Teens and Love

Hey everyone, im doing an article for my schools newspapers on teenagers and the L word love, i want to hear peoples opinions. Thanks in advance.
What is love?
Do teenagers know what it is?

[Shevanel]

Not all of them, for sure. They confuse it with Lust and Infatuation a lot of the time.

I hate that word.
Along with the words listed above ^

Every time I meet a guy and it seems that we hit it off pretty well, I always analyze myself if my feelings towards him is lust or affection... And I've never been successful.

[Phantasma]

I can't stand teens who announce, usually after only a couple of weeks no less, "i love him/i want to die without him/he is my everything/my world revolves around him/words can't express how much i love him with all my soul!"

There's a difference between love and lust. I wish people would stop abusing the word because they can't comprehend the difference between it and wanting to get into the persons pants.

[Derek the Wolf]

Love is a very complex emotion and takes a long time to develop. Most teens don't know what it really means. However some are mature enough to develop it. That's really what it boils down to: are you mature enough to recognize the differences between lust, shallow attraction, and genuine LUHV?

[partietraumatic]

no i don't believe most teens know what love is. I believe alot of teens are often more in love with the idea of being in love. They are in relationships, which may be good relationships, but the want to be in love, so they perhaps convince themselves that they are in love.

Personally i don't think you can truly understand love until you are older, and getting on with your life in the real world.

Thats not to say tho that no teens are in love. There are, im sure, many who are genuinely in love.

[507bro]

I think love in high school is pure BS. Most of the kids in high school just want each other for sex. They don't even go on dates they just hook up on the spot or on a text. Then the relationship last for about a month because they didn't even take the time to know each other wayy before the relationship.

[Owen]

Originally Posted by BayeBorde

What is love?

Love is a feeling you can only get when you get to know someone really well and are attracted to their personality. Love is, quite simply, emotional attraction.

Originally Posted by BayeBorde

Do teenagers know what it is?

I doubt it. It seems they can't tell the difference between emotional attraction and physical attraction. That's why their relationships can be all "lovey-dovey" one day and falling apart the next; there's no base for the relationship outside of wanting to be in the other person's pants. When there is emotional attraction, fights and disagreements can be resolved because the two people really care about one another. If physical attraction is the entire base of their relationship, there's little motivation to keep the relationship together. After all, why date a hot guy/girl you can't get along with when there are other hot guys/girls out there? When two people connect on an emotional level, the relationship is much more solid. They really care about each other, and that's what makes those relationships last.

I was only in love once while I was in high school, and when I did fall in love, I had known the girl* for a year and a half. It takes a long time for love to develop, and considering how horny teenagers are, most don't have the patience to let it happen.

*Though she was a girl, I still consider myself Kinsey 6 because the attraction was solely emotional, and not physical at all. Love does not know the boundaries of gender; only lust does.

[Jonnie]

Being a teen.. I don't know what love is.
But maybe some day I will come to find
out what love really is.

To me love is something that happens over time and I'm not sure I really believe in love at first sight. I believe that love develops from a friendship and that people develop these feelings over a period of time (that time doesn't have to be extremely long). I feel that REAL love will be known at the right moment!

As for teenagers I think they can totally fall in love. I think that what others have said is correct, it is mostly lust and infatuation at first and some people experience this and think it is love. For others it actually is love and not just infatuation.

[littledinosaurs]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eYVKPd1BFZg
This.

[JakeBHT]

just a horrid bond

[SaturdaySaviour]

I don't know what is love because I've never fallen in love. Well, I could give a better answer, but this is the honest one.

And I believe that most teenagers don't know what love is. I'm very much annoyed by people using that word so easily and... it just sounds so silly now.

[crazydude]

I don't believe it is possible to describe in words what love is. It is different for everyone and I don't think you know what it is until it happens to you.

[carrie90]

I don't think you can describe what love is because I think it is undeffinable however I do believe teens are capable of love

I myself was in a long term relationship for 2 years and truely believe I loved my girlfriend and I still do believe it was love. On that note I think many teens confusse love with just lust or other hormones but some do just go OTT with the whole "he/she is my life I love them more than anything"

[Connor22]

Originally Posted by Jonnie

Being a teen.. I don't know what love is.
But maybe some day I will come to find
out what love really is.

I hear that, it's out there... hopefully

[Bryan90]

I'd like to offer another point of view.

In my opinion, everybody has their own definition of love.

There are some who proclaim "I love you" only after a week or two of meeting someone.

There are also some who would only use the word upon living with each other and sharing lives for a long period.

In the end, I believe, love is subjective. If you feel that you're in love; then you are. Maybe a few days later, you'd no longer feel so. But I have NO RIGHTS to say that you know not about love.

So do teens know love? Perhaps. It's hard for some people to accept this because they have a different "definition" of love, a definition that entails stronger relationships, longer periods, etc. But can we say that their definition is the "right" definition and should be applied universally? Perhaps not.

Like all other emotions (sad, miserable, happiness), love too is subjective; and I believe everybody has their own way of feeling and expressing it.