assume you are gay, and your crush is kinda close to you, but you don't have any clue whether he/she is straight or gay! so will you gamble to ask him/her out? thank you!
Unless I have 100% proof he's straight, I go for it. What's the worst that can happen? He says no. Am I any worse off? Nopers!
100% Straight or gay is different than 100% Proof. The Only thing you can accurately go off is if he says it himself or not. That he's straight, gay, bi, whatever. If he says he is straight, then no matter what you think, then he's straight.
True, but you still have to respect his decision to be in denial or not out, or just straight. If he DOES say he's in denial himself, only then you can try to help him.
I'll just ask. I've made an ass of myself that way before*, but it's better to at least know *i also fail at asking people out, however.
Sorry for the ambiguity. Let me clarify: In absence of proof he's not into guys, I'll take the chance. So, essentially I'll hit on anyone whom I find attractive and sets-off my gaydar. I'm always pleasantly surprised by the outcome. Essentially, go for it. You've nothing to lose.
Gah why does everything today seem to be screaming that my crush is straight and will always be straight. Look as much as you might want somebody to be gay/straight/bi if they feel the way they do you can't change them. Take this from somebody who got hit with a brick wall of reality today.
