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6th Mar 2010, 09:54 PM

So today I was in a mall, and there were these two guys walking around holding hands. They were probably around young high school age. Then all of a sudden, this guy who was walking past them noticed them and said "what the f**k!!" loudly right to their face. And then a bunch of other kids saw them and laughed at them and pointed.

I was pretty shocked, I never expected this kind of thing in this city. Maybe since I don't normally go places where there are high schoolers around I don't see such immaturity.

Anyway I thought they were pretty brave to do that with people like that around.

Zach1992 · 6th Mar 2010, 09:55 PM

What a dick. Can't people just leave other people alone?

6th Mar 2010, 10:02 PM

You know what I've always wanted to do? I've thought of that scenario happening to me, where I would be holding hands with my boyfriend (if I was lucky enough to have one :s) in public and meeting unwanted remarks. Had some guy said that to me and my man you know what I'd do?

I'd pull our hands apart and grab my man's head, pull it into mine,and just French the hell out of him and REALLY give the nosey son of a bitch and those other bigots something to gawk and stare at!

Zach1992 · 6th Mar 2010, 10:05 PM

That is what I want too, Raj. If they get scared by holding hands I would love to see their reactions to me making out with a guy. Or even flirting with D-Bag. (That's the funniest)

Phantasma · 6th Mar 2010, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by SexualTeen

That is what I want too, Raj. If they get scared by holding hands I would love to see their reactions to me making out with a guy. Or even flirting with D-Bag. (That's the funniest)

Uhh.. I'd advise against that for reasons of personal safety.

6th Mar 2010, 10:12 PM

thats really brave of them to do it. Anyway me and the guy I am seeing we hold hands in the street but the area is largely a gay area, but if we not in an gay area we dont do that.

Étoile · 6th Mar 2010, 10:22 PM

No one should have to go through that. Did they continue to hold hands? I hope they did so they can show them that they won't be intimidated by their stupidity.

I would like to hold hands with my boyfriend when I get one, but I really don't know the reactions we'll receive. And for your safety, I advise everyone not to flirt with the stupid.

6th Mar 2010, 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Étoile

No one should have to go through that. Did they continue to hold hands? I hope they did so they can show them that they won't be intimidated by their stupidity.

Yes, they just ignored it and went on.

xballetxbeautyx · 6th Mar 2010, 11:35 PM

That's crazy. With past girlfriends, I have held hands and even made out in public and no one has ever said anything. But once I was on a double date, and the girl and I were holding hands the whole time, and I would say it was pretty apparent that we were a couple. The two guys doubling with us were a bit friskier, though, and we were in the food court of a mall. An old man actually picked up his stuff and moved tables. But I honestly think my guy friend was being a bit intense for public... Holding hands is absolutely a ridiculous thing to have a reaction to.

Jesus. That was supposed to have a point.

RaRa · 6th Mar 2010, 11:38 PM

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Originally Posted by RAJ Aladdin

You know what I've always wanted to do? I've thought of that scenario happening to me, where I would be holding hands with my boyfriend (if I was lucky enough to have one :s) in public and meeting unwanted remarks. Had some guy said that to me and my man you know what I'd do?

I'd pull our hands apart and grab my man's head, pull it into mine,and just French the hell out of him and REALLY give the nosey son of a bitch and those other bigots something to gawk and stare at!

Lmfao. It would probably turn them on, but I'd do that too.

RaeofLite · 6th Mar 2010, 11:44 PM

Yea it's not only with guys. I've gotten the 'what the fuck' and, 'hey lesbos!' before when holding hands with a girlfriend.

Other people just stop what they're doing, stare, and give weird looks. And some people don't seem phased.

Honestly, it's my life and I'm happy so they can stick it where the sun don't shine...

But that's sad to see. I guess some people just grow up really sheltered or they've never had a gay friend.

someguy82 · 7th Mar 2010, 01:18 AM

If I like I a guy, and we're on a date then I'm holding his hand, and I don't care what anyone else says. I'm not big on PDA, but holding hands is nice, and no one should be ashamed to do it ever.

Of course that being said I'm a rather large burly fellow so most people aren't going to say boo to me when I do anything.

x2x2x2x2y2 · 7th Mar 2010, 01:53 AM

I hate stupid people like that.

Katherine · 7th Mar 2010, 07:53 AM

Yeah, my girlfriend and I have gotten quite a few stares holding hands in public. Some people just stare, some walk away, and some look away really quickly like they're trying to be politically correct and NOT stare.

Some of the reactions can be pretty amusing, actually.

someguy82 · 7th Mar 2010, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Katherine

Yeah, my girlfriend and I have gotten quite a few stares holding hands in public. Some people just stare, some walk away, and some look away really quickly like they're trying to be politically correct and NOT stare.

Some of the reactions can be pretty amusing, actually.

I'm egotistical. I like to pretend people are staring because they're jealous lol.

GoBabyGoGo · 7th Mar 2010, 02:50 PM

i always hold hands with my bf in public. i like the weird looks, especially because there is absolutely no stereotypical way to tell that we are gay. i dont give a fuck what others think. i have heared a few nasty comments behind our backs but nothing more than that. most of the looks are just because its something you dont see every day. its great for people to see mm/ff couples in love just as hetero couples, rather than in the sleazy club scene or looking for a quick fuck in the toilets.

RaeofLite · 7th Mar 2010, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by someguy82

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Originally Posted by Katherine

Yeah, my girlfriend and I have gotten quite a few stares holding hands in public. Some people just stare, some walk away, and some look away really quickly like they're trying to be politically correct and NOT stare.

Some of the reactions can be pretty amusing, actually.

I'm egotistical. I like to pretend people are staring because they're jealous lol.

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Originally Posted by GoBabyGoGo

i always hold hands with my bf in public. i like the weird looks, especially because there is absolutely no stereotypical way to tell that we are gay. i dont give a fuck what others think. i have heared a few nasty comments behind our backs but nothing more than that. most of the looks are just because its something you dont see every day. its great for people to see mm/ff couples in love just as hetero couples, rather than in the sleazy club scene or looking for a quick fuck in the toilets.

I agree. Breaking down stereotypes to show that gay couples are just the same, only in different forms is liberating. And helps the overall LGBT image in my opinion.

joezimm48 · 7th Mar 2010, 07:16 PM

I would've kicked the guy in the crotch

littledinosaurs · 7th Mar 2010, 08:12 PM

Whenever I hold hands with a boy in public I usually have a harsh look ready that I glare at people who stare too long. It says "yeah, fucking deal with it and keep walking" and they all have so far.

xequar · 8th Mar 2010, 12:58 PM

I think one of my most enjoyable make-outs with my BF was in front of the fundigelical crazy that was protesting, of all places, at the North American International Auto Show.

6th Mar 2010, 09:54 PM	#1
egnvectr Guest Posts: n/a	guys holding hands in public So today I was in a mall, and there were these two guys walking around holding hands. They were probably around young high school age. Then all of a sudden, this guy who was walking past them noticed them and said "what the f**k!!" loudly right to their face. And then a bunch of other kids saw them and laughed at them and pointed. I was pretty shocked, I never expected this kind of thing in this city. Maybe since I don't normally go places where there are high schoolers around I don't see such immaturity. Anyway I thought they were pretty brave to do that with people like that around.

6th Mar 2010, 09:55 PM	#2
Zach1992 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Guys Out Status: Out to friends, some family, & those who ask! Location: New York (State, not city) Age: 21 Posts: 1,171 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: guys holding hands in public What a dick. Can't people just leave other people alone? __________________ "Sex shouldn't be COMFY!!!"- Lola (Kinky Boots)

6th Mar 2010, 10:02 PM	#3
RAJ Aladdin Guest Posts: n/a	Re: guys holding hands in public You know what I've always wanted to do? I've thought of that scenario happening to me, where I would be holding hands with my boyfriend (if I was lucky enough to have one :s) in public and meeting unwanted remarks. Had some guy said that to me and my man you know what I'd do? I'd pull our hands apart and grab my man's head, pull it into mine,and just French the hell out of him and REALLY give the nosey son of a bitch and those other bigots something to gawk and stare at!

6th Mar 2010, 10:05 PM	#4
Zach1992 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Guys Out Status: Out to friends, some family, & those who ask! Location: New York (State, not city) Age: 21 Posts: 1,171 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: guys holding hands in public That is what I want too, Raj. If they get scared by holding hands I would love to see their reactions to me making out with a guy. Or even flirting with D-Bag. (That's the funniest) __________________ "Sex shouldn't be COMFY!!!"- Lola (Kinky Boots)

6th Mar 2010, 10:12 PM	#6
dude99 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: guys holding hands in public thats really brave of them to do it. Anyway me and the guy I am seeing we hold hands in the street but the area is largely a gay area, but if we not in an gay area we dont do that.

6th Mar 2010, 10:22 PM	#7
Étoile He ate my heart Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: 95% Gay, 5% Cheesecake Out Status: Out to everyone Location: The Peach State Age: 20 Posts: 1,575 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: guys holding hands in public No one should have to go through that. Did they continue to hold hands? I hope they did so they can show them that they won't be intimidated by their stupidity. I would like to hold hands with my boyfriend when I get one, but I really don't know the reactions we'll receive. And for your safety, I advise everyone not to flirt with the stupid. __________________ "I love that lavender blonde; the way she moves, the way she walks, I touch myself, can't get enough."

6th Mar 2010, 11:35 PM	#9
xballetxbeautyx Heterodox Homosexual Full Member Gender: (.)(.) Orientation: Kinsey 5? Ish? Out Status: If you don't know, where have you been all my life Location: Midwest USA Age: 17 Posts: 1,719 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: guys holding hands in public That's crazy. With past girlfriends, I have held hands and even made out in public and no one has ever said anything. But once I was on a double date, and the girl and I were holding hands the whole time, and I would say it was pretty apparent that we were a couple. The two guys doubling with us were a bit friskier, though, and we were in the food court of a mall. An old man actually picked up his stuff and moved tables. But I honestly think my guy friend was being a bit intense for public... Holding hands is absolutely a ridiculous thing to have a reaction to. Jesus. That was supposed to have a point. __________________ I can't go to Pigfarts! IT'S ON MARS. You need a rocketship! Do you have a rocketship, Potter? Look at this - it's Rocketship Potter! Starkid Potter! Moonshoes Potter! Traversing the galaxy for intergalactic travels to Pigfarts!

6th Mar 2010, 11:44 PM	#11
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: guys holding hands in public Yea it's not only with guys. I've gotten the 'what the fuck' and, 'hey lesbos!' before when holding hands with a girlfriend. Other people just stop what they're doing, stare, and give weird looks. And some people don't seem phased. Honestly, it's my life and I'm happy so they can stick it where the sun don't shine... But that's sad to see. I guess some people just grow up really sheltered or they've never had a gay friend. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

7th Mar 2010, 01:18 AM	#12
someguy82 ... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 29 Posts: 313 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: guys holding hands in public If I like I a guy, and we're on a date then I'm holding his hand, and I don't care what anyone else says. I'm not big on PDA, but holding hands is nice, and no one should be ashamed to do it ever. Of course that being said I'm a rather large burly fellow so most people aren't going to say boo to me when I do anything.

7th Mar 2010, 01:53 AM	#13
x2x2x2x2y2 PARAWHORE!!!!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: ~I like guys~ Out Status: Everyone, pretty much. Location: Wonderland (and California, USA) Age: 18 Posts: 3,971 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: guys holding hands in public I hate stupid people like that. __________________ "THINGS ARE LOOKING UP, OH FINALLY!!" "I believe that there's hope buried beneath it all and...Hiding beneath it all and... GROWING beneath it all!!" -Paramore ...and the lesbians

7th Mar 2010, 07:53 AM	#14
Katherine Professional Cuddler Full Member Gender: 75% female Orientation: 110% gay Out Status: 98% out Location: The land of rednecks and pine trees (Georgia) Age: 19 Posts: 1,745 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: guys holding hands in public Yeah, my girlfriend and I have gotten quite a few stares holding hands in public. Some people just stare, some walk away, and some look away really quickly like they're trying to be politically correct and NOT stare. Some of the reactions can be pretty amusing, actually. __________________ Overly emotional five-foot-tall vegetarian gamer girl who procrastinates way too much. Loves food, art, cats, and making people smile.

7th Mar 2010, 02:50 PM	#16
GoBabyGoGo Music Nerd. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: 99% Location: Sydney, Australia Age: 20 Posts: 433 Join Date: May 2007	Re: guys holding hands in public i always hold hands with my bf in public. i like the weird looks, especially because there is absolutely no stereotypical way to tell that we are gay. i dont give a fuck what others think. i have heared a few nasty comments behind our backs but nothing more than that. most of the looks are just because its something you dont see every day. its great for people to see mm/ff couples in love just as hetero couples, rather than in the sleazy club scene or looking for a quick fuck in the toilets. __________________ "If I were you, I'd have sex with me!"

7th Mar 2010, 07:16 PM	#18
joezimm48 Where's my closet door? Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayyyyy Out Status: Apparently, Everyone. Who knew? Location: Duluth, Minnesota Age: 15 Posts: 99 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: guys holding hands in public I would've kicked the guy in the crotch __________________ Hey wait, where's my closet door?

7th Mar 2010, 08:12 PM	#19
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: guys holding hands in public Whenever I hold hands with a boy in public I usually have a harsh look ready that I glare at people who stare too long. It says "yeah, fucking deal with it and keep walking" and they all have so far. __________________ Âllo Là

8th Mar 2010, 12:58 PM	#20
xequar Diapered and collared! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I have "The Gay." :) Out Status: Loud and proud! Location: Detroit area, Michigan Age: 30 Posts: 1,746 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: guys holding hands in public I think one of my most enjoyable make-outs with my BF was in front of the fundigelical crazy that was protesting, of all places, at the North American International Auto Show. __________________

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