odd experience.

There was a guy protesting (sorta) against the Boston State House and he was saying things (nothing of real importance to gays, what he said is a whole different story) But this other guy came by and was like (to paraphrase) "Yeah, that place is the real enemy! They taxes us do death, let fags marry, but they'll fucking fine you for smoking a goddamn cigarette on the T" and it was just an odd experience since i've never actually really encountered a situation like that.
I don't know if that's what you wanted, but it is what it is.

summersforecast · 17th Nov 2009, 06:48 PM

Gay bashing hmmm, let me think about it. The day before yesterday some kid yelled "I hate rainbows" at me and kept walking :/? My school is wicked homophobic

AtomicCafe · 17th Nov 2009, 08:36 PM

This is what I get for working with LGBT organizations. xD

- I've had "FAGGOT" taped to my door several times, as well as any gay-related posters or stickers ripped down.
- While working on a passive education piece with my group, a girl came up and spat on me, then yelled at me about this and that in the Bible.
- I was a victim of child abuse for a year after coming out.

There have been tons of tiny events all over. Been called the usual names more times than I can count, but I suppose those are the big three that pop out at me.

GhostDog · 17th Nov 2009, 08:53 PM

I honestly couldn't quite hear what this guy was saying, but I was walking to a restaurant with a female friend of mine, and a guy drove by and it sounded like he yelled, "Lesbians! Get outta my city!"

But my brain interprets any word that sounds like "lesbian" as "lesbian", so, it may be that he was just... drunk and yelling things? I don't know. I definitely heard "Get outta my city". But by and large, nobody's given me any crap for it.

... Though that could be because I've only told people who I know won't care and haven't walked down the street holding hands with a girl or anything!

**Lexington** · 18th Nov 2009, 11:06 PM

>>>I don't know. I definitely heard "Get outta my city"

Oh, I love that one. "Get out of MY city." Well, Jesus Christ on a bike, show me where Homo City is and I'll move there in a heartbeat. That's a city with stunning houses, killer boutiques, a speciality cheese shop on every corner, and a demeanor that puts the happy back in gay.

...and the lesbians.

Lex

RaeofLite · 18th Nov 2009, 11:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

>>>I don't know. I definitely heard "Get outta my city"

Oh, I love that one. "Get out of MY city." Well, Jesus Christ on a bike, show me where Homo City is and I'll move there in a heartbeat. That's a city with stunning houses, killer boutiques, a speciality cheese shop on every corner, and a demeanor that puts the happy back in gay.

...and the lesbians.

Lex

YES! *throws her duffel in the back of Lex's car* Let's go!!

i need help · 18th Nov 2009, 11:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lexington

"I need experience in bashing gays" or "I need experience getting bashed since I'm gay."

i felt the same way...

katie · 19th Nov 2009, 12:23 AM

I've had a lot of verbal abuse from my mom, since I came out to her; she called me and my gf 'filth' and 'scum', she's slapped me a couple of times, when i get back from seeing my gf, she makes a big deal about getting to know my younger sister's boyfriend, then didnt let me talk about my gf...does this help?
oh yh...and while i was living with them, i wasnt allowed to go on ec on the home computer. why? they didnt want me 'contaminating' it!!!

17th Nov 2009, 10:24 AM	#1
pokeypanda EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Northern Ohio Posts: 273 Join Date: Feb 2009	Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences I’m writing a paper on gay bashing and just wanted to use some personal experiences. Can you tell me about a time you were every discriminated against for being gay, weather it be in public or private by a friend or stranger. Any type of story will work Thanks in advance __________________ Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail! Ralph W. Emerson

17th Nov 2009, 10:33 AM	#2
gemerency high priest of procrastinationism Full Member Gender: i has dangly bits Orientation: 4/6 of kinsey scale Out Status: mom,sister,grandma other gay freinds Location: Alamosa, Colorado Age: 20 Posts: 1,376 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences well. My freinds neighbor is now a pretty good freind of mine, but when he found out i was gay he started ranting endlessly about how wrong it was and how god forbids it, ect. ect. His religion pretty much dominated his thoughts until I told him to pay attention to reality and see things from a normal point of view. he still won't sit next to me but now we can chillax and play video games, talk and joke around. btw this is the most grammaticly errored message i've ever sent >.< __________________ Bite me Lady Grey! Bowerstone is all mine now!!! Muahahahahaha

17th Nov 2009, 10:44 AM	#3
Silvermark Unsure about being sure Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: No longer labelled. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Southampton Age: 19 Posts: 100 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences Grammar is for exams. This is the internet. As for gay bashing? No actual personal experiences, since I managed to not realise I was bisexual until college (High-school?) But my friend came out as being gay during Secondary school (Middle school?) and was teased and insulted and laughed at for the next two years. But he never cared about it, ever. To this day, he still doesn't give a **** what anyone else thinks of his sexuality.

17th Nov 2009, 11:00 AM	#4
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences Experiences I've had: Mother telling me it's horrible, wrong, and I'm going to hell. That it's disgusting and why would i want to be with a woman? As if it's a choice... (Though this might be because she's partialy scared for me and she still denies to herself that her "otherwise awesome daughter" is gay. ). -Had things thrown out of car windows at me as they sped past and insults such as dyke and lesbian thrown out of the same cars. -Had a guy come up to me at work asking if I had a boyfriend. In seriously CLOSE proximity as if he was ready to unbutton his pants... I lied in this case because I was scared. I told him I had a huge boyfriend who was a nightclub bouncer and that we loved each other very much. And this isn't so much gaybashing but lack of undersatnding: -Guy: "Was our sex not good? Did I not do well? I was told I was good in bed.." -Another guy: "Didn't you have bfs in the past? ...So why did you change?" Then I had to explain denial on my part for several years as I pieced it together. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

17th Nov 2009, 03:17 PM	#7
Silvermark Unsure about being sure Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: No longer labelled. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Southampton Age: 19 Posts: 100 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences Oh, and I'm also a Grammar Nazi; I was just kidding about the grammar. I should charge him for using smilies without a license. Back to topic? One of my old-old-friends back from before I moved and crap (Long story, basically other part of the country), he came out as gay and almost got stabbed. Luckily he moved school soon after...

17th Nov 2009, 04:09 PM	#8
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences 39, and haven't had much more than random people calling me "faggot". Which simply means they're good at gay identification, actually. And I actually read the thread title as "Gay Bashing...I Need Personal Experience". And I couldn't decide if that meant "I need experience in bashing gays" or "I need experience getting bashed since I'm gay. Neither sounded all that pleasant... Lex

17th Nov 2009, 04:42 PM	#9
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences Not that is really gay Bashing but today i had a rather odd experience. There was a guy protesting (sorta) against the Boston State House and he was saying things (nothing of real importance to gays, what he said is a whole different story) But this other guy came by and was like (to paraphrase) "Yeah, that place is the real enemy! They taxes us do death, let fags marry, but they'll fucking fine you for smoking a goddamn cigarette on the T" and it was just an odd experience since i've never actually really encountered a situation like that. I don't know if that's what you wanted, but it is what it is. __________________ Âllo Là

17th Nov 2009, 06:48 PM	#10
summersforecast EC Addict Full Member Gender: Carl Orientation: I like dudes and crazy chicks(mostly dudes) Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Johnson City Age: 18 Posts: 777 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences Gay bashing hmmm, let me think about it. The day before yesterday some kid yelled "I hate rainbows" at me and kept walking :/? My school is wicked homophobic __________________ meh..

17th Nov 2009, 08:36 PM	#11
AtomicCafe Gay by Day, Dyke by Night Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Asexual Lesbian Out Status: Out, Loud, and Proud Location: Tucson, AZ Age: 19 Posts: 208 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences This is what I get for working with LGBT organizations. xD - I've had "FAGGOT" taped to my door several times, as well as any gay-related posters or stickers ripped down. - While working on a passive education piece with my group, a girl came up and spat on me, then yelled at me about this and that in the Bible. - I was a victim of child abuse for a year after coming out. There have been tons of tiny events all over. Been called the usual names more times than I can count, but I suppose those are the big three that pop out at me. __________________ That child has several options: staying in the closet, suicide. And then one day, that child might open up the paper and it says, "Homosexual Elected in San Francisco." - Harvey Milk

17th Nov 2009, 08:53 PM	#12
GhostDog is Spartacus. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: MAGICAL. Out Status: The hiiills are aliiive with the sound of muuusic! Location: DFW area, Texas Age: 24 Posts: 2,503 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences I honestly couldn't quite hear what this guy was saying, but I was walking to a restaurant with a female friend of mine, and a guy drove by and it sounded like he yelled, "Lesbians! Get outta my city!" But my brain interprets any word that sounds like "lesbian" as "lesbian", so, it may be that he was just... drunk and yelling things? I don't know. I definitely heard "Get outta my city". But by and large, nobody's given me any crap for it. ... Though that could be because I've only told people who I know won't care and haven't walked down the street holding hands with a girl or anything! __________________ <3 Kirah, who may or may not be made of delicious candy (and the lesbians)

18th Nov 2009, 11:06 PM	#13
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences >>>I don't know. I definitely heard "Get outta my city" Oh, I love that one. "Get out of MY city." Well, Jesus Christ on a bike, show me where Homo City is and I'll move there in a heartbeat. That's a city with stunning houses, killer boutiques, a speciality cheese shop on every corner, and a demeanor that puts the happy back in gay. ...and the lesbians. Lex

19th Nov 2009, 12:23 AM	#16
katie Just your average starving actress Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: only some family members don't know Location: Wolverhampton, UK Age: 21 Posts: 251 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Gay Bashing…I need personal experiences I've had a lot of verbal abuse from my mom, since I came out to her; she called me and my gf 'filth' and 'scum', she's slapped me a couple of times, when i get back from seeing my gf, she makes a big deal about getting to know my younger sister's boyfriend, then didnt let me talk about my gf...does this help? oh yh...and while i was living with them, i wasnt allowed to go on ec on the home computer. why? they didnt want me 'contaminating' it!!! __________________ "Come on: Gentle my lord, sleek o'ver your rugged looks; Be bright an jovial among your guests to-night" (Macbeth, Act3, Scene2, William Shakespeare)

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