I just want tohear from those of you who are also Gender non-conformed as well as gay, like I am. Which do you identify yourself as? Personally, I define myself as GN first. When I wear women's clothes, it's not to display my gayness, it's to express my gender non-conformity. When I talk about my female clothes, I talk about my being a woman in a man's body instead of my homosexuality. I just wanted to see how many would relate and how many are the opposite.
One of the people I work with who's sex is female, but doesn't conform to a gender identifies as "someone who simply likes girls". She doesn't believe her gender fits "woman", and "man" is also too far from where she feels she is at. So she's simply a person who likes women.
I had one time or other felt the same way too. For me, it was because I never really seemed to fit in with the "masculine/male" ideal, but I felt I would be stigmatized if I even tried to follow the "female/femme" ideal. Is that the way with your friend as well? Does she feel unfit with being a "man" because of a stigma?
