Qu'est ce que l'amour ?

[Hugo Boss]

What is love?


The feeling of being with someone who makes you complete ...

... or is it just an emotion that leaves emptiness, depression and saddnes behind?

I am reading First Love by John Clare

[olides84]

...baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more.

actually i think this was a thread a few months back...so lots of input there.

ah, found it: http://www.emptyclosets.com/forum/sh...ad.php?t=30957

[Starburst]

The feeling of being with someone who makes you complete ...

I used to dream of love that way, too. But often in that yearning, I forgot that I was already complete.
Even now, I still crave for first love. I always wonder how it would feel. I look forward to love like my savior, as if without it, I would never be happy, or finished. If you know a little about the Christian faith, you will see my allusion. Ironically, Venus is the most powerful god of all. Obviously, while for every hero or god, there is a nemesis, there is no "dark side" in existence able to challenge Venus.
But even when I paint love with my most beautiful figments of imagination, I cannot see how I could be "more complete" than myself now. My life would have another meaning. But that's only one in many meanings I create for myself. I would feel very happy. But it doesn't mean I cannot be happy now. Perhaps I could be much smarter? Much more accomplished? Or would I finally be "civilized" by the loving experiences? Does it mean my current activities are not as meaningful or worthy as I deem? I don't think so. Than in what way can love make me more complete?
I finally understood that love is what I want, but need. However, my heart does not beat the same. I feel so tormented by my impulses. And I don't want to sequence my self destruction.