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Old 26th Nov 2009, 06:15 AM   #1
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Default Woah. Death can make people think now?

Okay so last Monday there was a funeral for an old school friend.

No-on really spoke to him, he stuck to himself mostly but I used to talk to him a bit.
Mostly during P.E.

Obviously he died recently and all my old school friends took it pretty hard.
17.
I guess it made us all think about how short life can be.

So my point of this

An old school... acquaintance just started speaking to me.
It was only the other month when he tried to cause me grief over being gay.
It didn't bother me of course.
And his plans turned sour as his friends genuinely didn't care i was and started talking to me about it.


But now he just asked me if i'm really going out with 'that lad'
I answered yes:

Ste
not like its got nowt to do with me im not judging or owt buh r u actaully going out with that lad?
14:08Michael
yeah
14:08Ste
i wish u happiness
14:08Michael
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thank you mr blogg
14:09Ste
ya orit its your live n seen as wht happend with josh ya never no when its guna end so might aswell be happy

He's actually genuine about it.
And he's being at the very least civil with me.

It's weird.
And he does have a point.
Life is too short to not be happy.
you never know when it's going to end.
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Old 26th Nov 2009, 07:10 AM   #2
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Default Re: Woah. Death can make people think now?

Nothing like having one of your peers dying to make you realise how life is to be cherished. As horrible as it is that it took a friends passing to make your friend appreciate it, but its good all the same. Don't hold a grudge and try and reconnect with him if he has had a change of heart.
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Old 26th Nov 2009, 08:44 AM   #3
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Default Re: Woah. Death can make people think now?

Having someone you know die usually does this. People start realizing that life is fragile, and we don't have an unlimited time here to do what we want. So people tend to start looking at each other in a new light, and reaching out a bit. It's terrible that it takes something like a death to do this, but it is one of the very few bright spots in such a tragedy.

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Old 26th Nov 2009, 09:01 AM   #4
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Default Re: Woah. Death can make people think now?

I had 4 people within the school system die while I was in high school. two substitute teacher and two students.

Additionally in my last year of elementary school, grade 6 my grandfather died, in grade 9 my father died, in grade 11 my uncle died, and a little over a year ago my grandmother died.

so yeah i guess you could say I get what you mean. I've lost too many people.
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Old 26th Nov 2009, 08:13 PM   #5
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Im wearing hte bracelt for a friend of mine who died 9 4 09. car accident. Danielle Rae cheziwick.
August. 27 My neighbors shot and killed eachother.
Sept--4---09/5 09 [they pulled her out of the car after 12..so they called in the 5th but i know it was the 4th] after our football game, Danielles Accident at 10:50Pm
On october 4
another kid from my school died
october 12 another car accident killed three alumni in hte area
november 1 My friend alex finds out she has Luekemia(splled wrong i think)
november 5 a teacher in the area
november 7 a fire kills 2 same area
november 19 Rob Heard lost his battle with Luekemia



Idk why but its some terrible times.
be careful and safe everyone


cheer up.
"The body is temporary and fueled by engery, engery the controls our consceince and our heart and how we think and feel; the soul[?], and energy. Energy can not be destroy, only moved and transformed."

Be happy for them moving on, we greive becuase we miss and fear for them. And we dont know where they are but they are not here in this negative world, chances are the next ones better.

I like this theory.
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Old 26th Nov 2009, 09:13 PM   #6
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Default Re: Woah. Death can make people think now?

It's a shame it seems to have taken a death to do it, but it sounds like he's done a little growing up. I certainly hope so.
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