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25th Nov 2009, 09:26 PM

Anyway have any of you guys thought on what will happen to you when you are old? That is when become old and grey. What can you see yourself doing then? Do you think their is a life for old gay people in the gay world?

Pseudojim · 25th Nov 2009, 09:41 PM

Hopefully still drinking, doing drugs, having sex, and rocking and rolling!!!

I don't plan to settle down if that's what you mean. But i don't see why life for a gay old person should be that different from that of a straight old person

GoBabyGoGo · 25th Nov 2009, 10:47 PM

i totally plan on settling down with a guy i love and who loves me back

RaeofLite · 26th Nov 2009, 12:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Polyamorous

i totally plan on settling down with a guy i love and who loves me back

This. Only... with a woman of course.

I don't know how old I'll be but if she comes around and it's right (and I hopefully earn a decent living), I know it'll happen.

Nitro · 26th Nov 2009, 12:54 AM

When I'm old enough to be excused for weird behavior, I hope to bring out a number of jokes that are too bad or weird to be excused at my age. For example, when I shake a person's hand I plan to keep on holding and just start laughing.

**Chip** · 26th Nov 2009, 04:52 AM

What about those of us here who *are* old and grey?

Contrary to popular belief, life as a gay man (or lesbian) does not end at 30, 40, 50, or even 60 or 70. I know a number of older guys who are very active -- traveling, backpacking, doing social activities, some who work full time doing things for the community, such as volunteering or working part time at various gay/lesbian centers, etc. Some are single, some have been in relationships for 20+ years. Many have large groups of friends that they do lots of things with.

In short, for many people, there's not a whole lot of difference between being 25 and being 55 or 65.

Just Adam · 26th Nov 2009, 05:05 AM

depends if you believe in getting old...

starfish · 26th Nov 2009, 05:50 AM

I honestly don't think my life will all that different when I have in my 70's. I might move a little slower, and I may be able to forecast the weather using my hip, but I don't see much else changing in my life.

shorty · 26th Nov 2009, 05:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Chip

What about those of us here who *are* old and grey?

Contrary to popular belief, life as a gay man (or lesbian) does not end at 30, 40, 50, or even 60 or 70. I know a number of older guys who are very active -- traveling, backpacking, doing social activities, some who work full time doing things for the community, such as volunteering or working part time at various gay/lesbian centers, etc. Some are single, some have been in relationships for 20+ years. Many have large groups of friends that they do lots of things with.

In short, for many people, there's not a whole lot of difference between being 25 and being 55 or 65.

I agree with this. As i'm getting pretty damn old now, I wonder what i'll be like in say twenty years. But the funny thing is, that i'm still the silly guy I was when I was 18. Sure I have more life experience, but I still have the same silly sense of humour, generally good outlook on life and childish traits I had then. Its just as funny now when I laugh at farts that it was when I was a teenager. (ok, maybe i'm a bit too childish for a 36 year old

)

I hope to basically be the same person I am now, but hopefully with a partner or at least a great group of friends when I grow old, and still just enjoy life.

**EM68** · 26th Nov 2009, 06:07 AM

I plan to live my life to the fullest. I spent 30+ years suppressing my true self. I have a lot of making up to do.

Hopefully I will be with my bf for a long, long time.

starfish · 26th Nov 2009, 06:16 AM

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Originally Posted by shorty

... Its just as funny now when I laugh at farts that it was when I was a teenager. (ok, maybe i'm a bit too childish for a 36 year old

) ....

I have a friend who is 65 and he says that if you haven't grown up by 50 you don't have to.

-Michael- · 26th Nov 2009, 06:18 AM

It's simple.

Become a vampire.

25th Nov 2009, 09:26 PM	#1
dude99 Guest Posts: n/a	getting old Anyway have any of you guys thought on what will happen to you when you are old? That is when become old and grey. What can you see yourself doing then? Do you think their is a life for old gay people in the gay world?

25th Nov 2009, 09:41 PM	#2
Pseudojim Part robot Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi - Kinsey 2ish Out Status: All but family Location: Australia Age: 27 Posts: 2,154 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: getting old Hopefully still drinking, doing drugs, having sex, and rocking and rolling!!! I don't plan to settle down if that's what you mean. But i don't see why life for a gay old person should be that different from that of a straight old person

25th Nov 2009, 10:47 PM	#3
GoBabyGoGo Music Nerd. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 99% Location: Sydney, Australia Age: 20 Posts: 433 Join Date: May 2007	Re: getting old i totally plan on settling down with a guy i love and who loves me back __________________ "If I were you, I'd have sex with me!"

26th Nov 2009, 12:54 AM	#5
Nitro Side effects may include AAAAAAAAA! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay but curious Out Status: A few people Location: Canada Age: 23 Posts: 935 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: getting old When I'm old enough to be excused for weird behavior, I hope to bring out a number of jokes that are too bad or weird to be excused at my age. For example, when I shake a person's hand I plan to keep on holding and just start laughing. __________________ Voici mon secret. Il est très simple: on ne voit bien qu'avec le coeur. L'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux. Le renard - Le Petit Prince

26th Nov 2009, 04:52 AM	#6
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 5,576 Join Date: May 2008	Re: getting old What about those of us here who are old and grey? Contrary to popular belief, life as a gay man (or lesbian) does not end at 30, 40, 50, or even 60 or 70. I know a number of older guys who are very active -- traveling, backpacking, doing social activities, some who work full time doing things for the community, such as volunteering or working part time at various gay/lesbian centers, etc. Some are single, some have been in relationships for 20+ years. Many have large groups of friends that they do lots of things with. In short, for many people, there's not a whole lot of difference between being 25 and being 55 or 65.

26th Nov 2009, 05:05 AM	#7
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: getting old depends if you believe in getting old... __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

26th Nov 2009, 05:50 AM	#8
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: getting old I honestly don't think my life will all that different when I have in my 70's. I might move a little slower, and I may be able to forecast the weather using my hip, but I don't see much else changing in my life. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

26th Nov 2009, 06:07 AM	#10
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: getting old I plan to live my life to the fullest. I spent 30+ years suppressing my true self. I have a lot of making up to do. Hopefully I will be with my bf for a long, long time. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

26th Nov 2009, 06:18 AM	#12
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,199 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: getting old It's simple. Become a vampire.