Being gay and studying.. - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

azrae1 · 18th Dec 2009, 11:52 PM

Hello ECers

!

So yes, as the title says.. has ever your sexual orientation ever affect your studying habits? is being gay reduces your performance level in your perparation for exams?
For example:

Does being gay, makes you unmotivated to do well in exams? Your social gay life isn't doing great so it affects your school/university performance?

It would be really interesting if one of the admis can make a voting poll on this, as I really dunno how to make one ^^; if so, the Poll should be with this shape

Question:
Has your sexual orientation affect you're studying/performance at school/university?

1) Yes (Out Person)
2) No (Out Person)

3) Yes (Closet Answer Only)
4) No (Closet Answer Only)

I guess this looks like a research report than a normal thread post >_>;

Shevanel · 18th Dec 2009, 11:56 PM

Put Up a Poll for you, dude

azrae1 · 18th Dec 2009, 11:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SurferDude420

Put Up a Poll for you, dude

Your the best dude

Courtneyyy · 18th Dec 2009, 11:58 PM

I think it's just my general lack of motivation that keeps me from studying. Nothing to do with girls.

Shevanel · 19th Dec 2009, 12:00 AM

Oh, and yeah, I seriously doubt a person's sexuality inhibits any study performance xD It's my own laziness and inability to study that causes me not to study xD

azrae1 · 19th Dec 2009, 12:01 AM

well; in my case.. i feel i am performing much less; due to my homophobic muslim/arab classmates.. i think u get the image :/

TroubledRyan · 19th Dec 2009, 12:11 AM

Keeping everything bottled makes alot of stess,it really eats at me academicaly

Gaetan · 19th Dec 2009, 01:07 AM

Was kinda funny timing...me finally coming out to myself in my last semester...Most classes it didn't matter as I could actually pay attention. But, in one of my boring classes I spent most of my time mulling over the gayness. (Didn't help that the guy in front of me was especially hot!)

In other classes, it just made me jump out of my skin at any mention of homosexuality or anything even slightly related to it.

Greggers · 19th Dec 2009, 02:41 AM

Well, Im out to my favorite english prof. It definitely helps my work ethic in her class. I have always tended to soar in classes with a teacher i like. And the same goes for ones i like. I almost failed one computer class that i was actually really good at because my teacher was so...dry. But thats not so much to do with being out, thats just one of the reasons i like her.

But yea, being out in general has not changed much of anything for me school wise. The two things dont directly affect each other. My work habits have gotten better with age, and that kind of mirrors my coming out, but i think thats a coincidence.

redsapphire · 19th Dec 2009, 04:38 AM

I put no, and I had to put closet answer cause I'm not out to everyone at school yet.

xballetxbeautyx · 19th Dec 2009, 06:03 AM

You know what? I wonder if that could be it. I've been semi-out since seventh grade but it wasn't til the middle of this semester that people started having a problem with it (or at least making the problem known). This is also the first time I haven't got straight A's. I don't know if there's a connection, but there could be.

Swamp56 · 19th Dec 2009, 06:46 AM

Not at all.

19th Dec 2009, 06:49 AM

I don't think being gay has anything to do with my study habits. I would say if anything, being gay makes me want to be sure and do better work than everyone else.

19th Dec 2009, 08:45 AM

If your mind is preoccupied worrying about your sexuality and what everyone thinks about it, or how it's going to affect your future or anything along those lines I can guarantee it will effect your performance. To do anything at your best your mind needs to be focused on the task at hand. Not running around worrying about something else. I can honestly say it affected me greatly my 2nd year of university and somewhat this year at tech school. However accepting myself and letting others know about what I've been going through has helped me clear my head and enabled me to be more focused on school and any task at hand generally.

GhostDog · 19th Dec 2009, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Confusicus

If your mind is preoccupied worrying about your sexuality and what everyone thinks about it, or how it's going to affect your future or anything along those lines I can guarantee it will effect your performance. To do anything at your best your mind needs to be focused on the task at hand. Not running around worrying about something else. I can honestly say it affected me greatly my 2nd year of university and somewhat this year at tech school. However accepting myself and letting others know about what I've been going through has helped me clear my head and enabled me to be more focused on school and any task at hand generally.

Yeah, I agree with this. Spring semester, my school performance definitely suffered, and I know there were patches of poor performance before that whenever I was particularly preoccupied with it. I knew my classes were important but I had trouble thinking about anything other than, "Do I really like girls that way? Am I bisexual? Am I a lesbian? Do I just want to be those girls, or be friends with them, or do I actually want to be with them? ... Oh god I'm going to have to tell my parents." And that sort of thing. And it distracted me big time.

Once I looked myself in the mirror and said, "I'm queer," and knew it to be true and accepted it and felt that giddy, overwhelming happiness of feeling right? Yeah, totally stopped having problems with being preoccupied with questioning my sexuality in class. =P I started this semester out to myself and my family and I had a far, far better time.

So being queer didn't affect my study habits, but questioning myself did!

iwanttobelieve · 19th Dec 2009, 09:39 AM

my gay-ness causes me to day dream about hot guys instead of talking, studying, thinking, contributing lol the list goes on...

RaeofLite · 19th Dec 2009, 10:31 AM

I'm out, and yes, my performance has suffered. Partially because being out and more open is stressful (with homophobia, and family acceptance), as well as the fact that I feel kinda lonely being (or seeming like) the only lesbian my age in this city.

Whereas when I was in the closet, I was denying it so I didn't tell people and therefore didn't have homophobia, social issues really.

Connor22 · 19th Dec 2009, 10:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TroubledRyan

Keeping everything bottled makes alot of stess,it really eats at me academicaly

same. and my friends talking to me about it and trying to get me to come out doesn't really help

Emberstone · 19th Dec 2009, 11:09 AM

I think being gay actually makes you smarter. look at leonardo da vinci, he was bisexual if I remeber correctly.

Brandford · 19th Dec 2009, 11:16 AM

Not really, I really don't need to study, never have. But other than that, its my own procrastination and laziness that keeps me from doing home projects and homework. But sometimes, things regarding my sexuality can put me in a really bad mood and not make me wanna do anything but i dont think that counts because anything can put me in a bad enough mood to not make me wanna do anything

View Poll Results: Has your sexual orientation affect you're studying/performance at school/university?
Yes (Out Person)	9	15.00%
No (Out Person)	26	43.33%
Yes (Closet Answer Only)	10	16.67%
No (Closet Answer Only)	15	25.00%
Voters: 60. You may not vote on this poll

18th Dec 2009, 11:52 PM	#1
azrae1 EC's Arab resident Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Lost count xD; Location: Abu Dhabi Age: 22 Posts: 286 Join Date: Jan 2009	Being gay and studying.. Hello ECers ! So yes, as the title says.. has ever your sexual orientation ever affect your studying habits? is being gay reduces your performance level in your perparation for exams? For example: Does being gay, makes you unmotivated to do well in exams? Your social gay life isn't doing great so it affects your school/university performance? It would be really interesting if one of the admis can make a voting poll on this, as I really dunno how to make one ^^; if so, the Poll should be with this shape Question: Has your sexual orientation affect you're studying/performance at school/university? 1) Yes (Out Person) 2) No (Out Person) 3) Yes (Closet Answer Only) 4) No (Closet Answer Only) I guess this looks like a research report than a normal thread post >_>; Last edited by azrae1; 18th Dec 2009 at 11:54 PM..

18th Dec 2009, 11:56 PM	#2
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Being gay and studying.. Put Up a Poll for you, dude __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

18th Dec 2009, 11:58 PM	#4
Courtneyyy ColbieMarie Full Member Gender: GIRL Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Mom, brother and close friends Location: Flagstaff, AZ Age: 23 Posts: 975 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Being gay and studying.. I think it's just my general lack of motivation that keeps me from studying. Nothing to do with girls. __________________

19th Dec 2009, 12:00 AM	#5
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Being gay and studying.. Oh, and yeah, I seriously doubt a person's sexuality inhibits any study performance xD It's my own laziness and inability to study that causes me not to study xD __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

19th Dec 2009, 12:01 AM	#6
azrae1 EC's Arab resident Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Lost count xD; Location: Abu Dhabi Age: 22 Posts: 286 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Being gay and studying.. well; in my case.. i feel i am performing much less; due to my homophobic muslim/arab classmates.. i think u get the image :/

19th Dec 2009, 12:11 AM	#7
TroubledRyan Don't fix what isn't broken! Full Member Gender: 8===D Orientation: 8==D+8==D=Me!!! Out Status: Everyone knows, hard not to. Location: New Mexico Age: 18 Posts: 1,985 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: Being gay and studying.. Keeping everything bottled makes alot of stess,it really eats at me academicaly __________________ Just close your eyes, the sun is going down. You'll be all right, no one can hurt you now. The morning light, you and I will be safe and sound.

19th Dec 2009, 01:07 AM	#8
Gaetan DON'T TOUCH THE HAT! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Immediate Family and Friends Location: Idaho, USA Age: 25 Posts: 1,098 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Being gay and studying.. Was kinda funny timing...me finally coming out to myself in my last semester...Most classes it didn't matter as I could actually pay attention. But, in one of my boring classes I spent most of my time mulling over the gayness. (Didn't help that the guy in front of me was especially hot!) In other classes, it just made me jump out of my skin at any mention of homosexuality or anything even slightly related to it. __________________ Those who say it cannot be done, shouldn't interrupt the people doing it.

19th Dec 2009, 02:41 AM	#9
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Being gay and studying.. Well, Im out to my favorite english prof. It definitely helps my work ethic in her class. I have always tended to soar in classes with a teacher i like. And the same goes for ones i like. I almost failed one computer class that i was actually really good at because my teacher was so...dry. But thats not so much to do with being out, thats just one of the reasons i like her. But yea, being out in general has not changed much of anything for me school wise. The two things dont directly affect each other. My work habits have gotten better with age, and that kind of mirrors my coming out, but i think thats a coincidence. __________________ "It's a male duck."

19th Dec 2009, 04:38 AM	#10
redsapphire EC's resident witch Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Wow Mama Out Status: most except family Location: Bonny Lingland Age: 20 Posts: 877 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Being gay and studying.. I put no, and I had to put closet answer cause I'm not out to everyone at school yet. __________________ *Don't Bend, Don't Break, Baby Don't Back Down...*

19th Dec 2009, 06:03 AM	#11
xballetxbeautyx Heterodox Homosexual Full Member Gender: (.)(.) Orientation: Kinsey 5? Ish? Out Status: If you don't know, where have you been all my life Location: Midwest USA Age: 17 Posts: 1,719 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Being gay and studying.. You know what? I wonder if that could be it. I've been semi-out since seventh grade but it wasn't til the middle of this semester that people started having a problem with it (or at least making the problem known). This is also the first time I haven't got straight A's. I don't know if there's a connection, but there could be. __________________ I can't go to Pigfarts! IT'S ON MARS. You need a rocketship! Do you have a rocketship, Potter? Look at this - it's Rocketship Potter! Starkid Potter! Moonshoes Potter! Traversing the galaxy for intergalactic travels to Pigfarts! Last edited by xballetxbeautyx; 19th Dec 2009 at 06:06 AM..

19th Dec 2009, 06:46 AM	#12
Swamp56 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Boston, MA Age: 21 Posts: 2,166 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Being gay and studying.. Not at all. __________________

19th Dec 2009, 06:49 AM	#13
Kevin42 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Being gay and studying.. I don't think being gay has anything to do with my study habits. I would say if anything, being gay makes me want to be sure and do better work than everyone else.

19th Dec 2009, 08:45 AM	#14
Confusicus Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Being gay and studying.. If your mind is preoccupied worrying about your sexuality and what everyone thinks about it, or how it's going to affect your future or anything along those lines I can guarantee it will effect your performance. To do anything at your best your mind needs to be focused on the task at hand. Not running around worrying about something else. I can honestly say it affected me greatly my 2nd year of university and somewhat this year at tech school. However accepting myself and letting others know about what I've been going through has helped me clear my head and enabled me to be more focused on school and any task at hand generally.

19th Dec 2009, 09:39 AM	#16
iwanttobelieve No Longer A Member Gender: N/A Orientation: N/A Out Status: N/A Age: 20 Posts: 128 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: Being gay and studying.. my gay-ness causes me to day dream about hot guys instead of talking, studying, thinking, contributing lol the list goes on...

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