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**Chandra** · 9th Apr 2010, 06:21 PM

I'm never sure where to put new threads. I'm not really asking for support or advice, although if you want to offer some that's cool.

Anyway, I'm all nervous! I've signed up to volunteer at a dance being held by a local LGBT organization. This is the first event of this kind I've ever been to, and I won't know anybody there. (That's why I decided to volunteer - I figured it'd be better than showing up alone and standing in a corner. At least I'll have something to do...) I'm not going with the expectation of meeting anybody, or whatever - from what I've heard, the events around here are mostly attended by older people. But I figure, who knows. It's better than sitting around at home wondering how I'm supposed to meet other queer peeps. Haha

I'm also a tiny bit nervous that I'll see this girl there I used to work with - she's openly in a relationship with another woman, and at the time I worked with her I was just starting to tentatively question myself, and I used to blush around her like crazy. (I wasn't attracted to her, but I think somewhere in my subconscious I was afraid I'd ping her gaydar or something.) Anyway, if she sees me there I dunno how she'll react, but it could either be really embarrassing or really funny.

Ah, the life of a shy person. What fun. Thanks for reading.

Geradeth · 9th Apr 2010, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Chandra

...It's better than sitting around at home wondering how I'm supposed to meet other queer peeps. Haha...

...Ah, the life of a shy person. What fun. Thanks for reading.

You have just pretty accurately described my life right now... I don't know what part of the Okanagan you're from, but his whole general area of BC seems pretty dead to me from what I've been able to tell...

Anyways, if it's not too much trouble, please keep this thread updated after you've gone the the event, I'd very much like to hear how it goes and perhaps pick up some pointers for myself!

**Chandra** · 10th Apr 2010, 07:47 PM

Yeah, there doesn't seem to be much outside of Vancouver. I found this organization by Googling "LGBT Okanagan". You could maybe try the same for Kamloops?

I'll definitely let you know how it goes.

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Edit: Here, I Googled it for ya: http://www.gaykamloops.ca/

**Chandra** · 17th Apr 2010, 06:42 PM

So this is tonight, and I'm leaving in an hour or so. Trying not to be nervous!

RaeofLite · 17th Apr 2010, 09:20 PM

Good luck. Have fun. The Okanagan gay scene seems pretty friendly from what I've seen so far.

**Chandra** · 18th Apr 2010, 09:50 AM

I ended up having a pretty good time! There were people of all different ages, and the music wasn't as terrible as I thought it might be. :P

I ended up chatting most of the night with this cute couple from a nearby town who also didn't really know anybody there. They were quite a bit younger than me, but I always seem to end up hanging out with younger people. I was all, "I decided to volunteer instead of standing in the corner by myself," and they were all, "Yeah, us too!"

Geradeth · 18th Apr 2010, 09:50 AM

So, how did it go? Did you have fun?

**Chandra** · 18th Apr 2010, 09:52 AM

Haha, we must have posted at the same time. See above ^ ^

Geradeth · 18th Apr 2010, 12:36 PM

Missed it by that much! (posting before you)

I'm glad you had a good time!!

Mirko · 18th Apr 2010, 01:02 PM

Glad you had a great time Chandra!

9th Apr 2010, 06:21 PM	#1
Chandra Empty Closets Advisor EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: somewhere over the rainbow Out Status: Out to most people Posts: 782 Join Date: Jan 2010	My first foray into the gay-o-sphere I'm never sure where to put new threads. I'm not really asking for support or advice, although if you want to offer some that's cool. Anyway, I'm all nervous! I've signed up to volunteer at a dance being held by a local LGBT organization. This is the first event of this kind I've ever been to, and I won't know anybody there. (That's why I decided to volunteer - I figured it'd be better than showing up alone and standing in a corner. At least I'll have something to do...) I'm not going with the expectation of meeting anybody, or whatever - from what I've heard, the events around here are mostly attended by older people. But I figure, who knows. It's better than sitting around at home wondering how I'm supposed to meet other queer peeps. Haha I'm also a tiny bit nervous that I'll see this girl there I used to work with - she's openly in a relationship with another woman, and at the time I worked with her I was just starting to tentatively question myself, and I used to blush around her like crazy. (I wasn't attracted to her, but I think somewhere in my subconscious I was afraid I'd ping her gaydar or something.) Anyway, if she sees me there I dunno how she'll react, but it could either be really embarrassing or really funny. Ah, the life of a shy person. What fun. Thanks for reading.

10th Apr 2010, 07:47 PM	#3
Chandra Empty Closets Advisor EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: somewhere over the rainbow Out Status: Out to most people Posts: 782 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: My first foray into the gay-o-sphere Yeah, there doesn't seem to be much outside of Vancouver. I found this organization by Googling "LGBT Okanagan". You could maybe try the same for Kamloops? I'll definitely let you know how it goes. ---------- Edit: Here, I Googled it for ya: http://www.gaykamloops.ca/ Last edited by Chandra; 10th Apr 2010 at 07:50 PM..

17th Apr 2010, 06:42 PM	#4
Chandra Empty Closets Advisor EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: somewhere over the rainbow Out Status: Out to most people Posts: 782 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: My first foray into the gay-o-sphere So this is tonight, and I'm leaving in an hour or so. Trying not to be nervous!

17th Apr 2010, 09:20 PM	#5
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: My first foray into the gay-o-sphere Good luck. Have fun. The Okanagan gay scene seems pretty friendly from what I've seen so far. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

18th Apr 2010, 09:50 AM	#6
Chandra Empty Closets Advisor EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: somewhere over the rainbow Out Status: Out to most people Posts: 782 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: My first foray into the gay-o-sphere I ended up having a pretty good time! There were people of all different ages, and the music wasn't as terrible as I thought it might be. :P I ended up chatting most of the night with this cute couple from a nearby town who also didn't really know anybody there. They were quite a bit younger than me, but I always seem to end up hanging out with younger people. I was all, "I decided to volunteer instead of standing in the corner by myself," and they were all, "Yeah, us too!"

18th Apr 2010, 09:50 AM	#7
Geradeth A clever user title goes here... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but distant friends and extended family Location: Victoria, BC, Canada Age: 24 Posts: 121 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: My first foray into the gay-o-sphere So, how did it go? Did you have fun?

18th Apr 2010, 09:52 AM	#8
Chandra Empty Closets Advisor EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: somewhere over the rainbow Out Status: Out to most people Posts: 782 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: My first foray into the gay-o-sphere Haha, we must have posted at the same time. See above ^ ^

18th Apr 2010, 12:36 PM	#9
Geradeth A clever user title goes here... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but distant friends and extended family Location: Victoria, BC, Canada Age: 24 Posts: 121 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: My first foray into the gay-o-sphere Missed it by that much! (posting before you) I'm glad you had a good time!!

18th Apr 2010, 01:02 PM	#10
Mirko Molitva Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 35 Posts: 10,055 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: My first foray into the gay-o-sphere Glad you had a great time Chandra! __________________ ~ Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are ~