My First Insult!!! - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

pianomike · 22nd Jan 2010, 11:50 AM

I don't know why i'm so excited but here's the story.
I'm at Wegmans (greatest grocery store ever!!!) with my mom and we are going through the bulk food isle and me and my mom were making up some song about icecream.
Yeah we have our times of humorous silliness.
I'm wearing:

Black jeans from Express
Black shoes form Aldo
Black long trench style winter coat from H&M
and a gray H&M scarf

The look is a masculine look but we are going on about how we should write a musical and giggling and what not and there was this 18-20ish year old guy there with someone and after he thinks i'm out of hearing he says "that kid is a flamer".
I got so excited for some reason and i have no idea why, i've never been called gay or anything like that and i don't mind it at all.
So a few minutes later i saw him in a different isle and winked at him, he then gave me this look of disgust and i laughed and never saw him again.

What a great day!!!!!

Daniel · 22nd Jan 2010, 11:54 AM

Kudos? Although I understand where you are coming from.

I was in a Dunkin' Donuts and some guy got up in my face screaming at me about how I thought I was a "bad assed punk". Not sure why though. His daughter called my friend a "baytch" and my friend shouted back it was pronounced "bitch!" The father took out his rage on me and all I could do was laugh.

Props to the Mike!

Zach1992 · 22nd Jan 2010, 12:12 PM

Congrats!

I want an insult too!

RaeofLite · 22nd Jan 2010, 12:16 PM

...

*raised eyebrow* You guys are... strange. >.<

I don't mind being asked if I'm gay since I'm comfortable with it. But insults? Nooo thankyou.

Zach1992 · 22nd Jan 2010, 12:18 PM

It just makes me feel good. I love to laugh at homophobes and make them feel uncomfortable.

22nd Jan 2010, 12:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RaeofLite

I don't mind being asked if I'm gay since I'm comfortable with it. But insults? Nooo thankyou.

Yeh, but seeing their faces when they realise it doesn't bother you its brilliant! xD I too had my first insult from a class of 20 15 year olds! Looked round, glared at them, shrugged and walked off. Them all going wtf. Was soo funny

RaeofLite · 22nd Jan 2010, 12:29 PM

I suppose. But maybe it's different from a guy's perspective. I mean if a girl says she's gay, the guys are going to likely either a) not believe her b) wanna see girl on girl action (and possibly join) [but that isn't gay....] c) she may have less female friends as a result because they may be uncomfortable and think she'll hit on them... + d) guys will want to hang out with her but hit on her or not want to hang out with her (depending on the guy).
Whereas gay guys (from what I've seen) have no problem finding female friends to hang out with) or another option I cannot think of at the moment.

Stephen505 · 22nd Jan 2010, 12:31 PM

I don't think it's good to "enjoy" making homophobes feel uncomfortable toooo much... But this thread is nice. These scenarios are steps that show: "I'm gay and don't care, why should you?" which lead to people realizing that nothing is wrong with being gay and homophobia is an irrational phobia (just like most others).

I'll have to admit.. it IS fun sometimes though.. <.< .. >.> .. but the greater joy is in helping them overcome their homophobia!

Revan · 22nd Jan 2010, 12:52 PM

I was in Florida at a resort. I was kinda looking around checking out some of the hot guys in the pool area. I walk by two hot guys, and I hear one whisper "he's a faggot". I don't know at first I was excited, but then I'm like no not as much....*shrugs*. Anyway yeah this was me at 16...or 17 one or the other lol.

**Chip** · 22nd Jan 2010, 02:03 PM

The only comment I'd make about this sort of thing is you have to be careful. When you enrage or taunt a bigot or homophobe, you are potentially putting your physical safety at risk. Remember that some homophobes act the way they do because they're closeted, so the likelihood that they'll project their own self-hatred onto you is pretty high.

Mirko · 22nd Jan 2010, 02:19 PM

Although sometimes it can be really nice to 'stick it to someone' but you do have to be careful. I echo the comments made by Chip and Stephen. Even if someone makes a homophobic remark or just says "he is a flamer," sometimes it is best to ignore it and not do something that could potentially provoke a reaction for which you might not be prepared for.

AlmightyFluffy · 22nd Jan 2010, 02:55 PM

I remember in my science class last year, there was a table full of your typical white kids trying to act gangsta near me and my friend. One of them was staring a little too fondly at my friend, so I told her. One of them then shouted out "What'sa matter? You don't check out girls?" And I just leaned over and smiled "No, I'm gay."
Then they all made a horrifyed face and backed away from us. They didn't bother me for a good two months after that. It was amazing. :3

crazydude · 22nd Jan 2010, 02:58 PM

That's great that you were able to not let it bother you, not sure if I'm quite there yet. Hopefully someday....

Zume · 22nd Jan 2010, 03:05 PM

I haven't yet had anyone insult me to my face..only over the internet like Xbox Live..kinda gettin it out of my system I guess and it is still extremely entertaining

..its safe to laugh at them on there.. It wont be such a big deal once it happens to me in person..

But then again like others have said..be careful when standing in front of the person..it can become violent very quickly..there are some people out there who are so homophobic that they result to fists when their insults don't work...

Sylver · 22nd Jan 2010, 08:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SexualTeen

Congrats!

I want an insult too!

If you'd like, I can give it a try.

Here goes....

Nah, can't do it - you're probably too nice of a guy!

Andromeda · 23rd Jan 2010, 12:01 AM

The only insult I ever had was one time a guy yelled "fag" at me because I walked across the street. It was dark and rainy if I can remember right.

He didn't get a good look at me, so i am just assuming he used "fag" as in "loser" so it wasn't directed at me as a person but just to say something to a stranger.

---
scarves are a gay signature that's what probably gave the flamer look.

Starburst · 23rd Jan 2010, 12:20 AM

LOL. Giving him a wink, exactly what I would have done, as well.

Congrats!

AllSmiles · 23rd Jan 2010, 12:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RaeofLite

...

*raised eyebrow* You guys are... strange. >.<

Thank gawd I'm not the only one thinking this.

Seriously, you should be very careful

Connor22 · 23rd Jan 2010, 03:38 AM

lol I've a habit of making bad things worse, like one time (not an anti-gay thing but funny anyway) me and my cousin were getting shouted at by this guy who had the thickest Scottish accent in the history of ever and all I could think to say, instead of sorry for what I'd done, was "dude you have the funniest accent ever"... he didn't take it well :P

pianomike · 23rd Jan 2010, 08:00 AM

Thanks guys for the concern with me being safe but i was in Wegmans so... IDK i just felt like playing around with him so i winked, but if that was on the street, most likely i would not have done that.
But thanks again guys, it's good to know that i'm loved by my EC family!!!

22nd Jan 2010, 11:50 AM	#1
pianomike Your Lover Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Queer Out Status: to only 5 people (and everyone reading this) Location: New York Age: 20 Posts: 358 Join Date: Oct 2008	My First Insult!!! I don't know why i'm so excited but here's the story. I'm at Wegmans (greatest grocery store ever!!!) with my mom and we are going through the bulk food isle and me and my mom were making up some song about icecream. Yeah we have our times of humorous silliness. I'm wearing: Black jeans from Express Black shoes form Aldo Black long trench style winter coat from H&M and a gray H&M scarf The look is a masculine look but we are going on about how we should write a musical and giggling and what not and there was this 18-20ish year old guy there with someone and after he thinks i'm out of hearing he says "that kid is a flamer". I got so excited for some reason and i have no idea why, i've never been called gay or anything like that and i don't mind it at all. So a few minutes later i saw him in a different isle and winked at him, he then gave me this look of disgust and i laughed and never saw him again. What a great day!!!!! __________________ To live would be an awfully big adventure... to die would be an awfully big adventure. - Peter Pan

22nd Jan 2010, 11:54 AM	#2
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: My First Insult!!! Kudos? Although I understand where you are coming from. I was in a Dunkin' Donuts and some guy got up in my face screaming at me about how I thought I was a "bad assed punk". Not sure why though. His daughter called my friend a "baytch" and my friend shouted back it was pronounced "bitch!" The father took out his rage on me and all I could do was laugh. Props to the Mike! __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

22nd Jan 2010, 12:12 PM	#3
Zach1992 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Guys Out Status: Out to friends, some family, & those who ask! Location: New York (State, not city) Age: 21 Posts: 1,171 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: My First Insult!!! Congrats! I want an insult too!

22nd Jan 2010, 12:16 PM	#4
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: My First Insult!!! ... raised eyebrow You guys are... strange. >.< I don't mind being asked if I'm gay since I'm comfortable with it. But insults? Nooo thankyou. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

22nd Jan 2010, 12:18 PM	#5
Zach1992 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Guys Out Status: Out to friends, some family, & those who ask! Location: New York (State, not city) Age: 21 Posts: 1,171 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: My First Insult!!! It just makes me feel good. I love to laugh at homophobes and make them feel uncomfortable.

22nd Jan 2010, 12:29 PM	#7
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: My First Insult!!! I suppose. But maybe it's different from a guy's perspective. I mean if a girl says she's gay, the guys are going to likely either a) not believe her b) wanna see girl on girl action (and possibly join) [but that isn't gay....] c) she may have less female friends as a result because they may be uncomfortable and think she'll hit on them... + d) guys will want to hang out with her but hit on her or not want to hang out with her (depending on the guy). Whereas gay guys (from what I've seen) have no problem finding female friends to hang out with) or another option I cannot think of at the moment. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

22nd Jan 2010, 12:31 PM	#8
Stephen505 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto, ON Age: 21 Posts: 26 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: My First Insult!!! I don't think it's good to "enjoy" making homophobes feel uncomfortable toooo much... But this thread is nice. These scenarios are steps that show: "I'm gay and don't care, why should you?" which lead to people realizing that nothing is wrong with being gay and homophobia is an irrational phobia (just like most others). I'll have to admit.. it IS fun sometimes though.. <.< .. >.> .. but the greater joy is in helping them overcome their homophobia!

22nd Jan 2010, 12:52 PM	#9
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: My First Insult!!! I was in Florida at a resort. I was kinda looking around checking out some of the hot guys in the pool area. I walk by two hot guys, and I hear one whisper "he's a faggot". I don't know at first I was excited, but then I'm like no not as much....shrugs. Anyway yeah this was me at 16...or 17 one or the other lol. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

22nd Jan 2010, 02:03 PM	#10
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 5,576 Join Date: May 2008	Re: My First Insult!!! The only comment I'd make about this sort of thing is you have to be careful. When you enrage or taunt a bigot or homophobe, you are potentially putting your physical safety at risk. Remember that some homophobes act the way they do because they're closeted, so the likelihood that they'll project their own self-hatred onto you is pretty high.

22nd Jan 2010, 02:19 PM	#11
Mirko Molitva Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 35 Posts: 10,052 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: My First Insult!!! Although sometimes it can be really nice to 'stick it to someone' but you do have to be careful. I echo the comments made by Chip and Stephen. Even if someone makes a homophobic remark or just says "he is a flamer," sometimes it is best to ignore it and not do something that could potentially provoke a reaction for which you might not be prepared for. __________________ ~ Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are ~

22nd Jan 2010, 02:55 PM	#12
AlmightyFluffy Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Just about everyone Location: Marysville, Washington Age: 19 Posts: 150 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: My First Insult!!! I remember in my science class last year, there was a table full of your typical white kids trying to act gangsta near me and my friend. One of them was staring a little too fondly at my friend, so I told her. One of them then shouted out "What'sa matter? You don't check out girls?" And I just leaned over and smiled "No, I'm gay." Then they all made a horrifyed face and backed away from us. They didn't bother me for a good two months after that. It was amazing. :3 __________________ On the next secret meeting for the gay agenda, we shall make all the children in America gay through subliminal imagery in Harry Potter's new movie. Tell No one. >:3

22nd Jan 2010, 02:58 PM	#13
crazydude EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I don't care Location: Los Angeles Age: 26 Posts: 421 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: My First Insult!!! That's great that you were able to not let it bother you, not sure if I'm quite there yet. Hopefully someday.... __________________ "Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail" Ralph Waldo Emerson

22nd Jan 2010, 03:05 PM	#14
Zume Furry Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: Oakbank, Manitoba Age: 23 Posts: 962 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: My First Insult!!! I haven't yet had anyone insult me to my face..only over the internet like Xbox Live..kinda gettin it out of my system I guess and it is still extremely entertaining ..its safe to laugh at them on there.. It wont be such a big deal once it happens to me in person.. But then again like others have said..be careful when standing in front of the person..it can become violent very quickly..there are some people out there who are so homophobic that they result to fists when their insults don't work... __________________ "Don't like sugar? I reject your title of gamer." ~ Zume Frostpaw

23rd Jan 2010, 12:01 AM	#16
Andromeda Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 158 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: My First Insult!!! The only insult I ever had was one time a guy yelled "fag" at me because I walked across the street. It was dark and rainy if I can remember right. He didn't get a good look at me, so i am just assuming he used "fag" as in "loser" so it wasn't directed at me as a person but just to say something to a stranger. --- scarves are a gay signature that's what probably gave the flamer look.

23rd Jan 2010, 12:20 AM	#17
Starburst Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Mal-licious <3 Out Status: A few people Location: Indianapolis, IN, USA & Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam. Age: 20 Posts: 130 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: My First Insult!!! LOL. Giving him a wink, exactly what I would have done, as well. Congrats! __________________ I am Amber; cold, dead, and fossilized. But if you are kind enough, please take me by your side! And together, I will once again reveal my shine, and offer you which I have long kept, The magnificence, the prestige of life!

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pianomike Your Lover Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Queer Out Status: to only 5 people (and everyone reading this) Location: New York Age: 20 Posts: 358 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: My First Insult!!! Thanks guys for the concern with me being safe but i was in Wegmans so... IDK i just felt like playing around with him so i winked, but if that was on the street, most likely i would not have done that. But thanks again guys, it's good to know that i'm loved by my EC family!!! __________________ To live would be an awfully big adventure... to die would be an awfully big adventure. - Peter Pan