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jazzyspazzy · 14th Apr 2010, 03:10 AM

i think bisexual is actually quite a misleading word. 'bi' means two, and we all know what 'sexual' means. so together, it sounds like bisexual people have two sexualities - so they're both gay and straight at the same time.

this might seem unrelated, but i recently got a new pair of glasses, and the frame is called 'unisex'. 'uni' means one, but has taken on a second meaning of 'shared' or 'together' if you consider 'united' and 'universal'. and when you talk about something being 'unisex' then it refers to being for both sexes. so i've decided to call myself 'unisexual' because it makes more sense to me, because i'm not gay half the time and straight half the time - i just fancy people!

what do you guys reckon?

British Lad · 14th Apr 2010, 04:05 AM

different but i see your point

**TheEdend** · 14th Apr 2010, 05:18 AM

Mah, I really don't care either way. As long as people understand that I like both sexes then that's fine by me.

GhostDog · 14th Apr 2010, 05:51 AM

I think it'd be great if there were a word for "likes boys and girls" that didn't involve the word "sexual" at all. Most gay folks don't refer to themselves as "homosexual" because it sounds too pathological. I think "bisexual" sounds that way too, but there's not really much of an alternative besides just shortening it to "bi" (or "pan", for the pansexual folks). =/ I've seen "bisensual" and "pansensual" as a way to try to avoid linking attraction purely to sex, but it doesn't seem to have caught on in a big way or anything (plus, it still sounds like "bisexual" and "pansexual", to me at least).

Just Adam · 14th Apr 2010, 07:01 AM

well pan means all so uni and pan are same, yet different so that would be weird

ive never thought of bi in teh way you do ,interesting thought though.

14th Apr 2010, 12:46 PM

to me, 'uni' means 'one', as in unicycle or unibrow. So, if you told me you were unisexual and I didn't have a chance to ask you what you meant I'd just assume you only liked one gender and were just trying to come up with a different word for gay.

Shevanel · 14th Apr 2010, 01:45 PM

The label is the least important part of the sexuality.

Kenko · 14th Apr 2010, 04:41 PM

Uni, in the context of sexual relations, can also refer to a man with only one testicle.

"Bi" is short and has a nice ring to it.

Gaetan · 14th Apr 2010, 05:19 PM

Omnisexual has a nice ring to it.

IsItSo · 14th Apr 2010, 05:42 PM

To me, "unisexual" sounds like it describe people who are only attracted to one sex, as in homosexuals and heterosexuals, because of the "uni-" prefix. Also, thinking in a completely shallow way, I don't like the term "unisexual" because it's ugly when spoken or heard.

15th Apr 2010, 12:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shevanel

The label is the least important part of the sexuality.

I super-agree. It's just a word, folks.

I mean, if you wanted to get technical, I would be considered a 'pansexual'. However, for simplicity's sake I prefer the title of bisexual. Heck, I already have to explain that being bisexual doesn't mean being a huge slut (although that's another title that I bear with pride) or that we need several relationships. Explaining all of that on top of the gender spectrum? No thanks.

Though I really like answering as Gonzo does:
I'm a whatever.

14th Apr 2010, 03:10 AM	#1
jazzyspazzy Esto quad es - be yourself!!! Full Member Gender: Tomboy Orientation: Guys, girls who look like guys, genderqueer people Out Status: Anyone who looks at my facebook profile Location: Somerset Age: 17 Posts: 295 Join Date: Nov 2008	should we call ourselves unisexual? i think bisexual is actually quite a misleading word. 'bi' means two, and we all know what 'sexual' means. so together, it sounds like bisexual people have two sexualities - so they're both gay and straight at the same time. this might seem unrelated, but i recently got a new pair of glasses, and the frame is called 'unisex'. 'uni' means one, but has taken on a second meaning of 'shared' or 'together' if you consider 'united' and 'universal'. and when you talk about something being 'unisex' then it refers to being for both sexes. so i've decided to call myself 'unisexual' because it makes more sense to me, because i'm not gay half the time and straight half the time - i just fancy people! what do you guys reckon? __________________ Be the change you wish to see in the world - Mahatma Gandhi

14th Apr 2010, 04:05 AM	#2
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: should we call ourselves unisexual? different but i see your point __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

14th Apr 2010, 05:18 AM	#3
TheEdend Hope will never be silent EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Extended family still doesn't know Location: Orlando, Florida Age: 21 Posts: 2,831 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: should we call ourselves unisexual? Mah, I really don't care either way. As long as people understand that I like both sexes then that's fine by me. __________________ “You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result” -Gandhi

14th Apr 2010, 05:51 AM	#4
GhostDog is Spartacus. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: MAGICAL. Out Status: The hiiills are aliiive with the sound of muuusic! Location: DFW area, Texas Age: 24 Posts: 2,503 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: should we call ourselves unisexual? I think it'd be great if there were a word for "likes boys and girls" that didn't involve the word "sexual" at all. Most gay folks don't refer to themselves as "homosexual" because it sounds too pathological. I think "bisexual" sounds that way too, but there's not really much of an alternative besides just shortening it to "bi" (or "pan", for the pansexual folks). =/ I've seen "bisensual" and "pansensual" as a way to try to avoid linking attraction purely to sex, but it doesn't seem to have caught on in a big way or anything (plus, it still sounds like "bisexual" and "pansexual", to me at least). __________________ <3 Kirah, who may or may not be made of delicious candy (and the lesbians)

14th Apr 2010, 07:01 AM	#5
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: should we call ourselves unisexual? well pan means all so uni and pan are same, yet different so that would be weird ive never thought of bi in teh way you do ,interesting thought though. __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

14th Apr 2010, 12:46 PM	#6
LostandFound Guest Posts: n/a	Re: should we call ourselves unisexual? to me, 'uni' means 'one', as in unicycle or unibrow. So, if you told me you were unisexual and I didn't have a chance to ask you what you meant I'd just assume you only liked one gender and were just trying to come up with a different word for gay.

14th Apr 2010, 01:45 PM	#7
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: should we call ourselves unisexual? The label is the least important part of the sexuality. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

14th Apr 2010, 04:41 PM	#8
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: should we call ourselves unisexual? Uni, in the context of sexual relations, can also refer to a man with only one testicle. "Bi" is short and has a nice ring to it. __________________ Some of us are at different harmonics, but we all have the same fundamental frequency.

14th Apr 2010, 05:19 PM	#9
Gaetan DON'T TOUCH THE HAT! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Immediate Family and Friends Location: Idaho, USA Age: 25 Posts: 1,098 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: should we call ourselves unisexual? Omnisexual has a nice ring to it. __________________ Those who say it cannot be done, shouldn't interrupt the people doing it.

14th Apr 2010, 05:42 PM	#10
IsItSo EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: 同志 Out Status: A few people Location: New York-ish Age: 18 Posts: 771 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: should we call ourselves unisexual? To me, "unisexual" sounds like it describe people who are only attracted to one sex, as in homosexuals and heterosexuals, because of the "uni-" prefix. Also, thinking in a completely shallow way, I don't like the term "unisexual" because it's ugly when spoken or heard.

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