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RaeofLite · 23rd Mar 2010, 12:13 PM

about your sexual orientation.

I thought about this topic after a conversation I had yesterday with a fellow student in the cafeteria. I had come out to him after taling about my gf a few weeks prior to yesterday, after a heated game of ping-pong with him in the lounge.

He came up to me yesterday, sat down and was rather polite about it. He said, "I don't mean to offend you but... can you tell if other people are gay? Like for real?"

This actually made me smile. I replied with "Well... my radar is on the fritz for now... but honestly, you can never tell unless someone tells you or dresses/acts very stereotypically." *pause* "Why do you ask?"

"Oh... well, I've had some people come up and ask me if I am."

"Hm."

"Do you think I'm gay?"

I didn't want to offend him but he wanted my honest opinion so I told him, "...Well to be honest I did when I met you. But that probably wasn't fair of me to assume based on the tone and sound of your voice and some hand gestures."

"Ugh, I don't get it..."

"Well you know, if you are gay there's nothing wrong with that. Just as there's nothing wrong with the sky being blue or grey."

The poor guy... he says he's straight, but he has a bit of a feminine sounding voice and does some effeminate male hand gestures and I think that's what blips the gaydar of people, even though he is sure he's straight.

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So what are some interesting questions you've been asked since you've come out?
(I apologize if this is in the wrong section. But I figured it's a topic for 'chat'.)

malachite · 23rd Mar 2010, 12:17 PM

I was once asked: "well don't you think what your doing is wrong?"

to which a series of why questions were asked by me, it was fun.

Connor22 · 23rd Mar 2010, 12:37 PM

I got asked once if I was put in a room with this other girl who is apparently very hot (I don't really see it) and she was naked and the door locked, and we weren't allowed out until we had done it, would I do it with her. I really don't know the answer to that but meh, also someone came up to me today and asked if I had shoved a banana (the fruit) up my ass. The answer was a quite angry no.

fallendream · 23rd Mar 2010, 12:44 PM

someone was asking me why gays are gay.
i said simply 'why are you straight'
they replied that 'because being straights right'
i asked why
they told me 'bbbbbut all gay people are wrong and should die!'
i yelled back 'well if you straight people stopped having gay babies!' and walked off feeling rather smug

23rd Mar 2010, 12:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RaeofLite

about your sexual orientation.

I thought about this topic after a conversation I had yesterday with a fellow student in the cafeteria. I had come out to him after taling about my gf a few weeks prior to yesterday, after a heated game of ping-pong with him in the lounge.

He came up to me yesterday, sat down and was rather polite about it. He said, "I don't mean to offend you but... can you tell if other people are gay? Like for real?"

This actually made me smile. I replied with "Well... my radar is on the fritz for now... but honestly, you can never tell unless someone tells you or dresses/acts very stereotypically." *pause* "Why do you ask?"

"Oh... well, I've had some people come up and ask me if I am."

"Hm."

"Do you think I'm gay?"

I didn't want to offend him but he wanted my honest opinion so I told him, "...Well to be honest I did when I met you. But that probably wasn't fair of me to assume based on the tone and sound of your voice and some hand gestures."

"Ugh, I don't get it..."

"Well you know, if you are gay there's nothing wrong with that. Just as there's nothing wrong with the sky being blue or grey."

The poor guy... he says he's straight, but he has a bit of a feminine sounding voice and does some effeminate male hand gestures and I think that's what blips the gaydar of people, even though he is sure he's straight.

-------------------
----
So what are some interesting questions you've been asked since you've come out?
(I apologize if this is in the wrong section. But I figured it's a topic for 'chat'.)

i actually feel sorry for the guy. my voice isnt feminine but its a different sound to most guys. maybe you could say i still sound like a young lad. people assume im gay from that tho, well alot of people do anyway, i just shrug it off. its either im gay or im a rite wee chav hahha.

djt820 · 23rd Mar 2010, 01:36 PM

"Is there such thing as a selfless act?"
To which I answered no to.
"Could I spread cheesecake on your nipples?"

GhostDog · 23rd Mar 2010, 10:16 PM

"So do you like butch or femme women?" kinda threw me for sheer bluntness, haha. The answer to which would be "yes", though. =P

That, and my friend once asked me, "So how does it even come up that you start asking yourself if you're a lesbian? Did it just pop into your head one day?" And I had no idea how to answer that. I really couldn't pinpoint when I started questioning. o_O

But that's about it, really. Nothing too exciting. That's what I get for being an art major; nobody ever bats an eye to find out one of us is queer. =P

**Maddy** · 23rd Mar 2010, 10:19 PM

"If you're going to have sex with a girl with a strap-on why not just have sex with a guy?" kind of threw me for a loop. So...much...fail...
I get asked way too many questions about sex. The most common would have to be "what do two girls even do in bed?" immediately followed by "but don't you feel like you're missing out?" I needto give them the studies about girls and penetration.

x2x2x2x2y2 · 23rd Mar 2010, 11:08 PM

My mom - "Why didn't you ever say anything?"

Ugh. Really mom? What was I supposed to say? "How was your day? oh and by the way I like guys!"

Edward · 23rd Mar 2010, 11:53 PM

"What about breasts though??"
To which I gave the (somewhat avoidable) answer:
"Go ask a lesbian, I am not an expert in the field"

**Owen** · 24th Mar 2010, 03:17 AM

My roommate asked me this yesterday when we were talking about the only guy he ever knew who went to a tanning salon. It's not about my orientation per se, but I think it fits the theme of the thread.

Me: "So, was he gay?"
Roommate: "How can I say "super-fag" without offending the gay community?"

x2x2x2x2y2 · 24th Mar 2010, 03:33 AM

Just remembered this one: "So do you wanna be a drag queen?".

xCrazyInsanity · 24th Mar 2010, 04:28 AM

"So... You're a lesbian? WE KNOW THIS!"
So much fail.

also one on my sexuality "Would you do a guy with boobs then?" [wtf?]

**TheEdend** · 24th Mar 2010, 05:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fallendream

someone was asking me why gays are gay.
i said simply 'why are you straight'
they replied that 'because being straights right'
i asked why
they told me 'bbbbbut all gay people are wrong and should die!'
i yelled back 'well if you straight people stopped having gay babies!' and walked off feeling rather smug

Best comeback ever! haha made my day.

Most bizarre question was probably when this kid asked if I was bi because I had been raped when I little. *facepalm*

joshhunt · 24th Mar 2010, 05:44 AM

I remember being asked 'So, are you still gay'.

I still don't understand quite how that works.

Miss Bubbles · 24th Mar 2010, 06:09 AM

One of my str8 friends asked me if i would ever give him a bj if he asked. I told him I had to like someone to do that lol

NickT · 24th Mar 2010, 01:07 PM

Person (male): "Have you at least tried a girl?"
Me: "Have you at least tried a guy?"

Zumbro · 24th Mar 2010, 01:20 PM

I had a friend who just had some crazy stupid moments.

"Wait, so do gay people watch gay porn?"
*facepalm*
"So do lesbians like lesbian porn then too?"
*sigh* They don't just make it for straight guys ya know.

I then had to proceed to convince him that he was metro, and not gay just because he could admit when another guy was good-looking. Not that it stops gay people from hitting on him, but he could start wearing guys pants, and maybe not work at Hot Topic :P

AlyssWonderland · 24th Mar 2010, 01:50 PM

"How do you know if you're gay?"

...how do YOU know that you're STRAIGHT?

Andr8150 · 24th Mar 2010, 02:17 PM

well it wasnt a question but i got "i'm glad im not in gym class with you beacuse i wouldnt want you to look at me in the changeroom" to which i said "dont flatter yourself"...he didnt get it. :P

23rd Mar 2010, 12:13 PM	#1
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	The most interesting questions people have asked you... about your sexual orientation. I thought about this topic after a conversation I had yesterday with a fellow student in the cafeteria. I had come out to him after taling about my gf a few weeks prior to yesterday, after a heated game of ping-pong with him in the lounge. He came up to me yesterday, sat down and was rather polite about it. He said, "I don't mean to offend you but... can you tell if other people are gay? Like for real?" This actually made me smile. I replied with "Well... my radar is on the fritz for now... but honestly, you can never tell unless someone tells you or dresses/acts very stereotypically." pause "Why do you ask?" "Oh... well, I've had some people come up and ask me if I am." "Hm." "Do you think I'm gay?" I didn't want to offend him but he wanted my honest opinion so I told him, "...Well to be honest I did when I met you. But that probably wasn't fair of me to assume based on the tone and sound of your voice and some hand gestures." "Ugh, I don't get it..." "Well you know, if you are gay there's nothing wrong with that. Just as there's nothing wrong with the sky being blue or grey." The poor guy... he says he's straight, but he has a bit of a feminine sounding voice and does some effeminate male hand gestures and I think that's what blips the gaydar of people, even though he is sure he's straight. ------------------- ---- So what are some interesting questions you've been asked since you've come out? (I apologize if this is in the wrong section. But I figured it's a topic for 'chat'.) __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

23rd Mar 2010, 12:17 PM	#2
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... I was once asked: "well don't you think what your doing is wrong?" to which a series of why questions were asked by me, it was fun. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

23rd Mar 2010, 12:37 PM	#3
Connor22 Stopped being (as) vague Full Member Gender: yes Orientation: up the bender Out Status: burned Narnia :D Location: Norn Iron Age: 17 Posts: 1,547 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... I got asked once if I was put in a room with this other girl who is apparently very hot (I don't really see it) and she was naked and the door locked, and we weren't allowed out until we had done it, would I do it with her. I really don't know the answer to that but meh, also someone came up to me today and asked if I had shoved a banana (the fruit) up my ass. The answer was a quite angry no. __________________ Kindness is a gift. Share it.

23rd Mar 2010, 12:44 PM	#4
fallendream EC Addict Full Member Gender: manlyman, hwar! Orientation: i have a floppy wrist? Out Status: i left aslan... Age: 17 Posts: 945 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... someone was asking me why gays are gay. i said simply 'why are you straight' they replied that 'because being straights right' i asked why they told me 'bbbbbut all gay people are wrong and should die!' i yelled back 'well if you straight people stopped having gay babies!' and walked off feeling rather smug __________________ [seanathon] 1:09 am: You think I'm not naked? [seanathon] 1:09 am: I've got an ice pack tied to my head using socks.

23rd Mar 2010, 01:36 PM	#6
djt820 Brutally Honest Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: DICKS EVERYWHERE Out Status: Like A Cock Slapping Your Face Kind-of Out. Location: SoCal Age: 19 Posts: 1,282 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... "Is there such thing as a selfless act?" To which I answered no to. "Could I spread cheesecake on your nipples?" __________________

23rd Mar 2010, 10:16 PM	#7
GhostDog is Spartacus. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: MAGICAL. Out Status: The hiiills are aliiive with the sound of muuusic! Location: DFW area, Texas Age: 24 Posts: 2,503 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... "So do you like butch or femme women?" kinda threw me for sheer bluntness, haha. The answer to which would be "yes", though. =P That, and my friend once asked me, "So how does it even come up that you start asking yourself if you're a lesbian? Did it just pop into your head one day?" And I had no idea how to answer that. I really couldn't pinpoint when I started questioning. o_O But that's about it, really. Nothing too exciting. That's what I get for being an art major; nobody ever bats an eye to find out one of us is queer. =P __________________ <3 Kirah, who may or may not be made of delicious candy (and the lesbians)

23rd Mar 2010, 10:19 PM	#8
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,704 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... "If you're going to have sex with a girl with a strap-on why not just have sex with a guy?" kind of threw me for a loop. So...much...fail... I get asked way too many questions about sex. The most common would have to be "what do two girls even do in bed?" immediately followed by "but don't you feel like you're missing out?" I needto give them the studies about girls and penetration. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

23rd Mar 2010, 11:08 PM	#9
x2x2x2x2y2 PARAWHORE!!!!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: ~I like guys~ Out Status: Everyone, pretty much. Location: Wonderland (and California, USA) Age: 18 Posts: 3,971 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... My mom - "Why didn't you ever say anything?" Ugh. Really mom? What was I supposed to say? "How was your day? oh and by the way I like guys!" __________________ "THINGS ARE LOOKING UP, OH FINALLY!!" "I believe that there's hope buried beneath it all and...Hiding beneath it all and... GROWING beneath it all!!" -Paramore ...and the lesbians

23rd Mar 2010, 11:53 PM	#10
Edward Aperture Science Participant Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne (near the CBD) Age: 19 Posts: 8 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... "What about breasts though??" To which I gave the (somewhat avoidable) answer: "Go ask a lesbian, I am not an expert in the field" __________________ You think you're doing some damage? Two plus two is ten... IN BASE FOUR! I'M FINE!

24th Mar 2010, 03:17 AM	#11
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,871 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... My roommate asked me this yesterday when we were talking about the only guy he ever knew who went to a tanning salon. It's not about my orientation per se, but I think it fits the theme of the thread. Me: "So, was he gay?" Roommate: "How can I say "super-fag" without offending the gay community?" __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

24th Mar 2010, 03:33 AM	#12
x2x2x2x2y2 PARAWHORE!!!!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: ~I like guys~ Out Status: Everyone, pretty much. Location: Wonderland (and California, USA) Age: 18 Posts: 3,971 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... Just remembered this one: "So do you wanna be a drag queen?". __________________ "THINGS ARE LOOKING UP, OH FINALLY!!" "I believe that there's hope buried beneath it all and...Hiding beneath it all and... GROWING beneath it all!!" -Paramore ...and the lesbians

24th Mar 2010, 04:28 AM	#13
xCrazyInsanity Gay, no. Fabulous, totally. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: All BUT family Location: South-East Pennsylvania Age: 17 Posts: 750 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... "So... You're a lesbian? WE KNOW THIS!" So much fail. also one on my sexuality "Would you do a guy with boobs then?" [wtf?] __________________ This is love, this is not treason.

24th Mar 2010, 05:44 AM	#15
joshhunt Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Your Mum Posts: 74 Join Date: May 2008	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... I remember being asked 'So, are you still gay'. I still don't understand quite how that works.

24th Mar 2010, 06:09 AM	#16
Miss Bubbles EC Addict Full Member Gender: confused on some levels Orientation: of the homosexual persuation. Out Status: So out im in Location: Indiana Age: 19 Posts: 1,037 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... One of my str8 friends asked me if i would ever give him a bj if he asked. I told him I had to like someone to do that lol __________________ A Dialogue my besty made up in first period: Oh this reminds me of the time joan rivers made that fatal mistake: Oh apples how I hunger for youuuuu. "Joan Don't Touch those!" -bite- -hiss- 'Joan you and adam are cast out of heaven!!!!'-- Ashley D.

24th Mar 2010, 01:07 PM	#17
NickT Mr. Grammar Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Kentucky Posts: 985 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: The most interesting questions people have asked you... Person (male): "Have you at least tried a girl?" Me: "Have you at least tried a guy?" __________________ Gay Pride!

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