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British Lad · 17th Apr 2010, 11:45 AM

You know what i can't deside what I am, so i am saying sod it until I found out want i am i am going to say i am bi and if you dont like it well go shove it were the sun dont shine. Because I know I am kinsey 4 or 5 so... yer. What are you going to do.

ColdSnap · 17th Apr 2010, 11:46 AM

dude you're 17, chill the fuck out, shag whatever you want within the confines of the law, no one is telling you to pick a label

British Lad · 17th Apr 2010, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by ColdSnap

shag whatever you want within the confines of the law)

You make it sound so easy

L|L · 17th Apr 2010, 11:58 AM

^^ it is.

Take whatever comes your way - XX or XY

British Lad · 17th Apr 2010, 12:17 PM

Thats far and few between lol. I would be luckly to get the time of day.

fallendream · 17th Apr 2010, 12:21 PM

Your 17, have maybe 70 years of life left which leaves you with about 70 years to figure this out.
Nobody knows or cares what you are anymore than you, so if you care about this alot - then so will other.

Austin · 17th Apr 2010, 12:25 PM

Well good for you. Stop worrying about whether your gay or bi. It makes no difference.

RaeofLite · 17th Apr 2010, 12:45 PM

..ok, well it took me a full 3 years to figure out that I was gay, from the point that I realized I was attracted to women to the point when I came out. For some it takes longer, for some it takes shorter. Don't feel the need to label yourself if you don't want to. You're young. Be patient.

Gambit · 17th Apr 2010, 03:00 PM

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ok, well it took me a full 3 years to figure out that I was gay, from the point that I realized I was attracted to women to the point when I came out. For some it takes longer, for some it takes shorter. Don't feel the need to label yourself if you don't want to. You're young. Be patient.

That really helped me. Thanks!

British Lad · 17th Apr 2010, 03:28 PM

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That really helped me. Thanks!

and me too.

starfish · 17th Apr 2010, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by RaeofLite

..ok, well it took me a full 3 years to figure out that I was gay, from the point that I realized I was attracted to women to the point when I came out. For some it takes longer, for some it takes shorter. Don't feel the need to label yourself if you don't want to. You're young. Be patient.

I agree.

I've been out for a little over a year, and it is still odd when a 3rd person refers to me as gay. I've been like this my entire life, even before I figured out that I was gay. Nothing changed about me when I decided to identify as gay. I'm still the same person that I was before. Only difference now is that I am ok with my attraction to men. That is the important part. Being comfortable with who you are. The labels are meaningless.

Label just put us in boxes. I don't like being in a box and at 6'2" 235 lbs you'd need a big box and at least 3 people to safely lift it.

RaeofLite · 17th Apr 2010, 04:01 PM

I agree with Starfish.

And be gentle with yourself. Your journey to self discovery and awareness is not an easy one as it is, so love yourself and go easy. Take care.

Message me or post on my wall if you want.

17th Apr 2010, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by British Lad

You know what i can't deside what I am, so i am saying sod it until I found out want i am i am going to say i am bi and if you dont like it well go shove it were the sun dont shine. Because I know I am kinsey 4 or 5 so... yer. What are you going to do.

good on you. like you im in the same boat but i lean more towards gay myself. sexuality can be confusing and from what i learned on here is to take things as they are and move atyour own pace. you are your own person and it aint no one elses business what you do.

Taurusguy92 · 17th Apr 2010, 07:04 PM

I've learned to completely disregard labels. You like what you like and you shouldn't worry so much about it. I was worrying about it for the longest time. Until someone helped me figure out that it doesn't matter. You like what you like and let people think what they want, it shouldn't affect you

grapevine fires · 17th Apr 2010, 07:34 PM

Love is love and sexuality (for the most part) is fluid. You don't need to pick a side, as hard as the temptation is… It doesn't matter what your orientation is as long as you're happy with who you are. You're seventeen, and like others have said, you still have a lot of time to figure yourself out… the goal isn't to gain a label, but to achieve oneness with yourself. Love yourself for who you are, because it's damn hard to be something you're not.

In short, be who you are, don't force yourself into a box that doesn't necessarily fit you. Relax and it will eventually make sense.

17th Apr 2010, 11:45 AM	#1
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Sod it all You know what i can't deside what I am, so i am saying sod it until I found out want i am i am going to say i am bi and if you dont like it well go shove it were the sun dont shine. Because I know I am kinsey 4 or 5 so... yer. What are you going to do. __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

17th Apr 2010, 11:46 AM	#2
ColdSnap The easily corrupted ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Boy Botherer Out Status: Out to everyone Location: C-diff - Wales Age: 22 Posts: 343 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Sod it all dude you're 17, chill the fuck out, shag whatever you want within the confines of the law, no one is telling you to pick a label

17th Apr 2010, 11:58 AM	#4
L\|L EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 32 Posts: 351 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Sod it all ^^ it is. Take whatever comes your way - XX or XY

17th Apr 2010, 12:17 PM	#5
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: Sod it all Thats far and few between lol. I would be luckly to get the time of day. __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

17th Apr 2010, 12:21 PM	#6
fallendream EC Addict Full Member Gender: manlyman, hwar! Orientation: i have a floppy wrist? Out Status: i left aslan... Age: 17 Posts: 945 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Sod it all Your 17, have maybe 70 years of life left which leaves you with about 70 years to figure this out. Nobody knows or cares what you are anymore than you, so if you care about this alot - then so will other. __________________ [seanathon] 1:09 am: You think I'm not naked? [seanathon] 1:09 am: I've got an ice pack tied to my head using socks.

17th Apr 2010, 12:25 PM	#7
Austin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people in my life. Location: Orange County, California, USA Age: 19 Posts: 1,790 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Sod it all Well good for you. Stop worrying about whether your gay or bi. It makes no difference. __________________ Can I sail through the changing ocean tides, can I handle the seasons of my life?

17th Apr 2010, 12:45 PM	#8
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Sod it all ..ok, well it took me a full 3 years to figure out that I was gay, from the point that I realized I was attracted to women to the point when I came out. For some it takes longer, for some it takes shorter. Don't feel the need to label yourself if you don't want to. You're young. Be patient. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

17th Apr 2010, 04:01 PM	#12
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Sod it all I agree with Starfish. And be gentle with yourself. Your journey to self discovery and awareness is not an easy one as it is, so love yourself and go easy. Take care. Message me or post on my wall if you want. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

17th Apr 2010, 07:04 PM	#14
Taurusguy92 EC's Cascada Fanboy Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I'm tired of trying to label myself Out Status: Some people Age: 20 Posts: 783 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Sod it all I've learned to completely disregard labels. You like what you like and you shouldn't worry so much about it. I was worrying about it for the longest time. Until someone helped me figure out that it doesn't matter. You like what you like and let people think what they want, it shouldn't affect you __________________ "If thou live according to nature, thou wilt never be poor; if according to the opinions of the world, thou wilt never be rich." Author: Seneca

17th Apr 2010, 07:34 PM	#15
grapevine fires EC Addict Regular Member Gender: F*ed… my sex, though, is female. Orientation: love is love, sexuality is fluid Out Status: Pretty much everyone, minus extended family Location: Ontario, Canada Age: 20 Posts: 431 Join Date:** Jun 2008	Re: Sod it all Love is love and sexuality (for the most part) is fluid. You don't need to pick a side, as hard as the temptation is… It doesn't matter what your orientation is as long as you're happy with who you are. You're seventeen, and like others have said, you still have a lot of time to figure yourself out… the goal isn't to gain a label, but to achieve oneness with yourself. Love yourself for who you are, because it's damn hard to be something you're not. In short, be who you are, don't force yourself into a box that doesn't necessarily fit you. Relax and it will eventually make sense. __________________ Love Always Wins