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British Lad · 28th Jun 2010, 06:17 AM

In the rights section the was a post about name changes and my question is this:
Would you legaly change your last name when you got marryed to your same sex loved one, To there last name combo of names or what?
Please state if you would and what you change your name to?

Connor22 · 28th Jun 2010, 06:20 AM

I would'nt change it for all of the world, 1) it shows I'm related to Brian Boru and b) the irony from the jokes that can be made is not only funny but reminds me of who I am

28th Jun 2010, 06:25 AM

No coz i love my Excellent last name.

(points to for the ones who guess who im on about. xD)

Im more likely to keep it or double up but if needs be I might take his name.

xCrazyInsanity · 28th Jun 2010, 06:29 AM

i might change it to my partners when that comes up.
i have no connection to my family other than blood.

but otherwise, no. my last name is far too common to be easily connected to anyone

**Eric** · 28th Jun 2010, 06:34 AM

I'd for sure take his name, partly because mine is aweful and I've been teased about it, partly because my parents should be divorced and I really really really want nothing to do with my dad.

I wouldn't even think of using both, I'd change it for sure provided it's not to something funnier than I have.

Pepsi · 28th Jun 2010, 06:39 AM

I'd for sure change my name to Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Seriously though no I would not.

malachite · 28th Jun 2010, 06:52 AM

I love my last name, in fact I don't think most of friends know my first name they call me by my last name

theJosephDean · 28th Jun 2010, 08:41 AM

Nah. I'm wanting my last name changed to match my grandfather's anyway (long story, lots of family issues :P), so if I got that done with, I wouldn't want to turn around and change it again, lol. Though, my bf does have an awesome German surname ^_^

SwissBoy88 · 28th Jun 2010, 08:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pepsi

I'd for sure change my name to Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Seriously though no I would not.

I love that Friends episode!!!

I sure would change my last name... hate mine anyway

Étoile · 28th Jun 2010, 09:13 AM

Yes. In a heartbeat.

My last name's ridiculously common. I've always wanted a more unique one. Like Lavender, West, or Kicklighter.

28th Jun 2010, 09:20 AM

Sometimes I get that feeling. I just don't want to be associated with my biological dad. And I prefer my middle name more because my mom chose that...

28th Jun 2010, 09:42 AM

Argh, no. It's a horribly patriarchal tradition: in straight couples, the woman takes her husband's last name as a way of showing she 'has an owner'. I guess in same sex couples the sexist connotation is less clear, but I still find the idea a bit repulsive: I certainly don't want to belong to nor have power over my partner.

Davy · 28th Jun 2010, 09:56 AM

I think it would all depend on the situation at the time, would not be 100% against it. But always like the idea of a double-barrelled name. As long as it did not look too ridicules.

NickT · 28th Jun 2010, 12:58 PM

As annoyed as I am with my last name (it can be mistaken for a first name), I wouldn't change it unless it rolled off the tongue easily.

CanisCerberus · 28th Jun 2010, 01:01 PM

Im unsure idk if i would or not depends on who id marry LOL if they got a cooler name then me then hell yea

RaRa · 28th Jun 2010, 01:05 PM

I'm not sure. My last name is rare and EVERYONE mispronounces it, so idk how it would work out with my guy. xD Maybe a hyphen?

Steve712 · 28th Jun 2010, 01:08 PM

Nah, I'll keep my last name. It's fine.

Inhuman · 28th Jun 2010, 01:33 PM

I love my last name so I'd really want him to change his .. also I want to be a psychoilogist so he'd have to me the stay at home mom .. i mean dad.

I'm selfish lol

28th Jun 2010, 01:42 PM

hmm.. that's a good question. it would be nice to have the same last name cause it'd show we're together, but i might feel like a girl if i changed my name. plus, i'm named after my dad and my grandpa, if i changed my last name that little III at the end would be completely unnecessary.

this will just be something to save for when the time comes

28th Jun 2010, 01:55 PM

I used to think that i would change my last name in a heartbeat if could since it was so odd and everyone would mispronounce it. But i've kinda gotten used to it now and i think it's a pretty kick ass last name since it means Red. I was actually the only one in my school with that last name so i was always easy to identify.

28th Jun 2010, 06:17 AM	#1
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Would you change your last name. In the rights section the was a post about name changes and my question is this: Would you legaly change your last name when you got marryed to your same sex loved one, To there last name combo of names or what? Please state if you would and what you change your name to? __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

28th Jun 2010, 06:20 AM	#2
Connor22 Stopped being (as) vague Full Member Gender: yes Orientation: up the bender Out Status: burned Narnia :D Location: Norn Iron Age: 17 Posts: 1,547 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: Would you change your last name. I would'nt change it for all of the world, 1) it shows I'm related to Brian Boru and b) the irony from the jokes that can be made is not only funny but reminds me of who I am __________________ Kindness is a gift. Share it.

28th Jun 2010, 06:25 AM	#3
Jiggles Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Would you change your last name. No coz i love my Excellent last name. (points to for the ones who guess who im on about. xD) Im more likely to keep it or double up but if needs be I might take his name.

28th Jun 2010, 06:29 AM	#4
xCrazyInsanity Gay, no. Fabulous, totally. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: All BUT family Location: South-East Pennsylvania Age: 17 Posts: 750 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Would you change your last name. i might change it to my partners when that comes up. i have no connection to my family other than blood. but otherwise, no. my last name is far too common to be easily connected to anyone __________________ This is love, this is not treason.

28th Jun 2010, 06:34 AM	#5
Eric EC Chat Room Mod EC Chat Mod Gender: Male Orientation: Gayyy Out Status: Open about it. Location: Ontario Age: 18 Posts: 1,374 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Would you change your last name. I'd for sure take his name, partly because mine is aweful and I've been teased about it, partly because my parents should be divorced and I really really really want nothing to do with my dad. I wouldn't even think of using both, I'd change it for sure provided it's not to something funnier than I have.

28th Jun 2010, 06:39 AM	#6
Pepsi R-Y-R-Y Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Completely Out Location: Staten Island, NYC Age: 20 Posts: 4,348 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Would you change your last name. I'd for sure change my name to Princess Consuela Bananahammock Seriously though no I would not. __________________ "I'm not that typical baby. I'm a bad kid like my mom and dad made me. I'm not that cool and you hate me. I'm a bad kid, that's the way that they made me" - GAGA

28th Jun 2010, 06:52 AM	#7
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Would you change your last name. I love my last name, in fact I don't think most of friends know my first name they call me by my last name __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

28th Jun 2010, 08:41 AM	#8
theJosephDean Nothing but the rain. Full Member Gender: 男 Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: Om nom nom. Location: Johnson City, TN Age: 20 Posts: 1,633 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Would you change your last name. Nah. I'm wanting my last name changed to match my grandfather's anyway (long story, lots of family issues :P), so if I got that done with, I wouldn't want to turn around and change it again, lol. Though, my bf does have an awesome German surname ^_^ __________________ Ph'nglui mglw'nafh Cthulhu R'lyeh wgah'nagl fhtagn.

28th Jun 2010, 09:13 AM	#10
Étoile He ate my heart Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: 95% Gay, 5% Cheesecake Out Status: Out to everyone Location: The Peach State Age: 20 Posts: 1,575 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Would you change your last name. Yes. In a heartbeat. My last name's ridiculously common. I've always wanted a more unique one. Like Lavender, West, or Kicklighter. __________________ "I love that lavender blonde; the way she moves, the way she walks, I touch myself, can't get enough."

28th Jun 2010, 09:20 AM	#11
Khobra Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Would you change your last name. Sometimes I get that feeling. I just don't want to be associated with my biological dad. And I prefer my middle name more because my mom chose that...

28th Jun 2010, 09:42 AM	#12
Mysterons Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Would you change your last name. Argh, no. It's a horribly patriarchal tradition: in straight couples, the woman takes her husband's last name as a way of showing she 'has an owner'. I guess in same sex couples the sexist connotation is less clear, but I still find the idea a bit repulsive: I certainly don't want to belong to nor have power over my partner.

28th Jun 2010, 09:56 AM	#13
Davy I like panda's! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Scotland (That's the bit with hills & rain) Posts: 414 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Would you change your last name. I think it would all depend on the situation at the time, would not be 100% against it. But always like the idea of a double-barrelled name. As long as it did not look too ridicules. __________________ Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands? Ernest Gaines

28th Jun 2010, 12:58 PM	#14
NickT Mr. Grammar Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Kentucky Posts: 985 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Would you change your last name. As annoyed as I am with my last name (it can be mistaken for a first name), I wouldn't change it unless it rolled off the tongue easily. __________________ Gay Pride!

28th Jun 2010, 01:01 PM	#15
CanisCerberus Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not sure (still trying to figure it out) Out Status: Not out at all Location: Palm Bay Florida Age: 15 Posts: 9 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Would you change your last name. Im unsure idk if i would or not depends on who id marry LOL if they got a cooler name then me then hell yea

28th Jun 2010, 01:05 PM	#16
RaRa We we we so excited Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Los Angeles, CA Age: 21 Posts: 7,439 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Would you change your last name. I'm not sure. My last name is rare and EVERYONE mispronounces it, so idk how it would work out with my guy. xD Maybe a hyphen? __________________ Do you think about me now and then? Do you think about me now and then? Oh now I'm comin' home again Maybe we can start again

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28th Jun 2010, 01:42 PM	#19
paco Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Would you change your last name. hmm.. that's a good question. it would be nice to have the same last name cause it'd show we're together, but i might feel like a girl if i changed my name. plus, i'm named after my dad and my grandpa, if i changed my last name that little III at the end would be completely unnecessary. this will just be something to save for when the time comes

28th Jun 2010, 01:55 PM	#20
Allistair Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Would you change your last name. I used to think that i would change my last name in a heartbeat if could since it was so odd and everyone would mispronounce it. But i've kinda gotten used to it now and i think it's a pretty kick ass last name since it means Red. I was actually the only one in my school with that last name so i was always easy to identify.