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knight of ni · 27th Jan 2010, 01:54 PM

So, some people are mentioning that people show up on bi-dar, and this makes me curious. My gaydar is usually fairly reliable (for guys: I'm more or less clueless about girls!), but I have no bi-dar at all. I know quite a few bi people, and the only one of them who would have shown up on gay/bi-dar is the one who is really camp! Even then, I would have thought he was gay, not bi.

So it is just me being clueless? Do you have bi-dar, and how does it work?

Austin · 27th Jan 2010, 01:57 PM

Well I think practically everyone has a gay-dar (straight girls, straight guys, lesbians, gays, bi). It's very easy to tell that a flamboyant guy is gay (well, usually). You may think your gaydar is good but you probably miss 99% of the gay guys who just aren't gay acting. Just saying. That's probably why your "bi-dar" isn't good. Most bi guys aren't extremely flamboyant like a lot of gay guys are. So it's not easy to tell.

Shevanel · 27th Jan 2010, 02:00 PM

Well my Bi-dar looks a bit like this

In all seriousness, I think the terminology is a bit silly. It's just noticing the person isn't completely straight. There really isn't much of a big deal to it, IMO.

littledinosaurs · 27th Jan 2010, 02:12 PM

^What Joey said. It's about noticing that someone is not completely straight. That means maybe you've classified some people as gay but they could actually be Bi. It's really hard to tell if someone is bi unless they say so, are wearing something to indicate such or they are seen hooking up with people from multiple genders, otherwise people tend to default everyone into gay & straight.

Shevanel · 27th Jan 2010, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by littledinosaurs

^What Joey said. It's about noticing that someone is not completely straight. That means maybe you've classified some people as gay but they could actually be Bi. It's really hard to tell if someone is bi unless they say so, are wearing something to indicate such or they are seen hooking up with people from multiple genders, otherwise people tend to default everyone into gay & straight.

Jarrett, sometimes I feel like we're tag-team partners xD <3

littledinosaurs · 27th Jan 2010, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by SurferDude420

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Originally Posted by littledinosaurs

^What Joey said. It's about noticing that someone is not completely straight. That means maybe you've classified some people as gay but they could actually be Bi. It's really hard to tell if someone is bi unless they say so, are wearing something to indicate such or they are seen hooking up with people from multiple genders, otherwise people tend to default everyone into gay & straight.

Jarrett, sometimes I feel like we're tag-team partners xD <3

We totally are

It only makes sense to combine our great knowledge into irrefutable statements!

adam88 · 27th Jan 2010, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by SurferDude420

Well my Bi-dar looks a bit like this

IMO.

"What's all that churning and bubbling? You call that a gaydar screen?"
"No sir. We call it-" *BOOM BOOM BOOM BOOM BOOM BOOM* "Bi-dar."

And you sir get bonus points for using Spaceballs quotes in an argument. I've only known one other person to be able to quote-match me. It was actually quite funny quipping "I said ACROSS her nose, you idiot, not UP IT!" loudly in a crowded bus terminal. She was a girlfriend of a buddy of mine, and he was pretending we didn't exist.

Anyway, back on topic. I think my bidar is pretty good, but my gaydar is on an absolute fritz.

27th Jan 2010, 01:54 PM	#1
knight of ni Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: parents, brothers and friends! Location: Birmingham, UK Age: 26 Posts: 129 Join Date: Jul 2009	Bi-dar? So, some people are mentioning that people show up on bi-dar, and this makes me curious. My gaydar is usually fairly reliable (for guys: I'm more or less clueless about girls!), but I have no bi-dar at all. I know quite a few bi people, and the only one of them who would have shown up on gay/bi-dar is the one who is really camp! Even then, I would have thought he was gay, not bi. So it is just me being clueless? Do you have bi-dar, and how does it work?

27th Jan 2010, 01:57 PM	#2
Austin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people in my life. Location: Orange County, California, USA Age: 19 Posts: 1,790 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Bi-dar? Well I think practically everyone has a gay-dar (straight girls, straight guys, lesbians, gays, bi). It's very easy to tell that a flamboyant guy is gay (well, usually). You may think your gaydar is good but you probably miss 99% of the gay guys who just aren't gay acting. Just saying. That's probably why your "bi-dar" isn't good. Most bi guys aren't extremely flamboyant like a lot of gay guys are. So it's not easy to tell. __________________ Can I sail through the changing ocean tides, can I handle the seasons of my life?

27th Jan 2010, 02:00 PM	#3
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Bi-dar? Well my Bi-dar looks a bit like this In all seriousness, I think the terminology is a bit silly. It's just noticing the person isn't completely straight. There really isn't much of a big deal to it, IMO. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

27th Jan 2010, 02:12 PM	#4
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Bi-dar? ^What Joey said. It's about noticing that someone is not completely straight. That means maybe you've classified some people as gay but they could actually be Bi. It's really hard to tell if someone is bi unless they say so, are wearing something to indicate such or they are seen hooking up with people from multiple genders, otherwise people tend to default everyone into gay & straight. __________________ Âllo Là