Quick question

[British Lad]

Would kinsey 4 be bi or gay? because I think I am kinsey 4 or 5

[KittyBoy]

4 on the kinsey scale is about 59% - 79% gay. 5 would be between 80% - 99%

[British Lad]

I did not ask that, I asking if kensey 4 was gay or bi?

[KittyBoy]

4 is, and I quote, "Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual", so it is on the slight-mid gay side of bisexual.

[Maddy]

I'd call you bi leaning towards gay, or simply "I like guys." "Do you like girls too?" "Yeah, but not as much."

[Austin]

If you like vagina and dick at all, you are bi.
If you like only dick, you are gay.

[IsItSo]

4 is bi, 5 is gay - or at least in my opinion.

[starfish]

I fall somewhere between 4 and 5, and I identify as gay. I have a friend that falls at the same point on the scale. He identifies as bisexual.

So really it is up to you to decide how to identify.

[British Lad]

@starfish I think you have made the most sence so far now to deside what to identafes as. I know i identifay as Bisexual, then everbody is happy.

[AlyssWonderland]

My friend is a 5 or like a 5.5 and he says he's gay, but since I know him personally I know that he is the littlestttt bit bi. But mostly gay.
I'm around a 3 or 4, it kinda changes every so often, and I say I'm bi.

[British Lad]

It it me or is this post been the most help to me or what? (it's a rhytorical question please dont answer)

[Chip]

Sexual orientation is not trinary, it's a spectrum. You can force a trinary label onto the 7 point Kinsey scale, but the reason it's a 7 point scale is to illustrate the subtle gradations between different numbers on the scale. So while 4 is slightly closer to gay than it is to bisexual, a 4 still has significant attraction to the opposite sex, making it somewhere on the bisexual spectrum.

[GhostDog]

I think you should identify as whatever you feel comfortable identifying as. There aren't any Kinsey police, going door to door, checking whether your amount of attraction to the ladies and the fellas matches up with your identity. =P

Besides, even the Kinsey scale has been criticized for oversimplifying sexuality (even as groundbreaking as it was at the time it was suggested). Sexuality's hard to measure. The Klein Grid at least attempts to take into account more factors than "how attracted am I to boys or girls today?". I wouldn't treat it as gospel, either, but I like that it accounts for things most people don't normally consider with sexual identity.

If you like girls and you don't want to exclude that in your identity, that's cool. If you kinda like girls sometimes but you don't particularly care if your identity reflects that or not, that's cool too. If you feel like your attractions to the ladies or the fellas or whoever-else are too complex to be reflected in the words "gay" or "bisexual", you could call yourself queer or not even label it at all.

Identity based on sexuality is, historically, a new concept in Westernized society anyway, and it's changed so much in that short amount of time. I wouldn't worry too much over what to call yourself. Call yourself whatever you want, so long as you're comfortable with it.

[Riaan]

Originally Posted by Austin

If you like vagina and dick at all, you are bi.
If you like only dick, you are gay.

Very crudely put, but a very effective definition.

[British Lad]

Originally Posted by Riaan

Very crudely put, but a very effective definition.

Agreed well i like dick lot, but not to overliy fussed on vagina. so i am gay. i think.