Gay experience

to all closeted people and out just thinking have you ever had an experience where your family seen/caught you doing something well not manly,like i dont want to say but oh well (gay) and they caught you and well you had to explain to them(lie) and try to make up an excuse so they wont know b/c you were not ready to tell thim or too scared to. well for me i feel kind of embarced writing this but i was watching well naughty stuff on the computer at my house and i was curiuos and i also thought my family were not in the house my brother came in.i was like so scared im like heres my excuse i am downloading some stuff for a gay friend of mine he got upset and well he believed but i was like i just doged a huge bullet. so what was your experience if you had any and if something like that happen would youve just tolt them.feel free to comment

[RaeofLite]

I think more people would reply if you posted this in the anonymous section...

But I have a few. One of them: I was playing Scrabble with Mom and a friend and I mentioned that I went to visit Justin(a guy friend) and another 'friend' via the greyhound for the weekend. Mom asked who this other friend was, and I said "Shawna". I looked over at my female friend who gave me a sympathetic look. I then was baggered by questions from mom who "shawna was" and how I met her (I did through a dating site) but I couldn't lie. It all just tumbled out that she was 'My girlfriend'. I guess that's not like "being caught" but it's similar since she did call when I was visiting Shawna far away but I didn't answer.

[Ander Blue]

One of my friends gave me a chipendale's calender as a funny haha joke for christmas (I just came out to him). I had kept it in its bag and put it with all my other gifts in my bedroom. Today, I went down to my bedroom and noticed that the bag looked a bit different. I could now clearly see the models showing through the plastic wrap. I am absolutely certain that I put it in my room to seem as inconspicuous as possible. Also, newly folded clothes were on my bed so I knew my step mom had been in there recently. *_* she hasn't said anything yet (except for telling me that a hat I have looks gay). urgh

[paint]

I actually came out before that happened.( Although a handful of times(pun not intended?) someone walked into my room without knocking and I had to pull off looking nonchalant while wrestling with the mouse and blocking the computer screen.) but no...

School's a different story. It's hard to admire a guy without drawing attention to yourself. I had a guy get a crush on me in 8th grade. I had a crush on him too for that matter. But he kept wanting to just to just sit there and smile at me forever, right there in the middle of the classroom. It was so frustrating, it was like a holding up a neon sign.Now I just laugh. It's not worth it to act all the time, because in this life you can't do retakes.

[luke35]

I used to wrestle naked with my friend and his mum walked in.... Very embarasing

[riddlerno1]

When in my teens they used to have the page 7 hunk in the daily newspapers and so i used to take this page up to my bedroom when i was alone in the house. Well one day my parents came home and so i hid the page down the side of my bed. Well I then completely forgot it was there and a few days later saw the papee in the wastepaper bin outside my room and my face dropped in shock cos my mum mustve been hoovering and found the newspaper. She didnt say anything but i felt so anxious that i then brought it up and said i was looking at the pictures of trees on the other side??!!! I dont think she believed me.

[Filip]

Two stories spring to mind...

First was probably the most typical story: when I was about 16 or 17, I was on the computer looking at some not-so-straight sites and suddenly my brother walks in. I immediately switch to an innocuous website, but unbeknownst to me, the website had opened a pop-under with an advertisement that left nothing to the imagination. My brother wants to check his mail, so I minimise my main browser window and...

I just acted indignant: "will you believe what kind of filthy pop-ups you get even from visiting ordinary sites these days?". My brother just shrugged it away, and left. Years later, he did say he had an inkling I might be gay, but he didn't mention that incident anymore...


The second one was way more embarassing. Organising a quiz as a charity event or as a fundraiser is really popular where I live. Sometimes, my mom, dad, brother and I formed a team to participate in a local quiz. One evening, in a quiz, we're 3 points behind the leading team. We need to answer everything we can in the last round to have a chance of winning.
The topic of the questions that round: sex! (yeah, maybe unthinkable in American quizzes, but that's us liberal Europeans for you ) And a few of them have to do with the gayer end of the spectrum.
I was closeted, but also really competitive when it comes to quizzes. So in the end, the rest of the people were really amazed how I knew what a darkroom was, let alone what the name of one of the local gay clubs was. I think I must have been as red as a lobster...

Luckily I had an openly gay friend and I explained my unusual knowledge about gay sex away by claiming that he told me all about it. Which actually wasn't a real lie, because that's where I heard it (well, and the internet...). But I doubt I would have remembered it all if I would have been straight...

But what counts is that we won the quiz!

[ProfessorLepus]

Originally Posted by Filip

Two stories spring to mind...

First was probably the most typical story: when I was about 16 or 17, I was on the computer looking at some not-so-straight sites and suddenly my brother walks in. I immediately switch to an innocuous website, but unbeknownst to me, the website had opened a pop-under with an advertisement that left nothing to the imagination. My brother wants to check his mail, so I minimise my main browser window and...

I just acted indignant: "will you believe what kind of filthy pop-ups you get even from visiting ordinary sites these days?". My brother just shrugged it away, and left. Years later, he did say he had an inkling I might be gay, but he didn't mention that incident anymore...


The second one was way more embarassing. Organising a quiz as a charity event or as a fundraiser is really popular where I live. Sometimes, my mom, dad, brother and I formed a team to participate in a local quiz. One evening, in a quiz, we're 3 points behind the leading team. We need to answer everything we can in the last round to have a chance of winning.
The topic of the questions that round: sex! (yeah, maybe unthinkable in American quizzes, but that's us liberal Europeans for you ) And a few of them have to do with the gayer end of the spectrum.
I was closeted, but also really competitive when it comes to quizzes. So in the end, the rest of the people were really amazed how I knew what a darkroom was, let alone what the name of one of the local gay clubs was. I think I must have been as red as a lobster...

Luckily I had an openly gay friend and I explained my unusual knowledge about gay sex away by claiming that he told me all about it. Which actually wasn't a real lie, because that's where I heard it (well, and the internet...). But I doubt I would have remembered it all if I would have been straight...

But what counts is that we won the quiz!

I intentionally do this from time to time with friends that I'm not out to. I was out with a couple of nerdy friends the other night, and we were Googling for stuff. He googled for "kinky gay " I suggested that he might get better, hotter results if he searched for "kinky gay (different word)". Awkward moment of silence, then "how would you know that?"

Another one, I was playing a game called Dopewars while texting with a friend. Dopewars is a game where you play a drug dealer, and you buy and sell drugs. Sometimes you get mugged. So I texted my friend, "Damnit, just lost a couple grand to some muggers. Maybe I shouldn't carry $200K while in the ghetto." He texted back "Damn, $200K? I'd mug you." I smirked and replied "I'd let you!"

This particular friend is fun because he never realizes when I'm hitting on him, so a few minutes later, my phone beeped again. "What?"

These moments are like heroin for me, I just can't get enough of them. Maybe I won't come out, I'll just be the creepy dude who says creepy gay things.

[LaVegetariana]

My Dad once walked in on me and my 15 year old best friend, she was on top of me and we were kissing. We pretended to be wrestling because we do that alot anyway. I hope he didn't realise...

[Markio]

Yeah, when I was about ten I started looking at the profile pictures of men in Yahoo! personals. I printed out one picture, left it there, and it was found by my parents who were suddenly suspicious of each other, instead of me. I found it again and threw it away.

Originally Posted by Markio

Yeah, when I was about ten I started looking at the profile pictures of men in Yahoo! personals. I printed out one picture, left it there, and it was found by my parents who were suddenly suspicious of each other, instead of me. I found it again and threw it away.

That is hilarious!!! Actually a few of these made me laugh! I know they were not funny at the time, but I think most things like this totally are laughable after the fact!

I actually have two stories as well for times like these for when Iwas not yet out.

The first was that guys in my school locker room when I was 15 were always commenting on my, ahem, penis size, which I later found out wasn't unusually small, but actually unusually large (not trying to brag, just stating a fact) and so it made me self conscious because I didn't know why they were laughing and making such a big stink about it. Anyway, I went on "ask jeeves" and was asking questions like "what is the average penis size?". Well, I had measured my penis and really didn't get any good answers from the net but felt satisfied that I wasn't on the smaller spectrum. At this age I was already doing the whole watching-gay-porn-on-the-internet type thing. My dad also at this time learned how to check the "history" and thus found all of my gay site browsing. Luckily for me he found me searches for "penis" size and when he sat me down to talk about it, he thought that I had been browsing the gay sites because I wanted to compare. Also, like my first thoughts, he thought I was extremely small and felt inadequate and the conversation that followed was VERY VERY uncomfortable!

My second experience being caught was when I was 16 and my b/f at the time was sleeping over. We of course were having sex and we would sleep in my bed together after. Well, one morning we were sleeping and my mom walked in and saw me with my bf. The covers were covering him completely, but I was totally exposed, butt naked. We didn't wake up and I wouldn't have even known she saw us if she hadn't had asked me, "Étienne, do you make it a habit of sleeping naked with your best friends?" I told her that I had been recently sleep walking and waking up in weird places naked. She said she believed me cause she could sometimes hear me walking around at night (I was actually sneaking down to get on the computer late at night). She didn't ask me what my friend thought when he woke up with me naked and my arms wrapped around him. I personally think she knew what was really going on!