Friends

[IsItSo]

It's a stereotype that gay guys' best friends are girls, but it's one I perfectly fit. Literally, I have only friend at school who's a guy, and I only became friends with him after one of my (female) friends started going out with him. Outside of school, things are mostly similar. Is your situation similar? And the thing is that essentially all of the guys at my school are either druggies, jocks, nerdy assholes, or preppy bastards. My immediate reaction is not to care, but then I start thinking and realize that I'll never have a relationship until I start hanging out with guys more. So where can I find a guy who's not totally undesirable?

On a somewhat similar topic, I just want to whine about how I have no close friends at school and how nobody cool lives in my town.

[Pepsi]

Well most of my close friends are girls but not all of them, I also have close guy friends. Although my close guy friends are gay :P

[RaeofLite]

Well if it's any condolensce, I feel your pain at times. It's tough for me to make friends that are female. Many females seem to be weirded out or unsure of me because I am attracted to women, whereas some guys either want to be my friend to see me make out with my gf or they want me to cross the street. So I generally get along better with bisexual guys/gals and gay males because of that issue. *shrug*

But just keep looking. There are probably decent people out there. Have you tried looking for LGBT groups or sports in your area? If you have a PFLAG or gay club in your area that'd be a good place to start since you'll find like minded people.

[4 seat]

I don't have too many friends that are girls and I don't have any gay/lesbian friends. LIke 80-90% of my friends are straight guys. I get along perfectly well with girls, but I have pretty much "straight guy" interests (except for 1, haha) and can't hang with most women all day. Plus, my guy friends are just more fun.

[Windmills]

You're definitely not alone in having mainly female friends. Aside from one of my best friends, practically all of my friends are women. The important thing is not to get stuck only talking to girls. For me, I got into the habit of shutting out other guys and only talking to girls (I think as a way of trying to convince myself I wasn't gay--see the irony there?), which has left me somewhat uncomfortable around guys and makes it impossible to meet any. So, just talk to other guys at school and elsewhere; the more guys you talk to, the more likely you'll find some you like.

[MusicIsLife]

i break the stereotype I guess, my male friends are either gay or are the douchey "i'm one of the guys since i like girls" type, but 85% of my friends are female and straight. It may be because of the area in which i live, but most people could care less which gender I date.

I break the stereotype too in that I have more male friends than female friends. 4 seat pretty much describes me: mostly straight guy friends, no gay/lesbian friends, though I do know a bisexual male. I can't seem to get along with girls though, I feel that I'm treated like garbage by most. I have no idea if it has to do with the way I look or whatever.

[Harve]

I go against the stereotype i guess. But i agree with you, i could've quite easily lost a lot of guy friends when i came out, whereas most girls didn't care.

[Totoro]

Yea i also have many guy friends, only this year have i really expanded my circle of friends beyond well, my small group. I don't really know, but i could suspect a few people within my circle to be gay, though really in the closet as well =\

[TheEdend]

I know what you mean. I'm more like you. All of my best friends have always been girls and guys I just talk to when my good girl friends aren't around haha I really think its not about sexuality though. I have 3 straight guy friends that don't have one close guy friend. One of them being my bestfriends boyfriend haha

My boyfriend in the other hand is the total opposite. All of his bestfriends are straight guys.

Anyway, here is a poll that someone made not too long ago about it.

Do you think it is it easier to befriend women?

Originally Posted by IsItSo

It's a stereotype that gay guys' best friends are girls, but it's one I perfectly fit. Literally, I have only friend at school who's a guy, and I only became friends with him after one of my (female) friends started going out with him. Outside of school, things are mostly similar. Is your situation similar? And the thing is that essentially all of the guys at my school are either druggies, jocks, nerdy assholes, or preppy bastards. My immediate reaction is not to care, but then I start thinking and realize that I'll never have a relationship until I start hanging out with guys more. So where can I find a guy who's not totally undesirable?

On a somewhat similar topic, I just want to whine about how I have no close friends at school and how nobody cool lives in my town.

I know a guy that just about all his friends he hangs out and prefers to hang out with are female but recently got himself a boyfriend. So I would not worry about that issue so much if I were you. There would be opportunities to meet guys and get to know guys but I just dont see you have a problem and you are very young. You have your hole life ahead of you.

[Austin]

Eh, when you get a bf, they won't have anything to be jealous of, so thats good.

[thevre]

Mostly female. But I do have several close male friends who make fun of me for being gay- I only encourage it by doing/saying things to freak them out. I love them all.

[malachite]

I've got mostly guy friends, I think girls find me obnoxious

[Kenko]

Originally Posted by IsItSo

It's a stereotype that gay guys' best friends are girls, but it's one I perfectly fit. Literally, I have only friend at school who's a guy, and I only became friends with him after one of my (female) friends started going out with him. Outside of school, things are mostly similar. Is your situation similar? And the thing is that essentially all of the guys at my school are either druggies, jocks, nerdy assholes, or preppy bastards. My immediate reaction is not to care, but then I start thinking and realize that I'll never have a relationship until I start hanging out with guys more. So where can I find a guy who's not totally undesirable?

On a somewhat similar topic, I just want to whine about how I have no close friends at school and how nobody cool lives in my town.

No, I mostly hung out with guys. I'm nerdy, but hopefully not a nerdy asshole There were a couple of gays in my high school that had a lot of female friends.

The thing is, as far as relationships, you need to hang out around GAY guys, not just any guy, otherwise you'll just end up with a bunch of useless straight crushes.

[SolitaryKnight]

I tend to get along better with girls than with guys, but my two best friends are both guys. I tend to get along with everyone really.

[Katherine]

I never really thought about it, but most of my friends who I'm closest to (basically, who I actually talk to about important stuff) are guys. Really, my only truly close female friend is my girlfriend, but that's different. xD

*shrug*

[HalfInsane]

Probably 70% of my friends are straight and female, the rest are straight and male.

[RaRa]

Most of my friends are girls and yes, I like it better that way.

[Owen]

In high school, most of my friends were female. I was a member of this one circle of friends, and almost everyone in that circle was female. That just happened to be the group I fell into. As time went on, however, I developed more male friends and more manly female friends, especially during my senior year.

College represented a big flip for me. Almost all of my friends are male, and all of my good friends are male. Again, this probably has something to do with the crowd I fell into (the campus GLBT club is mostly guys... and yet I'm still single -.- ). Yet even if we don't consider the friends I made through the GLBT club, all of my good friends have been male.

I suppose the switch came because I have an easier time finding genuine guys here at college than genuine girls. In high school, everyone was trying to be fake (until senior year, oddly enough), but the girls' fakery didn't seem as fake to me as the guys' fakery. In college, that has changed; although I have met many genuine girls here, many still seem to be into that high school fakery, and though I have met many guys who are still into that fakery, I have an easier time finding guys who aren't than girls who aren't.

Come to thing of it, it probably has to do with the fact that the campus I live on is the sciences campus and is notorious for being devoid of women. Meh, at least I have friends; that's all that matters.