How long did it take from being out to having a boyfriend?

well im not actually out yet but i can say there is maybe no rush to go get a boyfriend. im sure that in time you will meet someone.

 

Be yourself and take time and don't be desperate. Love comes when you least expect it

 

Well if you dont really feel like going to gay bars then dont. There are other ways to meet guys.

I enclose a link and its aimed at lesbian women but it can also be used for gay men on the top places to find someone of the same sex:

http://lesbianlife.about.com/od/lesbiandating/tp/MeetLesbians.htm

 

I've been out a year, and I don't have a boyfriend. I've done some dating without much success. It takes time.

It takes time and to be honest I haven't been trying all that hard either. Part of it is that I don't want a relationship right now.

 

I can't remember how long I've been out… a year or two… I haven't had a girlfriend until recently. It was the second shortest relationship I've ever had XD

I found that once I was comfortable with being single and happy, the ladies just flocked to me… I'm hoping it will happen again soon, now that I'm single again.

 

i had a boyfriend before coming out to anyone.

Since i've come out to my friends i've had nothing.

Go figure

 

I started coming out in May 2007 and had a boyfriend that September. Bear in mind we were together for all of three weeks, though.

 

Is a relationship you force yourself into going to truly matter in the end. dont fret if you dont have a boyfriend yet. having a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship rarely ever is worth it.

 

It took me like a year to find mine. But to be perfectly honest, I was open to all possibilities but I never specifically looked for one.

 

that, and most of the population is still identified as heterosexual. you're kinda working with a lake in comparison to a sea.

 

I've had one girlfriend and I've been sorta-out since 2004 and out to almost everyone since 2005... but then again, I'm painfully shy.

 

I started coming out at the end of 2008, and slightly more than one year later, there’s not a boyfriend in sight. I’m not really unhappy about that, though. It really took some time being more and more comfortably out. If I had tried anything sooner, it might have broken down because I wouldn’t have been entirely adjusted to the idea of having a boyfriend. I’m slowly getting the idea that now might be the time to look for one, but I’m not in a hurry.

I don’t think you should necessarily go for the clubs, though. If it’s one-night stands you want, they’re great, but real boyfriends are harder (though by no means impossible) to find there. Maybe it’s best to see if your college has a GLBT society that you could join. It would allow you to meet gay people in a normal setting. Maybe there is someone there with whom it clicks. And if not, then you would still make some GLBT friends out of it.

 

I've been out to the majority for three years and I still haven't had a relationship. I don't know anyone else who's been out this long and hasn't found someone yet, and it's been long enough for me that I seriously doubt it's going to happen at all.

 

I have a girlfriend and I'm not out yet, but that girlfriend is what led me to realize I was bi...I never considered it until I realized my attraction to her...but everyone is different, though, so don't feel bad for not having had a boyfriend yet. It will happen when it is time.

 

I had a girlfriend when I was out to some close friends but not everyone. And then I came out to everyone.

 

Three years? Something like that.

Lex

 

About 2 months after I came out I had a boyfriend.

It didnt last long as it meant nothing but... I don't think it matters how long you've been out

I know straight people who have never been in a relationship.

 

ive been out for a year, and nope, no boyfriend