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British Lad · 5th May 2010, 07:27 AM

I know this sounds silly but does any body use the chat room on here?

Daniel · 5th May 2010, 07:31 AM

Yes! A lot of people do you just have to catch the chatroom at the right time of day.

British Lad · 5th May 2010, 07:31 AM

and what time is that? GMT please

**Filip** · 5th May 2010, 07:32 AM

Quite a few people do, in fact! I can be found there quite regularly myself.

However, chat does have a tendancy to be empty for quite a bit during the day. There are hours at which everyone is either sleeping, at work, or at school. for example, as I'm posting this (4.30 in the afternoon) most people in western europe are still at work or at school, and thus predictibly not chatting

If you are faced with an empty chatroom, it's usually best to come back at another hour. If you're in the UK, you'll have better luck finding people in the evening, which is when the euro people are home.

Zumbro · 5th May 2010, 07:50 AM

Or around 9pm GMT it picks up pretty well as we Americans get off work/school. Is there a US evening crowd as well, does anybody know?

**Victor** · 5th May 2010, 07:53 AM

You can always check the bottom of the welcome page to see if there is anyone in the chat room.

**Ben** · 5th May 2010, 09:06 AM

The chat record was broken at 9.14pm GMT in early January~.

Bryan90 · 5th May 2010, 09:15 AM

I used to be on religiously during Summer 2009 but I think it died down a little.

British Lad · 5th May 2010, 09:16 AM

what time do people on average come online to the chat GMT

Gin Uh Fur · 5th May 2010, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Ben

The chat record was broken at 9.14pm GMT in early January~.

we need a new record. it is my hope that someday we get so many people in there we break the chat...ok so maybe that wont happen but i can dream.

i will go into chat if people i like are in there. but these days they are few..if ben derek filip or a few others are in then im most likely going to chat. haha

6th May 2010, 01:11 AM

well im from uk too obv, and usually i can go into chat about 8 or 9'o clock and usually some people are there but after 10 id say it picks up more. not any point in goin on earlier usually cos its empty.

Aiken · 6th May 2010, 04:50 AM

I went in once or twice. Totally feel lost. D:

**Filip** · 6th May 2010, 06:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Aiken

I went in once or twice. Totally feel lost. D:

Well, it takes some time to get into the flow of chat, for some. Going in there is like going into a bar. There's probably already some conversation going, and people are usually just going to say hi and carry on the conversation, assuming that you'll go with the flow yourself.

Don't see that as people giving you the cold shoulder, however. Most of the time, people are really friendly in there. They just assume that you know what you're doing. And if you feel lost, there's no shame in saying "Hey guys, I feel totally lost in this chat room. anyone care to fill me in?". People will do their best to help you fit in, if you just ask for it.

**lostinthought9** · 6th May 2010, 06:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Filip

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Originally Posted by Aiken

I went in once or twice. Totally feel lost. D:

Well, it takes some time to get into the flow of chat, for some. Going in there is like going into a bar. There's probably already some conversation going, and people are usually just going to say hi and carry on the conversation, assuming that you'll go with the flow yourself.

Don't see that as people giving you the cold shoulder, however. Most of the time, people are really friendly in there. They just assume that you know what you're doing. And if you feel lost, there's no shame in saying "Hey guys, I feel totally lost in this chat room. anyone care to fill me in?". People will do their best to help you fit in, if you just ask for it.

Yep, we're a friendly bunch in there. And, we don't bite...hard.

Daniel · 6th May 2010, 07:20 AM

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Originally Posted by lostinthought9

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Originally Posted by Filip

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Originally Posted by Aiken

I went in once or twice. Totally feel lost. D:

Well, it takes some time to get into the flow of chat, for some. Going in there is like going into a bar. There's probably already some conversation going, and people are usually just going to say hi and carry on the conversation, assuming that you'll go with the flow yourself.

Don't see that as people giving you the cold shoulder, however. Most of the time, people are really friendly in there. They just assume that you know what you're doing. And if you feel lost, there's no shame in saying "Hey guys, I feel totally lost in this chat room. anyone care to fill me in?". People will do their best to help you fit in, if you just ask for it.

Yep, we're a friendly bunch in there. And, we don't bite...hard.

Agreed. Although if I see Filip I tend to bite a little hard...with my teeth. Just sayin'.

AllSmiles · 6th May 2010, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Ben

The chat record was broken at 9.14pm GMT in early January~.

I remember that

I can't believe it's not longer time ago, though. Weird

**Lexington** · 6th May 2010, 08:59 AM

I've pretty much stopped going in unless somebody wants some "realtime" advice. Really, do you want the gargoyle chaperone in there putting a damper on things?

Lex

Zumbro · 6th May 2010, 09:45 AM

I felt a bit lost at first too, especially since most people are using their real names. I had Filip do roll call for me every day for a week or so until I learned :P

Thanks Filip!

Shevanel · 6th May 2010, 11:01 AM

More people should use the chatroom, methinks. GO IN THERE. IF YOU GO IN, THEY WILL COME.

**Ben** · 6th May 2010, 11:21 AM

Everyone should use the chatroom if they can. Or at least try it out.

5th May 2010, 07:27 AM	#1
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	the chat room I know this sounds silly but does any body use the chat room on here? __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

5th May 2010, 07:31 AM	#2
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: the chat room Yes! A lot of people do you just have to catch the chatroom at the right time of day. __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

5th May 2010, 07:31 AM	#3
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: the chat room and what time is that? GMT please __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

5th May 2010, 07:32 AM	#4
Filip Cecile's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but extended family Location: Belgium, EU Age: 28 Posts: 3,366 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: the chat room Quite a few people do, in fact! I can be found there quite regularly myself. However, chat does have a tendancy to be empty for quite a bit during the day. There are hours at which everyone is either sleeping, at work, or at school. for example, as I'm posting this (4.30 in the afternoon) most people in western europe are still at work or at school, and thus predictibly not chatting If you are faced with an empty chatroom, it's usually best to come back at another hour. If you're in the UK, you'll have better luck finding people in the evening, which is when the euro people are home. __________________ To the world, you're somebody, but to somebody, you're the world...

5th May 2010, 07:50 AM	#5
Zumbro EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 5/6 on the Kinsey scale. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Troy, NY Age: 22 Posts: 434 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: the chat room Or around 9pm GMT it picks up pretty well as we Americans get off work/school. Is there a US evening crowd as well, does anybody know? __________________ If you want to love the world again, you can't just sit back and wait for it. You have to go chase it, and it will be entirely worth it when you catch up.

5th May 2010, 07:53 AM	#6
Victor Moo EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty damn out Location: California Age: 21 Posts: 1,972 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: the chat room You can always check the bottom of the welcome page to see if there is anyone in the chat room. __________________

5th May 2010, 09:06 AM	#7
Ben Was Invisible. EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 3,704 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: the chat room The chat record was broken at 9.14pm GMT in early January~.

5th May 2010, 09:15 AM	#8
Bryan90 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Location: Toronto, Canada Age: 22 Posts: 668 Join Date: Nov 2006	Re: the chat room I used to be on religiously during Summer 2009 but I think it died down a little. __________________ "But only in their dreams can man be truly free. 'Twas always thus, and always thus will be." - John Keating, Dead Poets Society

5th May 2010, 09:16 AM	#9
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: the chat room what time do people on average come online to the chat GMT __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

6th May 2010, 01:11 AM	#11
gaz83 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: the chat room well im from uk too obv, and usually i can go into chat about 8 or 9'o clock and usually some people are there but after 10 id say it picks up more. not any point in goin on earlier usually cos its empty.

6th May 2010, 04:50 AM	#12
Aiken Rawf~ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi leaning towards Guys, or Gay. Out Status: Some people Location: Brisbane, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 95 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: the chat room I went in once or twice. Totally feel lost. D:

6th May 2010, 08:59 AM	#17
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: the chat room I've pretty much stopped going in unless somebody wants some "realtime" advice. Really, do you want the gargoyle chaperone in there putting a damper on things? Lex

6th May 2010, 09:45 AM	#18
Zumbro EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 5/6 on the Kinsey scale. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Troy, NY Age: 22 Posts: 434 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: the chat room I felt a bit lost at first too, especially since most people are using their real names. I had Filip do roll call for me every day for a week or so until I learned :P Thanks Filip! __________________ If you want to love the world again, you can't just sit back and wait for it. You have to go chase it, and it will be entirely worth it when you catch up.

6th May 2010, 11:01 AM	#19
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: the chat room More people should use the chatroom, methinks. GO IN THERE. IF YOU GO IN, THEY WILL COME. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

6th May 2010, 11:21 AM	#20
Ben Was Invisible. EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 3,704 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: the chat room Everyone should use the chatroom if they can. Or at least try it out.