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Goliath · 4th Dec 2009, 05:36 AM

What's the best recent change that has changed your life for the better or made you feel better as a person?

Mine was starting to live by the golden rule; it has changed everything for me (I'm an atheist but this philosophy works for me).

Tell us about your changes and how we can apply them to make the world a better place.

**Lexington** · 4th Dec 2009, 07:26 AM

On September 30th, I weighed 245 lbs.
This morning, I weighed 213.

Lex

Gaetan · 4th Dec 2009, 10:58 AM

Since I've come out to myself and, and my best friend, I have tried very hard to be more confident. So far, it has worked. I am more outgoing and in general happier with myself because of it all.

We'll see how well I do...I have a presentation before a class next week. My hope is to get through it without stuttering or saying "umm..." very much.

malachite · 5th Dec 2009, 04:47 AM

I started doing Yoga, oh my god does my back feel great now!

sexyalex · 5th Dec 2009, 05:40 AM

I got over my bf and now my friends tell me I look more attractive without even knowing my ex and I even broke up.
For all they knew, I was stressing. And ever since I got that out the way, my acnes are clearing up, I am getting school work done and I don't cry myself to sleep everynight anymore.

Yay me!

Katherine · 5th Dec 2009, 07:53 AM

The fact that I've started to come out of my shell and not be so afraid of meeting new people.

calstad · 5th Dec 2009, 03:00 PM

Over the past year I have become alot more physically and mentally fit.
Plus I recently came out to the first person and that added a new sense of freedom to the mix.

Im so ready to unleash myself on the world.
Free from self doubt and fear of rejection.

Greggers · 5th Dec 2009, 05:37 PM

I deleted someone off facebook who was a large cause of me attempting suicide many years ago, and i dont care what our 100 mutual "friends" think about it one. tiny. bit.

5th Dec 2009, 07:40 PM

The fact that I met the most wonderful guy in the world. He really makes me the happiest person in the world.

Phantasma · 5th Dec 2009, 07:47 PM

I realized that I deserved more than I was allowing myself to have. I dumped all the friends and hangers-on that were pulling me down and I chose to be an in environment where I am more than just the punchline of a joke.

Cracked Actor · 5th Dec 2009, 08:13 PM

I faced an obstacle that made me appreciate my life, and others'.

Black Cat · 5th Dec 2009, 08:21 PM

I’ve recently realized and accepted that I am worth more than I previously thought. I don’t deserve some of what’s gone on in my life, and it is not my fault.

I also think my reaffirmation in my faith in God is a really good recent change.

alusernamesgone · 5th Dec 2009, 09:27 PM

im more in control than i used to be and i do deserve better,
Ive ditched the so-called friends who make me feel like shit, including my "best friend",

Synth177 · 5th Dec 2009, 10:10 PM

I don't really know because everything in general has gotten better for me lately. I used to not care if I lived or died (I wasn't really suicidal but a bit depressed) but for the first time in a long time I really felt happy to be alive. Ironically, I am listening to Getting Better by the Beatles as I type this.

IamAninja · 5th Dec 2009, 10:30 PM

I've realized that I only have control over myself. And that if I spend more time fixing other peoples problems and not my own, I'll never be a happy person.

Ander Blue · 5th Dec 2009, 10:41 PM

I've accepted that I have an eating disorder, and now I'm trying to address it in a way that will allow me to be healthy

JB1986 · 5th Dec 2009, 10:58 PM

Well, I guess giving upreligion has been positive for me. It's allowed me to use my brain a little more, and think for myself a little more. I'm also giving myself more credit for the good things that happen in my life (not in a vain way, but just doing a little more mental "pats on the back" so to speak, if I'm making any sense at all.)

Also, right after I was done coming out to my mother were amazing. I was relieved, extatic that I'd actually had the nerve to do it, and I just didn't know what to do but start laughingin a weird combination or excitement and relief. It probably doesn't make sense that i started laughing, but I just didn't know what else to do at the time.

Lychee · 6th Dec 2009, 12:24 AM

I have finally realised just how easy it is to eat healthily and lose weight, and have practically cut out all bread products from my diet, as well as sugary drinks and all the other crap I used to eat all the time. I am now starting to like my body.

Gumtree · 6th Dec 2009, 05:38 AM

That you can't be close minded to the close minded.

Learning to accept those that don't accept, grows acceptance.

SRSLYMARK · 6th Dec 2009, 11:56 AM

Ending my year-long psychologically abusive relationship. I'm still hurting, but I see a bright future ahead of me because I was finally able to stand up to him.

4th Dec 2009, 05:36 AM	#1
Goliath **** of the Gargoyles Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Reykjavík Posts: 74 Join Date:** Nov 2008	What's your best recent change? What's the best recent change that has changed your life for the better or made you feel better as a person? Mine was starting to live by the golden rule; it has changed everything for me (I'm an atheist but this philosophy works for me). Tell us about your changes and how we can apply them to make the world a better place.

4th Dec 2009, 07:26 AM	#2
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: What's your best recent change? On September 30th, I weighed 245 lbs. This morning, I weighed 213. Lex

4th Dec 2009, 10:58 AM	#3
Gaetan DON'T TOUCH THE HAT! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Immediate Family and Friends Location: Idaho, USA Age: 25 Posts: 1,098 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: What's your best recent change? Since I've come out to myself and, and my best friend, I have tried very hard to be more confident. So far, it has worked. I am more outgoing and in general happier with myself because of it all. We'll see how well I do...I have a presentation before a class next week. My hope is to get through it without stuttering or saying "umm..." very much. __________________ Those who say it cannot be done, shouldn't interrupt the people doing it.

5th Dec 2009, 04:47 AM	#4
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: What's your best recent change? I started doing Yoga, oh my god does my back feel great now! __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

5th Dec 2009, 05:40 AM	#5
sexyalex Fame Monster copy No.2 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: attracted to anyone sexy Out Status: only my friends know. Location: Kingston Age: 20 Posts: 1,410 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: What's your best recent change? I got over my bf and now my friends tell me I look more attractive without even knowing my ex and I even broke up. For all they knew, I was stressing. And ever since I got that out the way, my acnes are clearing up, I am getting school work done and I don't cry myself to sleep everynight anymore. Yay me! __________________ I know that we are young and I know that you may love me, but I just can't be with you like this anymore. Alejandro.

5th Dec 2009, 07:53 AM	#6
Katherine Professional Cuddler Full Member Gender: 75% female Orientation: 110% gay Out Status: 98% out Location: The land of rednecks and pine trees (Georgia) Age: 19 Posts: 1,745 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: What's your best recent change? The fact that I've started to come out of my shell and not be so afraid of meeting new people. __________________ Overly emotional five-foot-tall vegetarian gamer girl who procrastinates way too much. Loves food, art, cats, and making people smile.

5th Dec 2009, 03:00 PM	#7
calstad lipgloss and lolipops Full Member Gender: boi Orientation: gots the gayness Out Status: dueces Location: the cold north Age: 25 Posts: 101 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: What's your best recent change? Over the past year I have become alot more physically and mentally fit. Plus I recently came out to the first person and that added a new sense of freedom to the mix. Im so ready to unleash myself on the world. Free from self doubt and fear of rejection. __________________ *"When the Power of Love overcomes the Love of Power the world will know peace." -Jimi Hendrix*

5th Dec 2009, 05:37 PM	#8
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: What's your best recent change? I deleted someone off facebook who was a large cause of me attempting suicide many years ago, and i dont care what our 100 mutual "friends" think about it one. tiny. bit. __________________ "It's a male duck."

5th Dec 2009, 07:40 PM	#9
jp xch Guest Posts: n/a	Re: What's your best recent change? The fact that I met the most wonderful guy in the world. He really makes me the happiest person in the world.

5th Dec 2009, 07:47 PM	#10
Phantasma EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: two people! Location: Winnipeg Age: 19 Posts: 983 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: What's your best recent change? I realized that I deserved more than I was allowing myself to have. I dumped all the friends and hangers-on that were pulling me down and I chose to be an in environment where I am more than just the punchline of a joke. __________________

5th Dec 2009, 08:13 PM	#11
Cracked Actor Sane? Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: So inside the closet I'm in the garage. Age: 16 Posts: 178 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: What's your best recent change? I faced an obstacle that made me appreciate my life, and others'. __________________ Ensemble pouvons conquérir le monde.

5th Dec 2009, 08:21 PM	#12
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: What's your best recent change? I’ve recently realized and accepted that I am worth more than I previously thought. I don’t deserve some of what’s gone on in my life, and it is not my fault. I also think my reaffirmation in my faith in God is a really good recent change. __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

5th Dec 2009, 09:27 PM	#13
alusernamesgone renee Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: whoever knows,knows. dont like it? your problem. Location: Perth, AUSTRALIA Age: 19 Posts: 60 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: What's your best recent change? im more in control than i used to be and i do deserve better, Ive ditched the so-called friends who make me feel like shit, including my "best friend",

5th Dec 2009, 10:10 PM	#14
Synth177 Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Posts: 107 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: What's your best recent change? I don't really know because everything in general has gotten better for me lately. I used to not care if I lived or died (I wasn't really suicidal but a bit depressed) but for the first time in a long time I really felt happy to be alive. Ironically, I am listening to Getting Better by the Beatles as I type this.

5th Dec 2009, 10:30 PM	#15
IamAninja Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Spotsylvania, Virginia Age: 17 Posts: 149 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: What's your best recent change? I've realized that I only have control over myself. And that if I spend more time fixing other peoples problems and not my own, I'll never be a happy person. __________________ The Mathemagician nodded knowingly and stroked his chin several times. “You’ll find,” he remarked gently, “that the only thing you can do easily is be wrong, and that’s hardly worth the effort.” Norton Juster, The Phantom Tollbooth

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