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Étoile · 2nd Jul 2010, 10:50 AM

My parents planned to have me. My mama desperately wanted a boy since she grew up with all girls and had my sister already.

They were gonna have me two years after my sister, but decided to wait until she was 5. I would have been born in 1989 and been 21 instead of 18.

Zach1992 · 2nd Jul 2010, 10:57 AM

I was the result of Prom sex. Not hard to figure out.

theJosephDean · 2nd Jul 2010, 11:01 AM

My parents had my sister in '81 and my brother in '84. In '85, my mom miscarried and was told she'd never have kids again due to various health issues. In '91, here I was. :P Definitely a surprise (and I really don't think it was of the good variety).

2nd Jul 2010, 11:11 AM

I dont know. =/

alan t · 2nd Jul 2010, 11:15 AM

I was unplanned. They only wanted one child, but then I just appeared. Which is why there's a huge gap between me and my older brother. Not that I mind, I'm still the favourite.

Hoppip · 2nd Jul 2010, 11:17 AM

Neither. I'm God's fucking gift to humanity, bitches.

malachite · 2nd Jul 2010, 11:17 AM

I'm not sure.

My sister was a teen pregnancy, but I'm sure about me.

Zach · 2nd Jul 2010, 11:25 AM

I was planned, as were my younger sister and brother.

AlyssWonderland · 2nd Jul 2010, 11:26 AM

They say me and my brother were planned but if you go back nine months from my birthday its would be my parents spring break. And nine months back from my brothers birthday is my dad's birthday...

**Ben** · 2nd Jul 2010, 11:50 AM

The doctors and all of my extended family did not want me. I was a dangerous baby.
After I was conceived, my mother wanted me. Thankfully.

Black Cat · 2nd Jul 2010, 11:59 AM

To a degree I was planned. I was the 5th pregnancy in a string of miscarriages my mom had. She always wanted children. Oddly enough she was on the pill when I came around. But here I am.

Rikudo · 2nd Jul 2010, 12:11 PM

Yes I was planned one year after my parents got married.

**Helen** · 2nd Jul 2010, 12:14 PM

I was the reason my parents got married.

They wanted to have me eventually, just...not quite so soon.

2nd Jul 2010, 12:14 PM

I was a surprise :P

So was all the other children in my family. XD

I was born a year before my parents got married. They got divorced a year later. :P

My parents only got married for insurance reasons, so they say. :P I think the eloped and are ashamed of it though!

**Victor** · 2nd Jul 2010, 12:31 PM

I was unplanned. My mom just immigrated to the states and became pregnant with me soon after. My dad chickened out and wasn't there for me or my mom at all while I was growing up. So yeah.

2nd Jul 2010, 12:39 PM

I was very much planned and fought for. My mom had three miscarriages before I was born as a result of trying to have a third child that would end up being me.

I'm pretty damn sure my older brothers were planned as well. But who knows lol

george678 · 2nd Jul 2010, 12:59 PM

I was a very much planned first born.

chained butterfly · 2nd Jul 2010, 01:02 PM

Nope. Mother was 16 and a drug addict and father was a latin king....Thank freaking god Im adopted.. !!!!!

VampConspiracy · 2nd Jul 2010, 01:22 PM

Look, I already have enough emotional baggage. Knowing whether or not I was planned would likely NOT help, given the... idiocy of my father.

ANightDude · 2nd Jul 2010, 02:05 PM

My mother won't tell me. So, I'm guessing somehow I slipped on through...

2nd Jul 2010, 10:50 AM	#1
Étoile He ate my heart Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: 95% Gay, 5% Cheesecake Out Status: Out to everyone Location: The Peach State Age: 20 Posts: 1,575 Join Date: Nov 2007	Were you planned or a "surprise"? My parents planned to have me. My mama desperately wanted a boy since she grew up with all girls and had my sister already. They were gonna have me two years after my sister, but decided to wait until she was 5. I would have been born in 1989 and been 21 instead of 18. __________________ "I love that lavender blonde; the way she moves, the way she walks, I touch myself, can't get enough."

2nd Jul 2010, 10:57 AM	#2
Zach1992 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Guys Out Status: Out to friends, some family, & those who ask! Location: New York (State, not city) Age: 21 Posts: 1,171 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I was the result of Prom sex. Not hard to figure out. __________________ "Sex shouldn't be COMFY!!!"- Lola (Kinky Boots)

2nd Jul 2010, 11:01 AM	#3
theJosephDean Nothing but the rain. Full Member Gender: 男 Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: Om nom nom. Location: Johnson City, TN Age: 20 Posts: 1,633 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? My parents had my sister in '81 and my brother in '84. In '85, my mom miscarried and was told she'd never have kids again due to various health issues. In '91, here I was. :P Definitely a surprise (and I really don't think it was of the good variety). __________________ Ph'nglui mglw'nafh Cthulhu R'lyeh wgah'nagl fhtagn.

2nd Jul 2010, 11:11 AM	#4
Jiggles Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I dont know. =/

2nd Jul 2010, 11:15 AM	#5
alan t EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: ontario, canada Age: 27 Posts: 340 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I was unplanned. They only wanted one child, but then I just appeared. Which is why there's a huge gap between me and my older brother. Not that I mind, I'm still the favourite.

2nd Jul 2010, 11:17 AM	#6
Hoppip look at the good i do Full Member Gender: Lv. 18 ♂ Orientation: Water / Dragon Out Status: Uncommon Location: Johto Posts: 1,562 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? Neither. I'm God's fucking gift to humanity, bitches. __________________ KUDOS ME. I made myshelf pregnant.

2nd Jul 2010, 11:17 AM	#7
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I'm not sure. My sister was a teen pregnancy, but I'm sure about me. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

2nd Jul 2010, 11:25 AM	#8
Zach Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family and friends, and a couple of people at work Location: Janesville Wisconsin Posts: 191 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I was planned, as were my younger sister and brother.

2nd Jul 2010, 11:26 AM	#9
AlyssWonderland ninja. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Everyone but extended family. Location: New Hampshire Age: 17 Posts: 670 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? They say me and my brother were planned but if you go back nine months from my birthday its would be my parents spring break. And nine months back from my brothers birthday is my dad's birthday... __________________ welcome to the sound of pretty. odd.

2nd Jul 2010, 11:50 AM	#10
Ben Was Invisible. EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 3,704 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? The doctors and all of my extended family did not want me. I was a dangerous baby. After I was conceived, my mother wanted me. Thankfully.

2nd Jul 2010, 11:59 AM	#11
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? To a degree I was planned. I was the 5th pregnancy in a string of miscarriages my mom had. She always wanted children. Oddly enough she was on the pill when I came around. But here I am. __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

2nd Jul 2010, 12:11 PM	#12
Rikudo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? Yes I was planned one year after my parents got married. __________________ "Out of love, sacrifice is born... Hate is born... and we are able to know pain!"

2nd Jul 2010, 12:14 PM	#13
Helen Empty Closets Mod EC Moderator Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Inconsequential if people know. Location: York, United Kingdom Age: 19 Posts: 2,102 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I was the reason my parents got married. They wanted to have me eventually, just...not quite so soon. __________________ I want a window where I can see a tree, or even water... (....and the lesbians)

2nd Jul 2010, 12:14 PM	#14
Lady Gaga Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I was a surprise :P So was all the other children in my family. XD I was born a year before my parents got married. They got divorced a year later. :P My parents only got married for insurance reasons, so they say. :P I think the eloped and are ashamed of it though!

2nd Jul 2010, 12:31 PM	#15
Victor Moo EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty damn out Location: California Age: 21 Posts: 1,972 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I was unplanned. My mom just immigrated to the states and became pregnant with me soon after. My dad chickened out and wasn't there for me or my mom at all while I was growing up. So yeah. __________________

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2nd Jul 2010, 12:39 PM	#16
RiotPoofBrandon Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I was very much planned and fought for. My mom had three miscarriages before I was born as a result of trying to have a third child that would end up being me. I'm pretty damn sure my older brothers were planned as well. But who knows lol

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george678 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male ♂ Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England Posts: 1,071 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? I was a very much planned first born. __________________ George

2nd Jul 2010, 01:02 PM	#18
chained butterfly ~ RAWR to the lesbians Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian &im deff into trans gendered people. <3 Out Status: Out like wall mart Location: new york Age: 15 Posts: 449 Join Date: May 2010	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? Nope. Mother was 16 and a drug addict and father was a latin king....Thank freaking god Im adopted.. !!!!! __________________ Disregard females, Acquire currency.

2nd Jul 2010, 01:22 PM	#19
VampConspiracy Not Upholding the Masquerade! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay. The slippery slide of outness. Out Status: Everybody and their dogs know I'm gay Location: Missouri Age: 20 Posts: 527 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? Look, I already have enough emotional baggage. Knowing whether or not I was planned would likely NOT help, given the... idiocy of my father. __________________ X__________________________________

2nd Jul 2010, 02:05 PM	#20
ANightDude EC's Film Moron Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: San Antonio, Texas Age: 17 Posts: 1,848 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Were you planned or a "surprise"? My mother won't tell me. So, I'm guessing somehow I slipped on through... __________________ "Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves." -- Abraham Lincoln