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RainbowJay · 2nd Apr 2010, 01:38 PM

Since the guys have this kind of thread and I didn't notice one for the gals (sorry if I missed it), I made one. I'm curious to see what the gals have to say.

so ladies, do you like your women masculine? feminine? a little bit of both? or otherwise?

I like my women as feminine and curvy as they can be XD

GhostDog · 2nd Apr 2010, 05:10 PM

I got asked this once. "So do you like butch women or femme women?" "Yes."

... >.> Haha, I'm really not super picky! I do have a slight preference for girls that lean more butchy or androgynous, but I love me some girly girls too. If she's quirky, has confidence, and doesn't take life too seriously, that wins me over, no matter what style she's rockin'.

That said, purely based on appearances, tomboys totally make my knees melt. But then, so do some of the more feminine ladies! It depends.

Basically I just like women, is what I'm saying? Haha.

pirateninja · 2nd Apr 2010, 05:21 PM

I like my femme girls.

there are some incredibly hot butch girls out there, but being pretty butchy myself, I get along better with them as friends.

RainbowJay · 2nd Apr 2010, 05:24 PM

edit: ^EXACTLY how I feel :]

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Originally Posted by GhostDog

I got asked this once. "So do you like butch women or femme women?" "Yes."

... >.> Haha, I'm really not super picky! I do have a slight preference for girls that lean more butchy or androgynous, but I love me some girly girls too. If she's quirky, has confidence, and doesn't take life too seriously, that wins me over, no matter what style she's rockin'.

That said, purely based on appearances, tomboys totally make my knees melt. But then, so do some of the more feminine ladies! It depends.

Basically I just like women, is what I'm saying? Haha.

I see what you mean :P

I find tomboys and androgynous girls hot too, but I can't imagine dating one 'cus I feel like our personalities will clash or something.

I feel like I'd be the tomboy in the relationship and to contrast with that I'd wanna be with the ultimate femme of the the femmes XD

Strawberry · 2nd Apr 2010, 05:28 PM

I like girls who are at least as girly as I am, and I'm pretty dang feminine myself, so there's my answer. Girly girls tend have a certain cute factor that just drives me wild. (:

Katherine · 2nd Apr 2010, 05:45 PM

Both.

GhostDog · 2nd Apr 2010, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by RainbowJay

I see what you mean :P

I find tomboys and androgynous girls hot too, but I can't imagine dating one 'cus I feel like our personalities will clash or something.

I feel like I'd be the tomboy in the relationship and to contrast with that I'd wanna be with the ultimate femme of the the femmes XD

I can understand that! Whatever works, y'know? I probably lean more on the side of butch than femme myself, on average (though I think actual butches would laugh if I called myself one ;P). I just like the butch and androgynous aesthetic in a girl, but what really makes me fall for a lady is that... Swagger, I guess. That whole, "Life is awesome, I'm awesome, you're awesome, fun is awesome, let's go be awesome together!" attitude. And I've met some girls who had that attitude who wore biker jackets and torn jeans, and I've met others who had it and rocked floral dresses and cute shoes. And oh god, that will turn my knees to jelly.

And I think the style itself is not quite so important to me as much as women just knowing what looks good on them, and, on some level, knowing they look good in it. ;P

AlyssWonderland · 2nd Apr 2010, 07:58 PM

Femme. But I dont like them being annoyingly girly. I'm more in the middle myself, so I would like a girl like that. But idk I just really dont like the butch type. I have some friends like that but I wouldnt date them haha.

xballetxbeautyx · 2nd Apr 2010, 08:27 PM

Up until about January, I would have said femme with some exceptions. Now I can't stop thinking about butch girls...

I'm femme, I guess, leaning more towards andro than I used to, and I'm usually interested in girls older than me... don't know why. But older butch girls make me feel taken care of... is that weird?

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Originally Posted by GhostDog

I just like the butch and androgynous aesthetic in a girl, but what really makes me fall for a lady is that... Swagger, I guess. That whole, "Life is awesome, I'm awesome, you're awesome, fun is awesome, let's go be awesome together!" attitude.

^ This is so true. Confidence makes me fall to pieces (I have none of it, but it's freaking hot).

RaeofLite · 2nd Apr 2010, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by AlyssWonderland

Femme. But I dont like them being annoyingly girly. I'm more in the middle myself, so I would like a girl like that.

I agree with this statement.

However, I've dated another girl in the middle, and it went well, one butch-it was ok, and a few femmes. For me, it seems that I take charge in many cases so it generally seems to work better if I'm with someone who's personality is in the middle or is femme.

MusicIsLife · 2nd Apr 2010, 10:26 PM

i loove butch girls. from Lea Delaria butch to tomboy/soft butch or whatever you wanna call it. I don't mind femme girls, but I have a preference for the boyish type

SaturdaySaviour · 3rd Apr 2010, 04:32 AM

I like girls with at least something butch about them, appearance or attitude wise. Still, I don't think I would get along with a total butch. But hey, who knows.

Apocalypte · 3rd Apr 2010, 08:05 AM

Both, with a slight preference for femmes. I'm a bit on the butch side of things, and I like to feel like I'm "the protector".

zzzzzz13 · 3rd Apr 2010, 01:48 PM

Hmmm i like girls to be around about my level of girlyness, so pretty androgynous leaning slightly more towards girly

but if the personality was there i dont think i would overly care

Courtneyyy · 3rd Apr 2010, 01:51 PM

Fem. I'm pretty girly for the most part and I think fem would be best suited for me.
And then we could share clothes if we were the same size!!!

flymetothemoon · 3rd Apr 2010, 08:24 PM

I like my women more feminine. I'm more on the feminine side myself, and I just tend to get along better with more feminine people. Actually, when I dated men, they were all pretty feminine guys too now that I think about it...

**Chandra** · 3rd Apr 2010, 10:10 PM

Women who are on the femmish side of andro (HELLO THERE) tend to make me drool catch my eye most often, but that's not to say I wouldn't date someone from either end of the butch-femme spectrum. There are lots of other qualities that are far more important to me.

jazzrawr · 5th Apr 2010, 09:22 AM

I like 'em all.

Most girls that I've had intense crushes on have been femme, but that's simply because there aren't any butch women at my school. Except for one. And she is HOT AS ALL HELL.
I find a whole spectrum of butch-femme attractive. ^_^
And Andro girls? Shbjkarah. <3
I just like teh ladehs. =D

joezimm48 · 11th Apr 2010, 03:53 PM

I actually did put one up for the girls but not many answered, your doing a better job i guess

biisme · 11th Apr 2010, 11:31 PM

Well, they're all awesome, but I guess I lean a little more towards femme.

2nd Apr 2010, 01:38 PM	#1
RainbowJay The one that got away Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Facebook, a few friends, hopefully more peeps soon Location: New York Age: 19 Posts: 683 Join Date: Feb 2009	(For Women) Masculine or Feminine? Since the guys have this kind of thread and I didn't notice one for the gals (sorry if I missed it), I made one. I'm curious to see what the gals have to say. so ladies, do you like your women masculine? feminine? a little bit of both? or otherwise? I like my women as feminine and curvy as they can be XD Last edited by RainbowJay; 2nd Apr 2010 at 01:41 PM..

2nd Apr 2010, 05:10 PM	#2
GhostDog is Spartacus. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: MAGICAL. Out Status: The hiiills are aliiive with the sound of muuusic! Location: DFW area, Texas Age: 24 Posts: 2,503 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? I got asked this once. "So do you like butch women or femme women?" "Yes." ... >.> Haha, I'm really not super picky! I do have a slight preference for girls that lean more butchy or androgynous, but I love me some girly girls too. If she's quirky, has confidence, and doesn't take life too seriously, that wins me over, no matter what style she's rockin'. That said, purely based on appearances, tomboys totally make my knees melt. But then, so do some of the more feminine ladies! It depends. Basically I just like women, is what I'm saying? Haha. __________________ <3 Kirah, who may or may not be made of delicious candy (and the lesbians)

2nd Apr 2010, 05:21 PM	#3
pirateninja EC's Sailor Uranus Full Member Gender: Biologically Female Orientation: Heterosexually Challenged Out Status: Most people Location: Bath, England Age: 21 Posts: 5,853 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? I like my femme girls. there are some incredibly hot butch girls out there, but being pretty butchy myself, I get along better with them as friends.

2nd Apr 2010, 05:28 PM	#5
Strawberry <3 Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Some people Location: The Deep South :( Age: 17 Posts: 107 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? I like girls who are at least as girly as I am, and I'm pretty dang feminine myself, so there's my answer. Girly girls tend have a certain cute factor that just drives me wild. (:

2nd Apr 2010, 05:45 PM	#6
Katherine Professional Cuddler Full Member Gender: 75% female Orientation: 110% gay Out Status: 98% out Location: The land of rednecks and pine trees (Georgia) Age: 19 Posts: 1,745 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? Both. __________________ Overly emotional five-foot-tall vegetarian gamer girl who procrastinates way too much. Loves food, art, cats, and making people smile.

2nd Apr 2010, 07:58 PM	#8
AlyssWonderland ninja. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Everyone but extended family. Location: New Hampshire Age: 17 Posts: 670 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? Femme. But I dont like them being annoyingly girly. I'm more in the middle myself, so I would like a girl like that. But idk I just really dont like the butch type. I have some friends like that but I wouldnt date them haha.

2nd Apr 2010, 10:26 PM	#11
MusicIsLife EC Addict Full Member Gender: Not even sure anymore. Something in between. Orientation: I like girls :) Out Status: Everyone on orientation 7 people on trans issue. Location: Montréal, QC Age: 23 Posts: 1,595 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? i loove butch girls. from Lea Delaria butch to tomboy/soft butch or whatever you wanna call it. I don't mind femme girls, but I have a preference for the boyish type

3rd Apr 2010, 04:32 AM	#12
SaturdaySaviour eats crayons and shits rainbows. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Friends! Location: Croatia Age: 18 Posts: 490 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? I like girls with at least something butch about them, appearance or attitude wise. Still, I don't think I would get along with a total butch. But hey, who knows.

3rd Apr 2010, 08:05 AM	#13
Apocalypte Ytse Jamming. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 27 Posts: 2,217 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? Both, with a slight preference for femmes. I'm a bit on the butch side of things, and I like to feel like I'm "the protector". __________________ "I like my beer cold...my TV loud...and my homosexuals flaming." - Homer Simpson

3rd Apr 2010, 01:48 PM	#14
zzzzzz13 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Age: 21 Posts: 313 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? Hmmm i like girls to be around about my level of girlyness, so pretty androgynous leaning slightly more towards girly but if the personality was there i dont think i would overly care

3rd Apr 2010, 01:51 PM	#15
Courtneyyy ColbieMarie Full Member Gender: GIRL Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Mom, brother and close friends Location: Flagstaff, AZ Age: 23 Posts: 975 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? Fem. I'm pretty girly for the most part and I think fem would be best suited for me. And then we could share clothes if we were the same size!!! __________________

3rd Apr 2010, 08:24 PM	#16
flymetothemoon EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: It's not about gender, I just like people... Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Albany, NY Age: 25 Posts: 467 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? I like my women more feminine. I'm more on the feminine side myself, and I just tend to get along better with more feminine people. Actually, when I dated men, they were all pretty feminine guys too now that I think about it... __________________ Somehow I can't believe that there are any heights that can't be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true...curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy. ~ Walt Disney

3rd Apr 2010, 10:10 PM	#17
Chandra Empty Closets Advisor EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: somewhere over the rainbow Out Status: Out to most people Posts: 782 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? Women who are on the femmish side of andro (HELLO THERE) tend to make me drool catch my eye most often, but that's not to say I wouldn't date someone from either end of the butch-femme spectrum. There are lots of other qualities that are far more important to me.

5th Apr 2010, 09:22 AM	#18
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? I like 'em all. Most girls that I've had intense crushes on have been femme, but that's simply because there aren't any butch women at my school. Except for one. And she is HOT AS ALL HELL. I find a whole spectrum of butch-femme attractive. ^_^ And Andro girls? Shbjkarah. <3 I just like teh ladehs. =D __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

11th Apr 2010, 03:53 PM	#19
joezimm48 Where's my closet door? Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayyyyy Out Status: Apparently, Everyone. Who knew? Location: Duluth, Minnesota Age: 15 Posts: 99 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: (For Women) Masculine or Feminine? I actually did put one up for the girls but not many answered, your doing a better job i guess __________________ Hey wait, where's my closet door?

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