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What is Love?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Revan, Jan 2, 2010.

  1. Revan

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    So I think this is something we can all chat about. What is Love? I ask myself this question fifty million times a day. Basically I ask this because what is the difference between love or lust? How do you know when you are in love? What does it feel like?

    Some of my friends say it's the feeling that you would jump off a cliff for them, others say it's just a warm feeling when you're with them, but how is the latter not just you enjoy spending time with them but not necessarily love? Seriously, HOW do you know what love is?

    Because I find in the past relationships I've never really been in love, I mean I've used the word and thought I was, but really...I never was there.

    The relationship I'm in now, I sometimes feel like I could never survive if I lost him, whether to being dumped, to death, to accident, whatever. But is that love? Or is it just not wanting to be dumped/lose him because I care for him so much.

    So your opinion: WHAT IS LOVE?
     
  2. RaeofLite

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    Love is or can be the following: (from what I've found)
    -part of a type of friendship
    -connection on more than just a physical level; emotionally, intellectually, spiritually etc
    -when you think of someone and they just make you smile
    -when you think of someone and you get butterflies
    -when you touch them and feel goosebumps and actual electric currents (ok I didn't necessarily mean sexually either, but it could be a hug or handshake etc too)
    -when you can't stop grinning around them and you want to hang out with them alllllzetime
    -when you would do almost or most anything for them
    -when you can see a future with the person
    -when the person makes you feel good about yourself and about them

    Those are some thoughts.
     
  3. Revan

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    Well then according to you I'm in love :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Yeah, deffs all of those.

    -When you feel that the best part of the day is when you think of the person (or more)
    -When just can't seem to get enough of the person (in all ways)
    -When that person makes you feel like you've never felt before (Good ways, even bad as well, as it'll hurt A LOT)

    But, yeah, I think, as you said, that love is a very difficult thing to define. I'm seeing a guy at the moment, and I think it is love, but I'm not completely sure, but one thing I know is, that he just makes me feel like I've never tried before, when I talk to him etc. That's why I think it's love.

    I'm sorry, I don't think it was very helpful for you, but maybe how I feel can give you clarity about how you feel(*hug*)

    EDIT:
    A thing, that makes love so confusing, is that so many things in life (friendship, family bonds etc.) is a kind of love, not as strong as 'actual' love, though. I think that can make you feel confused about when something is love or not. That has deffs confused me at times
     
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    baby dont hurt me baby dont hurt me no more
     
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    Love is mixture of emotions, like anger, and like anger there are different types of it.

    I love kitty, but not in the same way I love family; and, the way I love them is different from how I love my friends, and that love is different fomr the love I'll give my BF, should he ever show up.

    I think it is hard to an exact label on love, which is often confused for passion and sexual desire.

    Love is a potion with many tastes: some bitter...some sweet...some burning hot...and some icy cold.
     
  7. gaz83

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    Lust is the initial passionate sexual desire that promotes mating, and involves the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and estrogen. These effects rarely last more than a few weeks or months

    love funnily enough includes lust but also attachment, caring, and intimacy.

    the world of wikipedia is soo much of a help haha. so lust i experienced and love only a little which tends to lead to upset. its a tricky thing.
     
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    love is devious and a pain in the ass...so why the hell do i want the damn thing ahhh!
     
  9. gaz83

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    cos once you get it you will feel totally different.
     
  10. olides84

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    got to do, got to do with it
    but a second hand emotion
    got to do, got to with it
    (who needs a heart when a heart can be broken)
    :grin:
     
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    Darn... I only came in to say this.
     
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    I don’t think love is a intellectually tangible thing. It’s different for everyone how we respond and react, how it makes us feel. But if your happier when your around them or talking to them and just don’t feel right when your not, like a part of you is missing. Then I think that is a good sign. A big thing, I think, is to not over think things.
     
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    I don't think you will get a deffinition because in my opinion love can't be defined everybody has different enterpritations of love some see it as pain others see it as the most precious thing in the world (which I do) it's a mixture of so many things which makes it so powerful
     
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    in my opinion you can't define love, you just know when you feel it.
     
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    To add, love is also:

    -Supporting them when they're in need
    -Genuinely being concerned about their feelings
    -Having an engaging conversation with them
    -When conversations and affection define the relationship, not the sex
    -Spending time with them and making time for them
    -Knowing what's wrong without even asking
    -Trust
    -Being able to be your true self without fear of rejection or dislike
    -Anger, jealousy, fear, sadness, maybe misery depending on the situation
    -Bliss, euphoria, feeling like you can do anything in the world, the galaxy's the limit
     
  16. Swamp56

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    Love is a term in Positive Psychology that is applied to one's feeling toward someone else. The initial definition is extremely hard to define due to the fact that it is subjective, or has a different definition to everyone.

    It is also a colloquial term to express a specific desire over a certain materialistic item or person.

    I don't really have a personal definition since I really haven't ever thought about what love is.
     
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  17. Phoenix

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    I though the same exact thing when I first saw the title. But RaeofLite defined it near perfectly, and those are what I would say love is too.
     
  18. Revan

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    Keep it up people! I'm loving all the thoughts.
     
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    Love...
    Love isn't a physical object
    Love is somthing you can feel...Love is unique,and everyone has there own defination...
    Love to me is someone I can hold,squeeze up against me and call my own,and vise versa. Love are all the little things that your lover do to make you happy,thats love to me
     
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    Love is the absence of uncertainty between the bond of two people.