Lady, you are a FAG

[RaeofLite]

Ok, no you're not. And neither are you awesome dudes on EC.

That was just to get your attention. I want to hear what you think on this subject though... and if any of you (male or female) have had any similar situations. (I appologize if this offends anyone but this is what happened. It's not meant to offend anyone and sorry for any vulgar language but I *ed them out).

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Last night me and a friend went to see her guy friend who was alone. We had just come back from a club and went to visit him. He seemed alright, though "a little tough/rough". He was bored, and drinking beer with my friend and somehow started switching his Xbox360 to play Metal, and then porn. I wasn't obviously interested in straight porn.. and I almost felt sorry for the woman because she seemed to not enjoy it at all and was doing a bad job at faking enjoyment.

But anyway! He started talking about sex. He said, "yea I love p****. So does (my friend's name)," and he nudged and winked at her. He looked at me and said, "So ah, do you rock the C*** well?"
Me: "I don't know."
Him: "What do you mean you don't know? Doncha got a boyfriend?"
Me: "No..."
Him: "but you get hit on guys? You like the ****".
Me: "I get hit on by guys.."
Him: "Do you like chicks?"
Me: "Yes."
Him: "Really? Like... both? Or only chicks?" *he started to become almost angry at this point...*
Me: *not caring that he was becoming angry, I was out of the closet and my friend was there so I was defiant, yet wanted to calm him down as well* "Only chicks."
Him: "So you're a straight lesbian?"
Me: "No, I'm simply a lesbian. Not straight or bi."
Him: "Wow. I knew it... You're a fag."
Me: *glare and serious look* "Look, I think you could be an ok guy but that's not a nice comment. I'm not a fag and I don't think you should call gay males that either."
Him: "Well I'm just saying it's the truth. Do you like women like full out?"
Me: "Yes." *keeping my calm hoping he will stay calm too*
Him: "You know if I knew you were a fag coming to my house. I would've said get the f*** outta my house."
Me: "Why? I don't understand why people hate that."
Him: "Cuz you don't like ****."
Me: "So? Even if I was straight I don't think I"d be your type.. And it's not like it's a choice I woke up making one day-Oh I think I"ll be gay today!"
Him: "This doesn't turn you on?!" *starts undoing his pants*
I stood up at this point, mouthing to my friend "I'm leaving".
She stood up and told me to wait and that she'd talk to him.
She talked to him a bit and we all sat back down and started watching cartoons instead.
He looked to me and said, "Don't leave homo. I'm sorry man. I'm just really curious.."
Me: "Well you seemed pretty homophobic a few seconds ago."
Him: "Well I don't meet or know any real lesbians."



*sigh* Sorry that was so long but I just wanted to hear if any others have experienced similar things (male or female).

this doesnt sound like him being homophobic to me at all actually. he just thought you were hot and wanted to get in your pants and then he was all pissy cause there was no way it was going to happen.

i will say he is a jerk though, but that happens when it's too easy for guys to get laid.

[mmilam75]

Sounds like a combination of bruised ego and too much alcohol. But the comments were rather disgusting...you're far more controlled than I would have been

[Brandford]

I just think he was a complete jackass. A homophobe and a jackass, I would have kicked him in his crotch if he spoke to me like that. And how fucking rude do you have to be to watch porn with company over? I honestly don't know what the hell is wrong with him. And asking you if you rock the C*** well? A man who doesn't know you asking you something like that? Thats disgusting and beyond rude. And undoing his pants in front of you? What the hell is that about? That has the be the worst display of manners I have ever heard. I don't know how your friend can be friends with him. I can tolerate alot but thats way too far over the line. I would have left the second I saw porn on the tv, disgusting barbarian. I don't care if he had never met a real lesbian before he should know how to act. I'd expect that out of MAYBE a 14 year old. As for your question, no I've never had something that blunt but I have been asked questions, especially the "how do you know?", "Have you ever been with a girl?" and "Do you want to try it with one" (this is the one i particularly find disturbing because it always makes me feel like their offering when it comes from a girl). And its rare someone uses the word fag when talking to me and when they do, i make sure they dont do it again.

I must Congratulate you on having the patience and tolerance of a saint and being a good enough friend to stay there instead of abandoning your friend because I would have been livid, I would have left long before we had started that conversation and if I did for some reason stay and he spoke to me so bluntly I don't think I could have resisted at least smacking the taste out of his mouth.

[Pseudojim]

I'd probably have punched the fucker out, you did well.

[Just Adam]

id of put his xbox over his head ill give you RROD asshole!

jsut cos your not back doesent give you the right to be an ass.

well done on keeping your cool. i like the others on here wouldnt have stood for that. i would have floored him. also i think your friend should maybe have left with you and not tryed to talk him round. i wouldnt let a friend feel like that to anyone i went to see. infact i dont think i could remain friends with that person.

[Absentminded]

Wow, nice job keeping your temper in line. I probably wouldn't have...(he probably wouldn't have had a **** left if it'd been me). What he was saying was pretty crude, and I don't see how you stayed there.
*sigh* 'Tis a shame what too much alcohol can do sometimes...

[fallendream]

Him: "Well I don't meet or know any real lesbians."

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my initial thoughts...


but im really sorry you went through that. though did he seem sorry at the end?

[ethelred]

You see, in that situation, I think I would have lost it. In fact I am sure I would have lost it. Of course, for it to be accurate, all the genders would have to be the other way 'round and I would have to know a jerky, bigoted women.

However, if I had been there too, and he had started pulling that shit, AND he didn't know I was gay either, I might have freaked him out and said "well it doesn't turn her on, but I am seriously sweltering right now." I have no sympathy for drunken jerk-offs.

Then we would get ice cream and Rae would get hugs.

Big, gay hugs.

P.S. Oh! There was a question in there. Hmm...once I was sorta in a similar situation after having read an article in Discovery or Seed magazine about the possible natural necessity of homosexual behavior in social species. That turned into an after-the-RPG argument with our less than tolerant friend about whether people with non-default sexual orientations were some form of mutant or a natural and inevitable part of our species.

[calstad]

I got called a fag because I didnt have sex on my two week leave from Iraq.

[Katherine]

He's a jackass, and this was clearly amplified by the fact that he was horny and drunk at the time. In fact, his actions could probably be considered sexual harassment.

Ugh. I think you reacted just the right way. I actually know a guy who's just like that, only without the alcohol. He goes on and on about how great sex is and constantly bugs me about MY sexuality, asking, "Well how could you know unless you actually tried d***? Man, p**** is great, but how're you s'posed to know?" to which I responded "Well, how do YOU know you don't like it unless YOU'VE tried it?" and he replied "Eww, that's different. That's just sick" and continued to pester me about how many guys I've been with.

Augh, guys like that drive me batshit insane. Basically, I know how you feel, and I think you responded in a really mature, acceptable way. His behavior was disgusting and extremely rude.

[tashyyy]

well done for keeping your cool
i wouldn't have in a similar situation
he's disrespectful
eurgh, i hate people like that

[Markio]

Wait, was he drunk at the time? Why'd he call you 'homo' at the end? He sounds kind of silly, judging from that conversation.

[adam88]

He sounds exceedingly drunk, and not the type of person I'd want to hang around. Seriously, though - who watches porn with company?

[jazzyspazzy]

Wait, let me get this straight... did he say that he loves penis or porn? If it's penis then he's gay/bi and yet you're not allowed to be gay? Isn't that slightly hypocritical?

[Lexington]

It took me a minute to realize which "p****" you were talking about.

Guy's a grade-A asshole, although the fact that he reformed a bit at the end gives some credence to his assertion that he "just don't know any". It may be that YOU're gonna have to be the one that corrects everything he says or does that's out of line for awhile. That's fine so long as you don't mind the gig, but don't feel you HAVE to. Here's a checklist to get you started.

* It's considered out of line to play pornography when people you just met come to visit (unless it's a hook-up). It's the 21st century. The fact that you own pornography isn't much of a revelation. The fact that you'll play it for people you just met is.

* It's OK, if a bit forward, to ask if someone is gay. But the way to do this is to ask "Are you gay?" not "You like dick or pussy?"

* When you say "You know if I knew you were a fag coming to my house. I would've said get the f*** outta my house", nobody will think you're being noble or a gentleman.

* Taking your pants off in front of an utter stranger means you accept all consequences of what might occur. Which might include having your pride and joy ripped out by its roots, and your family jewels used as a hackysack.

Lex

[Hoppip]

Originally Posted by Lexington

* Taking your pants off in front of an utter stranger means you accept all consequences of what might occur. Which might include having your pride and joy ripped out by its roots, and your family jewels used as a hackysack.

Lex

Is it a crime to reveal yourself to people without their consent? It'd be impossible to prove, but wouldn't that be walking the lines of sexual harassment, assault, and public indecency? I dunno. I'm not versed in JURISPRUDENCE.

Also, Rae, I would've peed myself seven times over if some pugnacious drunk was all up in my grillpiece like that. You done good. : D

Him: "Wow. I knew it... You're a fag."

I would of turned round and went 'Yeh, so I heard your a bar-steward too.'

[Goodyear]

What an arse hole, sounds like someone that cant control themself when theyve been drinking to me. And then to start to open his trousers, wtf. I would have knocked him out Well done for keeping your cool.

And @ adam88, i totally agree dude