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isabella · 7th Dec 2009, 11:24 AM

My girlfriend and i have been dating for a while and we recently have been more toward each other at school and stuff. But the point that i am trying to make is. Do you think that it is ok or not ok for gay people to show one and another that they love each other public places.

fallendream · 7th Dec 2009, 11:28 AM

it doesnt make a difference really.

Aoifeee · 7th Dec 2009, 11:32 AM

100% ok

But it can attract haters :/ I would suggest doing whatever you feel comfortable with :P

Brandford · 7th Dec 2009, 11:52 AM

Of course it is, its not like you don't see a straight couple making out at almost every movie you go to. If its okay for them to do it, its okay for us to do it.

kramer362 · 7th Dec 2009, 11:58 AM

I personally don't choose to show pda because that's just how my personality is and I don't like attention. I don't have a problem with other people showing pda though, but it gets obnoxious if it looks like they're about to have sex, haha. And I don't believe in different standards based on sexuality.

Just Adam · 7th Dec 2009, 11:59 AM

i say do it especially if it makes them feel uncomfortable as i straight people get to do it and people dont say anything about that... nothing like shooting somebody down with the equality rant leaving them wide eyed and mouth wide open....

if people love each other then pda is fine...aslong as it only goes asfar as kissing holding hands and hugging any more its a bit ott lol...

Phantasma · 7th Dec 2009, 01:17 PM

Personally, I wouldn't do it because I don't like being a center of attention. However, I see nothing wrong with it. Straight people do it everywhere you look: movies, mall, restaurants, etc.

Greggers · 7th Dec 2009, 01:31 PM

I dont think i would be able to not show PDA. Really though, its not about the 'P' or the 'D' for me, its all about the affection. Im just a very emotional person. I need to let those emotions out. This means LOTS of affection. It would not matter where i was, i would be showing it

(Unless of course its an area that gay PDA's are frowned heavily upon. Im not so stupid as to do something that might end in gay bashing...)

GhostDog · 7th Dec 2009, 01:45 PM

If it won't get you hurt, absolutely show affection in public. <3 I don't think it's worth risking bodily harm in an unsafe area, but if it just makes people glare and mutter? Meh. Hell, if I'm in a room full of people glaring at me for holding hands with a lady, I'd probably just get more affectionate to spite them. I sure as hell wouldn't go, "Oh, sorry, my queerosity offends you, let me just hide it for your benefit."

I draw the line at, like, making out/feeling each other up where everyone can see you, but that goes for any couple. GET A ROOM. >:[

But holding hands, longing looks, smooches? D'aww. Right on, lovebirds, gay or straight or whatever else you may be! :3

Personally I love seeing same-sex couples holding hands, more than straight couples. Either is sweet, but if I see two guys or two girls walking together, I wanna shout, "WOO! GO YOU!" I'm obviously not biased. ;P

NickT · 7th Dec 2009, 01:52 PM

I wouldn't want to see any type of couples going at it, per se, but holding hands and pecking and just showing general attraction is just fine in my book.

Gin Uh Fur · 7th Dec 2009, 09:59 PM

there should be a limit to what is done in public. like full making out is weird. but some kisses and stuff are fine. if someone has a problem with it then thats their issue.

alusernamesgone · 7th Dec 2009, 10:57 PM

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Originally Posted by GhostDog

If it won't get you hurt, absolutely show affection in public. <3 I don't think it's worth risking bodily harm in an unsafe area, but if it just makes people glare and mutter? Meh. Hell, if I'm in a room full of people glaring at me for holding hands with a lady, I'd probably just get more affectionate to spite them. I sure as hell wouldn't go, "Oh, sorry, my queerosity offends you, let me just hide it for your benefit."

I draw the line at, like, making out/feeling each other up where everyone can see you, but that goes for any couple. GET A ROOM. >:[

But holding hands, longing looks, smooches? D'aww. Right on, lovebirds, gay or straight or whatever else you may be! :3

Personally I love seeing same-sex couples holding hands, more than straight couples. Either is sweet, but if I see two guys or two girls walking together, I wanna shout, "WOO! GO YOU!" I'm obviously not biased. ;P

totally agree!
you give good answers!

Steve · 7th Dec 2009, 10:58 PM

the question is not weather or not its ok but weather or not its smart!

RaeofLite · 7th Dec 2009, 11:50 PM

PDA that's fine for straight people: hugging, kissing (cheek and lips etc), holding hands, cuddling
PDA that is or should be fine for same sex couples: see above reference

However, both parties in the couple should be comfortable about it. If not, talk to her about it. Some people, gay or straight don't like PDA. (Which is sad in my opinion). If you've got love, show it.

However, be prepared to have people suddenly avert their attention to you, make remarks, possibly throw things at you, and have hate in their eyes etc if you do this in public. Some people don't understand. That doesn't mean we can't try and change it though.

xequar · 8th Dec 2009, 08:03 AM

As long as the naughty bits are covered, go for it. Beyond that, opt for privacy. My BF and I have both concluded that if someone doesn't like it, tough shit for them.

isabella · 11th Dec 2009, 11:25 AM

I am thanking everyone that has replyed at the post....me and my gf have took a good look at this and we have decided that we are going to show alittle more pda around our friends

jazzrawr · 11th Dec 2009, 12:10 PM

Yeah, of course it is. I'm a PDA type of person, so I tend to show affection with the girl I'm dating a lot, as long as she's okay with it.

Do whatever makes you happy, there's no reason it's not okay for gays if it's okay for straight people.

redsapphire · 11th Dec 2009, 12:44 PM

go for it, you will attract attention from people, supportive and haters, but if it feels right to you then who cares about them?

carrie90 · 11th Dec 2009, 03:35 PM

I can't help but show PDA, I don't see why straight people can hug and be close to the person they love but gay people can't

Pseudojim · 11th Dec 2009, 04:36 PM

i find it really cute when other people (gender of couple not important) express affection in public. i actually DO say "awwwww" and go all soft and gooey

but not too far.... there's a limit. Romantic kisses are that limit for me. Passionate kisses start making it a bit uncomfortable to watch

7th Dec 2009, 11:24 AM	#1
isabella Alone and depressed Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: IN HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! New York State Posts: 70 Join Date: Oct 2009	Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places My girlfriend and i have been dating for a while and we recently have been more toward each other at school and stuff. But the point that i am trying to make is. Do you think that it is ok or not ok for gay people to show one and another that they love each other public places. __________________ I'm alone in this dark world, Every time I turn around, I start to think about you, Every time someone says your name I wig out, Sometimes I wish that we met, Because all you have done to me, Is cause my life to be flushed down the toilet.

7th Dec 2009, 11:28 AM	#2
fallendream EC Addict Full Member Gender: manlyman, hwar! Orientation: i have a floppy wrist? Out Status: i left aslan... Age: 17 Posts: 945 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places it doesnt make a difference really.

7th Dec 2009, 11:32 AM	#3
Aoifeee Well Known Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lezbot! Out Status: I was never "in". I just don't like people knowing Location: Ireland Posts: 172 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places 100% ok But it can attract haters :/ I would suggest doing whatever you feel comfortable with :P

7th Dec 2009, 11:52 AM	#4
Brandford Friendly Misanthrope Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: everyone that asks,my mom (i think) and my sister Location: Woodbridge, VA Age: 19 Posts: 6,656 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places Of course it is, its not like you don't see a straight couple making out at almost every movie you go to. If its okay for them to do it, its okay for us to do it. __________________ "I find nothing more depressing than optimism." --Paul Fussell

7th Dec 2009, 11:58 AM	#5
kramer362 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: western new york Age: 26 Posts: 400 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places I personally don't choose to show pda because that's just how my personality is and I don't like attention. I don't have a problem with other people showing pda though, but it gets obnoxious if it looks like they're about to have sex, haha. And I don't believe in different standards based on sexuality.

7th Dec 2009, 11:59 AM	#6
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places i say do it especially if it makes them feel uncomfortable as i straight people get to do it and people dont say anything about that... nothing like shooting somebody down with the equality rant leaving them wide eyed and mouth wide open.... if people love each other then pda is fine...aslong as it only goes asfar as kissing holding hands and hugging any more its a bit ott lol... __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

7th Dec 2009, 01:17 PM	#7
Phantasma EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: two people! Location: Winnipeg Age: 19 Posts: 983 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places Personally, I wouldn't do it because I don't like being a center of attention. However, I see nothing wrong with it. Straight people do it everywhere you look: movies, mall, restaurants, etc. __________________

7th Dec 2009, 01:31 PM	#8
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places I dont think i would be able to not show PDA. Really though, its not about the 'P' or the 'D' for me, its all about the affection. Im just a very emotional person. I need to let those emotions out. This means LOTS of affection. It would not matter where i was, i would be showing it (Unless of course its an area that gay PDA's are frowned heavily upon. Im not so stupid as to do something that might end in gay bashing...) __________________ "It's a male duck."

7th Dec 2009, 01:45 PM	#9
GhostDog is Spartacus. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: MAGICAL. Out Status: The hiiills are aliiive with the sound of muuusic! Location: DFW area, Texas Age: 24 Posts: 2,503 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places If it won't get you hurt, absolutely show affection in public. <3 I don't think it's worth risking bodily harm in an unsafe area, but if it just makes people glare and mutter? Meh. Hell, if I'm in a room full of people glaring at me for holding hands with a lady, I'd probably just get more affectionate to spite them. I sure as hell wouldn't go, "Oh, sorry, my queerosity offends you, let me just hide it for your benefit." I draw the line at, like, making out/feeling each other up where everyone can see you, but that goes for any couple. GET A ROOM. >:[ But holding hands, longing looks, smooches? D'aww. Right on, lovebirds, gay or straight or whatever else you may be! :3 Personally I love seeing same-sex couples holding hands, more than straight couples. Either is sweet, but if I see two guys or two girls walking together, I wanna shout, "WOO! GO YOU!" I'm obviously not biased. ;P __________________ <3 Kirah, who may or may not be made of delicious candy (and the lesbians)

7th Dec 2009, 01:52 PM	#10
NickT Mr. Grammar Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Kentucky Posts: 985 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places I wouldn't want to see any type of couples going at it, per se, but holding hands and pecking and just showing general attraction is just fine in my book. __________________ Gay Pride!

7th Dec 2009, 09:59 PM	#11
Gin Uh Fur Banned Gender: Female Orientation: Heterosexual Lesbian Out Status: all the way out. Location: Virginia Age: 24 Posts: 406 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places there should be a limit to what is done in public. like full making out is weird. but some kisses and stuff are fine. if someone has a problem with it then thats their issue.

7th Dec 2009, 10:58 PM	#13
Steve EC's Soldier! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sargeant sexual Out Status: whoever asks Location: Born in australia, but now living some where else Age: 21 Posts: 2,273 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places the question is not weather or not its ok but weather or not its smart! __________________ Soldier " there is no room for that in my pocklet" commander " if there is room in your heart then there in your pocket" Soldier " i cant fit my gf in there" -r " have you tried ? until you try you dont know"

7th Dec 2009, 11:50 PM	#14
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places PDA that's fine for straight people: hugging, kissing (cheek and lips etc), holding hands, cuddling PDA that is or should be fine for same sex couples: see above reference However, both parties in the couple should be comfortable about it. If not, talk to her about it. Some people, gay or straight don't like PDA. (Which is sad in my opinion). If you've got love, show it. However, be prepared to have people suddenly avert their attention to you, make remarks, possibly throw things at you, and have hate in their eyes etc if you do this in public. Some people don't understand. That doesn't mean we can't try and change it though. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

8th Dec 2009, 08:03 AM	#15
xequar Diapered and collared! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I have "The Gay." :) Out Status: Loud and proud! Location: Detroit area, Michigan Age: 30 Posts: 1,746 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places As long as the naughty bits are covered, go for it. Beyond that, opt for privacy. My BF and I have both concluded that if someone doesn't like it, tough shit for them. __________________

11th Dec 2009, 11:25 AM	#16
isabella Alone and depressed Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: IN HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! New York State Posts: 70 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places I am thanking everyone that has replyed at the post....me and my gf have took a good look at this and we have decided that we are going to show alittle more pda around our friends __________________ I'm alone in this dark world, Every time I turn around, I start to think about you, Every time someone says your name I wig out, Sometimes I wish that we met, Because all you have done to me, Is cause my life to be flushed down the toilet.

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jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places Yeah, of course it is. I'm a PDA type of person, so I tend to show affection with the girl I'm dating a lot, as long as she's okay with it. Do whatever makes you happy, there's no reason it's not okay for gays if it's okay for straight people. __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

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redsapphire EC's resident witch Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Wow Mama Out Status: most except family Location: Bonny Lingland Age: 20 Posts: 877 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places go for it, you will attract attention from people, supportive and haters, but if it feels right to you then who cares about them? __________________ *Don't Bend, Don't Break, Baby Don't Back Down...*

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carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places I can't help but show PDA, I don't see why straight people can hug and be close to the person they love but gay people can't __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

11th Dec 2009, 04:36 PM	#20
Pseudojim Part robot Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi - Kinsey 2ish Out Status: All but family Location: Australia Age: 27 Posts: 2,154 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Girl Friends or Boyfriends equal or dont equal public places i find it really cute when other people (gender of couple not important) express affection in public. i actually DO say "awwwww" and go all soft and gooey but not too far.... there's a limit. Romantic kisses are that limit for me. Passionate kisses start making it a bit uncomfortable to watch