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I just found out

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Micah, Sep 5, 2007.

  1. Micah

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    I just found out that the guy I liked has just turned 16 - rather than being 17 like he told me :|

    When we first met he told me he was 17, and it just never came up again. Now, a couple of months later we had a conversation and it came up. Turns out it was just something he said at the start for whatever reason.

    Now I feel odd because I met him when he was actually 15 (and told me he was 17), making it illegal for me. Thankfully nothing has happened... But now I feel ... odd.
     
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    Well Dave... I suppose he's legal now.

    I, um, did "the dirty" with a guy two years younger than I am. It's OK, really. The only thing is, younger guys are often very immature. So be careful.
     
  3. Ilayis

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    i don't know if i have it right or not,but i think if you do anything with someone who's 16,then thats statutory rape...IDK.I agree though,I would feel odd too
     
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    Ok I may have freaked out over nothing major.

    The legal age of consent in Australia is 16; yet the law also indicates that a 4 year age gap if one or both of the people is under 21.

    I don't know...I was just a little shocked I suppose - I guess that if they age difference wasn't an issue before I knew, why should it be now?
     
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    The lesson learned would seem to be that if there is a danger of doing something illegal, ask to see some proof of age and not just take it for granted that someone is telling you the truth about their age. Wanting to look at someone's ID photo, driver's license, etc. usually works without raising too much suspicion. Just asking for proof of age can be rather tacky.

    Just now, a German 17-year-old kid (Marco Weiss) has been sitting in Turkish prison for making out with an underage British girl who lied about her age :eek: . They were both on vacation and the parents of the girl filed charges. Marco is really suffering and will hopefully be released this month. And they didn't even have sex.
     
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    In Australia, at least, if you "believe" the person is overage, it is acceptable, which makes sense when you think about it.
     
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    Sure makes sense to me but definitely not in Turkey. :icon_sad:
     
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    If he lied its not your fault. =)
     
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    Don't feel weird because it wasn't that big of an age gap. I was with a 3 year diff but I did JUST turn 18 so didn't matta nun..


    Age is just a number... really once they hit 15 it isn't all that bad if you are 17-18... (I was in band where the freshmen had class with the seniors and we had band bus trips and......... porno much? yes...)
     
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    I wouldn't say it's anything to worry about. But then again I can see how you can be shocked that he did lie to you... what if something had happened? But if he's hot and/or a good mate then don't worry about it, forget it even happened.

    That 4 year age gap rule is a bit odd though. Never heard of something like that before. Oh and asking for photo ID is going to do tonnes for your mojo isn't it. "Wo wo wo... before we even kiss I wanna see some ID!!" :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    It's not odd... it's sensible... we have something similar in Canada. It helps avoid criminalising two teens who have sex while still maintaining their "protection" from older people.

    That is, it can be a lot different for a 15yo to have sex with a 17yo than with a 40yo. And that kind of "window" helps deal with that situation.

    In Canada currently (and maybe for a while since our idiot PM is proroguing Parliament so the new bill to change the age of consent law may die) the age of consent is 14 but if someone is 12 or older and the older person they are involved with is no more than 2 years older, that's okay. That is, you don't lay charges against 12yos who get it on with 13 or 14yos.

    Plus the age of consent is 18 if the other person is in a position of trust or authority over you. Or (this is newish) if the relationship is "exploitative," whatever that means exactly.

    The legislation in progress would raise the age of to 16 but give a 5-year window from 14 up. That is, 14yos and 15yos could consent to sex if the person were no more than 5 years older than them. So 14yo could be involved with people up to 19 and 15yo could be involved with people up to 20.
     
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    Anyway, really Dave, the only thing you should be weirded out by is the fact that he lied to you. Other than that, he's still the same person because age is, ultimately, just a number. Although in this case perhaps his number being lower led to his bad judgment call of misleading you. But then people can get/be all weird about age.
     
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    I agree with Joey that an age-of-consent law like that is a lot more sensible and offers more protection for younger people than the simple single "anything goes" age of 16 we have in the UK.

    In the UK a 15 year old cannot have sex with a 16 year old, but a 40 year old can have sex with a 16 year old. That seems so wrong to me.
     
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    Yeah that's what I figure now =]

    I spoke to him about it again last night. I suppose it was just an initial shock - but age really isn't an indicator of anything other than a person's birthday :wink:

    Yes, he lied to me at first (for whatever reason) - But I suppose he didn't know me, or even suppose we would become closer. It's not as though his age was frequently discussed and he was constantly lying to me. /shrug.