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Prccgeek · 28th Mar 2010, 08:33 PM

I was wondering if same-sex couples go to prom in your high schools or the high schools you went to when you were younger. My school is decently accepting... at least in the music drama wing :-) .... but we do have a GSA and do the day of silence and gay pride month, but I have never seen or heard of a same-sex couple going to prom together. I have know gay couples at the school, but they always take someone of the opposite sex to the dances. And I am talking about very confident out couples who have been with each other for years. it just doesn't happen and it sort of makes me sad. For a school that is pretty accepting... is this normal?

xballetxbeautyx · 28th Mar 2010, 08:52 PM

Well... I can't say about prom, because I'm a freshman and not allowed to go yet. But I did go to homecoming. I know of... I think... five? Question mark? Anyways, somewhere around five gay people in the school. 1) A senior boy. I don't know about homecoming or prom, but I know he brought a girl to the winter dance. 2) A senior girl who I've never spoken to. I don't know who she brought to dances, or if she goes. 3) A junior girl who planned on bringing her girlfriend to homecoming but didn't actually go. 4) A freshman boy who brought a girl to homecoming and went single to the winter dance. 5) Me, I brought a boy from another school to homecoming and also went alone to the winter dance.

Prom might be different, but I don't know. /rambling

Prccgeek · 28th Mar 2010, 09:02 PM

prom or any other dance...I was just thinking prom b/c that is coming up for me.

**Martin** · 28th Mar 2010, 09:12 PM

I don't think any same-sex couples went to my high school prom, but I don't think there was a strong emphasis on pairing up either for it.

I wouldn't know though, to be honest. I never actually went to my prom because I refused to wear the formal clothing. I really dislike wearing suits or tuxedos, so I didn't attend mine because of it. I only have fun when I dress how I want to and not how others demand me too.

Brandford · 28th Mar 2010, 09:12 PM

I think my school would allow it and I'm sure plenty of them do go and honestly if I thought I could find a date or someone at the dance, I would go with someone of the same sex undoubtedly. Of course, I won't find a date so I've decided to just not go. Plus I'm horrible in social situations. Anyway, I say if you can find a same sex date, go with her. I think everyone who can find a same sex date should go to dances, proms and homecoming with them. How can we expect acceptance if we don't show them that it wouldn't be a big deal and that were not afraid to be together around them?

**TheEdend** · 28th Mar 2010, 09:20 PM

My school is pretty accepting and I know that last year there was a gay couple that went to the prom. We have a lot of gay guys that are out at my school but me and my boyfriend are the only couple right now so it feels like everyone is watching us haha. We are planning on attending together and seeing what people tells us.

Im freaking out though. Never been to a dance with a guy before and I have no idea what to do. Also, my boyfriend is pretty jelous so no idea if im going to be dancing with some girls or not. Oh well, time will tell haha

RCooper · 28th Mar 2010, 09:26 PM

I really want to be the first person in my school to bring a date of the same sex. I only have 1 month to get a date. Ahhh!!

elitechris · 28th Mar 2010, 09:46 PM

my school does allow same sex couple to go but i've never seen one...
and there is a GSA and day of silence but i've only seen 1 lesbian couple

this year is my junior prom so if i go i hope i might not be the only gay guy there :S

Bladieu · 10th Apr 2010, 07:23 PM

Surprisingly, my school is very accepting about gay couples going to prom, which makes me very happy. A few years back, I think in '06, we actually had a gay couple as prom king and queen. Yes, the student body actually voted two males as prom kings

. It was really awesome, and I'm super lucky to be able to go to such an accepting school

. This is Virginia for anyone who cares.

**Maddy** · 10th Apr 2010, 08:53 PM

My school formal didn't have a couples arrangement at all. If two people were dating, they just danced together and maybe got a photo taken together. However, I volunteer for a group that's running a formal specifically for queer youth next weekend

jazzrawr · 11th Apr 2010, 08:22 AM

I've never seen it done at my school, to be honest. I don't think there would be much of a problem with it, but I've just never seen it done in high school.
I would bring a girl, but I have no girl to bring. So tht's a no-go. I don't know if I'm even going - if I do, I'm going in a tux. XD

Alex19 · 11th Apr 2010, 09:15 AM

the gay couples at my old high school went to prom/ball together. nobody cared. my school was cool like that

Woot · 11th Apr 2010, 09:24 PM

Gay couples... at my school?! LOL!!! But seriously, no gay couples allowed (they make it clear that it's for male and female couples ONLY).

Lychee · 11th Apr 2010, 09:28 PM

My school is an all-girls school, and whilst we don't have any openly gay people, we are allowed to take people of either gender to the formal. Quite a few people do take girls from outside of school, and it is just assumed that they're going as friends, however, if someone was to bring their girlfriend, the school would be fine with it.

excuseyou77 · 11th Apr 2010, 09:46 PM

I know a couple girls went together to the prom at my school. The teacher that worked on the prom was EXTREMELY open minded so admitting them wasn't ever a problem. If I were more out back then and actually had a date, I would have totally gone with a guy.

It is actually a pretty funny story... she tried to set me up with a girl... basically she wrote me a note asking if I knew a girl, and I wrote back to her saying pretty much in a nutshell "thanks, but no thanks, I'm gay."

carrie90 · 12th Apr 2010, 01:57 PM

No same sex couples went to ours cause we weren't really allowed (It wasn't official that same sex couples couldn't go but strongly implied) so a large groups of us gays went in a big group with each other as fake dates

Totoro · 12th Apr 2010, 05:04 PM

Well my school is a catholic school, so they don't endorse gay couple and that kinda stuff, but they try to promote a non-labeling type thing (no racism, homophobic remarks etc) but even so, they aren't allowing it at our prom

RaeofLite · 12th Apr 2010, 05:40 PM

Wow, that was four years ago for me.. I feel old.

No one that was openly gay attended my highschool prom. At least it wasn't public knowledge. Although a few females went with each other, though not "with each other" as dates, just friends. One girl even wore a snazzy white tux with green collar, belt and boytie etc but I think she just wanted to be different-which is cool.

My highschool was in a small town but my senior prom was in a bigger city.

Étoile · 12th Apr 2010, 06:11 PM

I'm not sure if gay couples are allowed at my school. I heard that this girl last year wasn't allowed to enter with her girlfriend.

I think teachers would let me through with my date. I'm a good kid, teachers never had any problems with me, I don't cause any trouble. The most I'd get would be weird looks and whispers from others. I'm not going to prom, so I'll never find out.

MusicIsLife · 12th Apr 2010, 07:55 PM

My high school is/was known for it being pretty much the ghetto of the LBP school board. 2 drug busts in the 5 years I was there, and one the year before I started (in QC high school is 5 years and not 4). That being said, it was a pretty shitty school. However, it was very liberal when it came to gender/homosexuality/racism/etc. I went to prom with another girl, me in a tux and her in a dress. Though it really looked like we were there "together" we were just friends, and we got no rude comments or anything, at least to our face.

28th Mar 2010, 08:33 PM	#1
Prccgeek yay! EC! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual...what can I say, I like everyone. Out Status: lots of people (except my brother and dad) Location: Minnesota! Age: 19 Posts: 332 Join Date: Apr 2009	same-sex couples a prom I was wondering if same-sex couples go to prom in your high schools or the high schools you went to when you were younger. My school is decently accepting... at least in the music drama wing :-) .... but we do have a GSA and do the day of silence and gay pride month, but I have never seen or heard of a same-sex couple going to prom together. I have know gay couples at the school, but they always take someone of the opposite sex to the dances. And I am talking about very confident out couples who have been with each other for years. it just doesn't happen and it sort of makes me sad. For a school that is pretty accepting... is this normal? __________________ "If homosexuality is a disease, let's all call in queer to work: "Hello. Can't work today, still queer." "Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail."

28th Mar 2010, 08:52 PM	#2
xballetxbeautyx Heterodox Homosexual Full Member Gender: (.)(.) Orientation: Kinsey 5? Ish? Out Status: If you don't know, where have you been all my life Location: Midwest USA Age: 17 Posts: 1,719 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: same-sex couples a prom Well... I can't say about prom, because I'm a freshman and not allowed to go yet. But I did go to homecoming. I know of... I think... five? Question mark? Anyways, somewhere around five gay people in the school. 1) A senior boy. I don't know about homecoming or prom, but I know he brought a girl to the winter dance. 2) A senior girl who I've never spoken to. I don't know who she brought to dances, or if she goes. 3) A junior girl who planned on bringing her girlfriend to homecoming but didn't actually go. 4) A freshman boy who brought a girl to homecoming and went single to the winter dance. 5) Me, I brought a boy from another school to homecoming and also went alone to the winter dance. Prom might be different, but I don't know. /rambling __________________ I can't go to Pigfarts! IT'S ON MARS. You need a rocketship! Do you have a rocketship, Potter? Look at this - it's Rocketship Potter! Starkid Potter! Moonshoes Potter! Traversing the galaxy for intergalactic travels to Pigfarts!

28th Mar 2010, 09:02 PM	#3
Prccgeek yay! EC! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual...what can I say, I like everyone. Out Status: lots of people (except my brother and dad) Location: Minnesota! Age: 19 Posts: 332 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: same-sex couples a prom prom or any other dance...I was just thinking prom b/c that is coming up for me. __________________ "If homosexuality is a disease, let's all call in queer to work: "Hello. Can't work today, still queer." "Do not follow where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail."

28th Mar 2010, 09:12 PM	#4
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,047 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: same-sex couples a prom I don't think any same-sex couples went to my high school prom, but I don't think there was a strong emphasis on pairing up either for it. I wouldn't know though, to be honest. I never actually went to my prom because I refused to wear the formal clothing. I really dislike wearing suits or tuxedos, so I didn't attend mine because of it. I only have fun when I dress how I want to and not how others demand me too. __________________ The blue whale ejaculates up to 40 gallons during sexual intercourse, but only 10 gallons enters the female. Do you still wonder why the sea tastes salty?

28th Mar 2010, 09:12 PM	#5
Brandford Friendly Misanthrope Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: everyone that asks,my mom (i think) and my sister Location: Woodbridge, VA Age: 19 Posts: 6,656 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: same-sex couples a prom I think my school would allow it and I'm sure plenty of them do go and honestly if I thought I could find a date or someone at the dance, I would go with someone of the same sex undoubtedly. Of course, I won't find a date so I've decided to just not go. Plus I'm horrible in social situations. Anyway, I say if you can find a same sex date, go with her. I think everyone who can find a same sex date should go to dances, proms and homecoming with them. How can we expect acceptance if we don't show them that it wouldn't be a big deal and that were not afraid to be together around them?

28th Mar 2010, 09:20 PM	#6
TheEdend Hope will never be silent EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Extended family still doesn't know Location: Orlando, Florida Age: 21 Posts: 2,831 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: same-sex couples a prom My school is pretty accepting and I know that last year there was a gay couple that went to the prom. We have a lot of gay guys that are out at my school but me and my boyfriend are the only couple right now so it feels like everyone is watching us haha. We are planning on attending together and seeing what people tells us. Im freaking out though. Never been to a dance with a guy before and I have no idea what to do. Also, my boyfriend is pretty jelous so no idea if im going to be dancing with some girls or not. Oh well, time will tell haha __________________ “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result” -Gandhi

28th Mar 2010, 09:26 PM	#7
RCooper Yup. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Connecticut Age: 19 Posts: 147 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: same-sex couples a prom I really want to be the first person in my school to bring a date of the same sex. I only have 1 month to get a date. Ahhh!!

28th Mar 2010, 09:46 PM	#8
elitechris i am who i am Full Member Gender: homme Orientation: homosexual Out Status: everyone Location: somewhere sunny, california Age: 18 Posts: 210 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: same-sex couples a prom my school does allow same sex couple to go but i've never seen one... and there is a GSA and day of silence but i've only seen 1 lesbian couple this year is my junior prom so if i go i hope i might not be the only gay guy there :S __________________ "The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts" - FoQ

10th Apr 2010, 07:23 PM	#9
Bladieu Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Me gustan los chicos Out Status: Mostly everyone minus my parents Location: US Age: 17 Posts: 5 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: same-sex couples a prom Surprisingly, my school is very accepting about gay couples going to prom, which makes me very happy. A few years back, I think in '06, we actually had a gay couple as prom king and queen. Yes, the student body actually voted two males as prom kings . It was really awesome, and I'm super lucky to be able to go to such an accepting school . This is Virginia for anyone who cares.

10th Apr 2010, 08:53 PM	#10
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,704 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: same-sex couples a prom My school formal didn't have a couples arrangement at all. If two people were dating, they just danced together and maybe got a photo taken together. However, I volunteer for a group that's running a formal specifically for queer youth next weekend __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

11th Apr 2010, 08:22 AM	#11
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: same-sex couples a prom I've never seen it done at my school, to be honest. I don't think there would be much of a problem with it, but I've just never seen it done in high school. I would bring a girl, but I have no girl to bring. So tht's a no-go. I don't know if I'm even going - if I do, I'm going in a tux. XD __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

11th Apr 2010, 09:15 AM	#12
Alex19 who else but me? Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: homo Out Status: I think everyone knows by now Location: New York Age: 21 Posts: 1,301 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: same-sex couples a prom the gay couples at my old high school went to prom/ball together. nobody cared. my school was cool like that __________________ "It's always darkest before dawn."

11th Apr 2010, 09:24 PM	#13
Woot Woot! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but some family Location: Arkansas Age: 18 Posts: 43 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: same-sex couples a prom Gay couples... at my school?! LOL!!! But seriously, no gay couples allowed (they make it clear that it's for male and female couples ONLY).

11th Apr 2010, 09:28 PM	#14
Lychee EC Addict Full Member Gender: Spazmatazz Orientation: Friendspage Location: Contrabassoon Posts: 1,739 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: same-sex couples a prom My school is an all-girls school, and whilst we don't have any openly gay people, we are allowed to take people of either gender to the formal. Quite a few people do take girls from outside of school, and it is just assumed that they're going as friends, however, if someone was to bring their girlfriend, the school would be fine with it. __________________ We we we so excited.

11th Apr 2010, 09:46 PM	#15
excuseyou77 EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: my mom, few friends Location: Duluth, GA Age: 26 Posts: 834 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: same-sex couples a prom I know a couple girls went together to the prom at my school. The teacher that worked on the prom was EXTREMELY open minded so admitting them wasn't ever a problem. If I were more out back then and actually had a date, I would have totally gone with a guy. It is actually a pretty funny story... she tried to set me up with a girl... basically she wrote me a note asking if I knew a girl, and I wrote back to her saying pretty much in a nutshell "thanks, but no thanks, I'm gay." __________________ "I am human and I need to be loved, just like everybody else does."

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carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: same-sex couples a prom No same sex couples went to ours cause we weren't really allowed (It wasn't official that same sex couples couldn't go but strongly implied) so a large groups of us gays went in a big group with each other as fake dates __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

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Totoro EC's Lurker Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada - Ontario Age: 19 Posts: 487 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: same-sex couples a prom Well my school is a catholic school, so they don't endorse gay couple and that kinda stuff, but they try to promote a non-labeling type thing (no racism, homophobic remarks etc) but even so, they aren't allowing it at our prom __________________

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RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: same-sex couples a prom Wow, that was four years ago for me.. I feel old. No one that was openly gay attended my highschool prom. At least it wasn't public knowledge. Although a few females went with each other, though not "with each other" as dates, just friends. One girl even wore a snazzy white tux with green collar, belt and boytie etc but I think she just wanted to be different-which is cool. My highschool was in a small town but my senior prom was in a bigger city. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

12th Apr 2010, 06:11 PM	#19
Étoile He ate my heart Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: 95% Gay, 5% Cheesecake Out Status: Out to everyone Location: The Peach State Age: 20 Posts: 1,575 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: same-sex couples a prom I'm not sure if gay couples are allowed at my school. I heard that this girl last year wasn't allowed to enter with her girlfriend. I think teachers would let me through with my date. I'm a good kid, teachers never had any problems with me, I don't cause any trouble. The most I'd get would be weird looks and whispers from others. I'm not going to prom, so I'll never find out. __________________ "I love that lavender blonde; the way she moves, the way she walks, I touch myself, can't get enough."

12th Apr 2010, 07:55 PM	#20
MusicIsLife EC Addict Full Member Gender: Not even sure anymore. Something in between. Orientation: I like girls :) Out Status: Everyone on orientation 7 people on trans issue. Location: Montréal, QC Age: 23 Posts: 1,595 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: same-sex couples a prom My high school is/was known for it being pretty much the ghetto of the LBP school board. 2 drug busts in the 5 years I was there, and one the year before I started (in QC high school is 5 years and not 4). That being said, it was a pretty shitty school. However, it was very liberal when it came to gender/homosexuality/racism/etc. I went to prom with another girl, me in a tux and her in a dress. Though it really looked like we were there "together" we were just friends, and we got no rude comments or anything, at least to our face.