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RaeofLite · 19th Jan 2010, 11:57 PM

Do you ever feel that way? When someone you don't know adds you to facebook/Myspace or another social networking site? And it forces you to think, did we meet here? At a party? Was I too drunk? Do I have a bad memory?

partietraumatic · 19th Jan 2010, 11:59 PM

oh yeah, i get that alot

but i always accept coz i worry its somebody important who i really should remember, and that it will look really bad if i dont accept them lol

19th Jan 2010, 11:59 PM

HONEY! DO YOU KNOW HOW OFTEN THAT HAPPENED TO ME!!!??? MAN, I JUST TOTALLY MADE MYSELF UNSEARCHABLE IN FACEBOOK BECAUSE IT BECAME SUCH A NUISANCE!!! They're creepers through others friends or may have had a class with you was my major statistic!

Shevanel · 20th Jan 2010, 12:00 AM

Well, Yes. Most of the time its my sisters friends with facebook. Or a coworker I'm not recognizing immediately. Or a complete random.

With myspace, it tends to be mainly pervs.

RaeofLite · 20th Jan 2010, 12:03 AM

Yea, I recently got this guy who added me from North Carolina because he thought I was hot. And he had the first name as this guy I met at a party so I thought it was him and I was blabbing on and on about the party and he just let me until he said, "I don't think you actually know me". Oopsh...

Shevanel · 20th Jan 2010, 12:05 AM

^ lol! xD That's alright

We all make mistakes.

I like playing along with the pervs on myspace though, up until they start getting naughty, then I tell them I'm underaged and the freak out xD

20th Jan 2010, 03:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by partietraumatic

oh yeah, i get that alot

but i always accept coz i worry its somebody important who i really should remember, and that it will look really bad if i dont accept them lol

I do the same thing. I swear, one of these days, my friendly personality is gonna get me killed.

riddlerno1 · 20th Jan 2010, 05:24 AM

I get the odd request but then send them a message asking sorry, but do i know you? 9 times out of ten it is just some random and i reject their request!!

SolitaryKnight · 20th Jan 2010, 05:30 AM

I had a couple random people add me on facebook when I first started. I think they actually mistook me for someone else and later dropped off my friend list, lol.

But yeah, I had one person add me where I was like, I have no bloody clue who you are. It turned out to be someone I knew on a forum and didn't know his actual name but I had told him mine. He's not a creepy, a really good person (also lives across the ocean, so I know he isn't stalking me, lol).

littledinosaurs · 20th Jan 2010, 08:19 AM

I hate when it's someone you don't know, but you have friends in common. I know they are adding me for a reason but I still wanna reject them. It feels awkward to do so. Usually i leave them in limbo for a while before i make a decision about it. =/
(i am currently in this exact situation)

Phoenix · 20th Jan 2010, 08:22 AM

It's happened to me quite a few times. But usually,

Quote:

Originally Posted by RaeofLite

Was I too drunk?

is the main reason. A lot of the time I've had to have friends be like, "Derek, we were talking to them all night last night."

GhostDog · 20th Jan 2010, 10:07 AM

Man, that is precisely why, when I add a classmate or somebody, I'll add a damn message. Is it so hard to type, "Hi! I'm (name) from (some party/class/whatever)!" Really? >:[

**Lexington** · 20th Jan 2010, 10:13 AM

I've never had somebody I didn't know add me on facebook or myspace, because that means I sent them a request. And I don't send requests to people I don't know.

I've gotten add requests from people I don't know. If I can figure out who they are, I'll add them. If not, I don't. Simple as that. And yes, I end up rejecting a lot of people. I'm not sure why random people think I'd be a good person to know.

Lex

BrownBoi89 · 20th Jan 2010, 04:23 PM

Once someone added me and I couldn't remember who she was and we had like 30 mutual friends so I added her. And once I saw her photos I recognized her lol. There was also another time some guy added me but I had no idea who he was and we had some mutual friends. It turns out we went to the same elementary school but he was like 6 years younger than me! So I have no idea how he knew who I was, I remember his sister, but not him lol. But most of the time when people I don't know add me, I don't accept.

20th Jan 2010, 04:28 PM

I get nothing of the sort on mine

Feel left out now!

xCrazyInsanity · 20th Jan 2010, 05:38 PM

No, I get the random adds all the time.

Most of the time it's the weird stalkers from last year.

Jeimuzu · 20th Jan 2010, 06:08 PM

I add tons of people just because. And I get it in return. I use facebook for making friends, not for keeping the ones I already have lol

**Owen** · 20th Jan 2010, 07:11 PM

This happens to me quite a bit, especially with people who somehow think it's a great idea to not put up any pictures of themselves. I usually just send them a message asking them how I know them. If they don't have a good answer, I reject the request.

Gaetan · 20th Jan 2010, 07:53 PM

I get random requests as well. I usually just ignore them. I really should send a message next time.

Johnnieguy · 20th Jan 2010, 09:49 PM

I receive and send requests to people I don't necessarily know...Generally, I will accept any request as long as I see friends in common, but I might block them from seeing some of my personal info. It was easier when facebook had regional networks, because if they are from my region I consider them more "legit." Sometimes though, from looking at their profile, it looks like they are using it as a way to market their small business...Which I'm okay with, but I will generally accept and then remove them in a week or two.

I don't consider facebook as just a way to keep up with people I know, but to make new friends as well, which generally start off as conversations began under someone's status. It doesn't happen often, but I've made friends and had roommates with people I've met online.

19th Jan 2010, 11:57 PM	#1
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Who the hell is this?! Do you ever feel that way? When someone you don't know adds you to facebook/Myspace or another social networking site? And it forces you to think, did we meet here? At a party? Was I too drunk? Do I have a bad memory? __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

19th Jan 2010, 11:59 PM	#2
partietraumatic A gay heteropolitan? Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Enough for now Location: Oxford and Birmingham, UK Age: 20 Posts: 1,300 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Who the hell is this?! oh yeah, i get that alot but i always accept coz i worry its somebody important who i really should remember, and that it will look really bad if i dont accept them lol __________________ 'Im not your toy and this isn't another girl meets boy'

19th Jan 2010, 11:59 PM	#3
RAJ Aladdin Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Who the hell is this?! HONEY! DO YOU KNOW HOW OFTEN THAT HAPPENED TO ME!!!??? MAN, I JUST TOTALLY MADE MYSELF UNSEARCHABLE IN FACEBOOK BECAUSE IT BECAME SUCH A NUISANCE!!! They're creepers through others friends or may have had a class with you was my major statistic!

20th Jan 2010, 12:00 AM	#4
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Who the hell is this?! Well, Yes. Most of the time its my sisters friends with facebook. Or a coworker I'm not recognizing immediately. Or a complete random. With myspace, it tends to be mainly pervs. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

20th Jan 2010, 12:03 AM	#5
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Who the hell is this?! Yea, I recently got this guy who added me from North Carolina because he thought I was hot. And he had the first name as this guy I met at a party so I thought it was him and I was blabbing on and on about the party and he just let me until he said, "I don't think you actually know me". Oopsh... __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

20th Jan 2010, 12:05 AM	#6
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Who the hell is this?! ^ lol! xD That's alright We all make mistakes. I like playing along with the pervs on myspace though, up until they start getting naughty, then I tell them I'm underaged and the freak out xD __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

20th Jan 2010, 05:24 AM	#8
riddlerno1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: London Age: 29 Posts: 712 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Who the hell is this?! I get the odd request but then send them a message asking sorry, but do i know you? 9 times out of ten it is just some random and i reject their request!! __________________ Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind

20th Jan 2010, 05:30 AM	#9
SolitaryKnight EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: the family knows and some other people Location: Atlantic Canada Age: 27 Posts: 360 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Who the hell is this?! I had a couple random people add me on facebook when I first started. I think they actually mistook me for someone else and later dropped off my friend list, lol. But yeah, I had one person add me where I was like, I have no bloody clue who you are. It turned out to be someone I knew on a forum and didn't know his actual name but I had told him mine. He's not a creepy, a really good person (also lives across the ocean, so I know he isn't stalking me, lol). __________________ To conquer oneself is the best and noblest victory; to be vanquished by one's own nature is the worst and most ignoble defeat. ~ Plato

20th Jan 2010, 08:19 AM	#10
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Who the hell is this?! I hate when it's someone you don't know, but you have friends in common. I know they are adding me for a reason but I still wanna reject them. It feels awkward to do so. Usually i leave them in limbo for a while before i make a decision about it. =/ (i am currently in this exact situation) __________________ Âllo Là

20th Jan 2010, 10:07 AM	#12
GhostDog is Spartacus. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: MAGICAL. Out Status: The hiiills are aliiive with the sound of muuusic! Location: DFW area, Texas Age: 24 Posts: 2,503 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Who the hell is this?! Man, that is precisely why, when I add a classmate or somebody, I'll add a damn message. Is it so hard to type, "Hi! I'm (name) from (some party/class/whatever)!" Really? >:[ __________________ <3 Kirah, who may or may not be made of delicious candy (and the lesbians)

20th Jan 2010, 10:13 AM	#13
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Who the hell is this?! I've never had somebody I didn't know add me on facebook or myspace, because that means I sent them a request. And I don't send requests to people I don't know. I've gotten add requests from people I don't know. If I can figure out who they are, I'll add them. If not, I don't. Simple as that. And yes, I end up rejecting a lot of people. I'm not sure why random people think I'd be a good person to know. Lex

20th Jan 2010, 04:23 PM	#14
BrownBoi89 Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone knows except my extended family Location: Vancouver Age: 22 Posts: 101 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Who the hell is this?! Once someone added me and I couldn't remember who she was and we had like 30 mutual friends so I added her. And once I saw her photos I recognized her lol. There was also another time some guy added me but I had no idea who he was and we had some mutual friends. It turns out we went to the same elementary school but he was like 6 years younger than me! So I have no idea how he knew who I was, I remember his sister, but not him lol. But most of the time when people I don't know add me, I don't accept.

20th Jan 2010, 04:28 PM	#15
Jiggles Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Who the hell is this?! I get nothing of the sort on mine Feel left out now!

20th Jan 2010, 05:38 PM	#16
xCrazyInsanity Gay, no. Fabulous, totally. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: All BUT family Location: South-East Pennsylvania Age: 17 Posts: 750 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Who the hell is this?! No, I get the random adds all the time. Most of the time it's the weird stalkers from last year. __________________ This is love, this is not treason.

20th Jan 2010, 06:08 PM	#17
Jeimuzu Wreck Cognition Full Member Gender: Heterogametic Orientation: Rawr. Out Status: 99% out. Location: Middlesbrough Age: 23 Posts: 1,744 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Who the hell is this?! I add tons of people just because. And I get it in return. I use facebook for making friends, not for keeping the ones I already have lol __________________

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20th Jan 2010, 07:11 PM	#18
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,871 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Who the hell is this?! This happens to me quite a bit, especially with people who somehow think it's a great idea to not put up any pictures of themselves. I usually just send them a message asking them how I know them. If they don't have a good answer, I reject the request. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

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Gaetan DON'T TOUCH THE HAT! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Immediate Family and Friends Location: Idaho, USA Age: 25 Posts: 1,098 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Who the hell is this?! I get random requests as well. I usually just ignore them. I really should send a message next time. __________________ Those who say it cannot be done, shouldn't interrupt the people doing it.

20th Jan 2010, 09:49 PM	#20
Johnnieguy EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Twin Cities, MN Age: 25 Posts: 510 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Who the hell is this?! I receive and send requests to people I don't necessarily know...Generally, I will accept any request as long as I see friends in common, but I might block them from seeing some of my personal info. It was easier when facebook had regional networks, because if they are from my region I consider them more "legit." Sometimes though, from looking at their profile, it looks like they are using it as a way to market their small business...Which I'm okay with, but I will generally accept and then remove them in a week or two. I don't consider facebook as just a way to keep up with people I know, but to make new friends as well, which generally start off as conversations began under someone's status. It doesn't happen often, but I've made friends and had roommates with people I've met online.