Are bad coming outs a thing of the past? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Étoile · 3rd Jul 2010, 01:44 PM

I rarely read or hear of bad coming outs anymore. I'm talking about the ones with screaming matches, Bible bitch-slaps, therapy sessions or church attendances to 'treat' you, physical attacks, kicking out, and/or total end of friendships.

Either people are totally accepting and happy, nonchalont and treat you the same way, curious and ask a bunch of questions, or a little disappointed but eventually accept it.

Of course, not all stories are shared and discussed.

theJosephDean · 3rd Jul 2010, 01:54 PM

Hmm, I've still heard of a bunch lately. I've yet to experience one, but then again, my extended super-Christian family doesn't know... so I might. =/

**Chip** · 3rd Jul 2010, 02:36 PM

There are plenty of them on EC, relatively recently. Among the bad ones, the majority do eventually end up fine, but a lot of parents freak out initially, say rude or mean things, threaten things, and the like... though the actual incidence of encounters where a teen is thrown out of his or her house is, thankfully, a lot less common (at least in most western countries) than it was 20 years ago.

The "straight camps" are still filled with people, ignorant, closeted asshats like George Rekers still spout their venom, and parents still make poor decisions out of ignorance, fear, or religious dogma. But it is definitely much better than it was 20 years ago.

Apocalypte · 3rd Jul 2010, 05:47 PM

They do still happen, but not as often as they used to, thankfully. I know I've only ever had one really bad reaction, which resulted in me breaking off all communication with a friend.

Revan · 3rd Jul 2010, 06:53 PM

Wait for when I come out again.

3rd Jul 2010, 01:44 PM	#1
Étoile He ate my heart Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: 95% Gay, 5% Cheesecake Out Status: Out to everyone Location: The Peach State Age: 20 Posts: 1,575 Join Date: Nov 2007	Are bad coming outs a thing of the past? I rarely read or hear of bad coming outs anymore. I'm talking about the ones with screaming matches, Bible bitch-slaps, therapy sessions or church attendances to 'treat' you, physical attacks, kicking out, and/or total end of friendships. Either people are totally accepting and happy, nonchalont and treat you the same way, curious and ask a bunch of questions, or a little disappointed but eventually accept it. Of course, not all stories are shared and discussed. __________________ "I love that lavender blonde; the way she moves, the way she walks, I touch myself, can't get enough."

3rd Jul 2010, 01:54 PM	#2
theJosephDean Nothing but the rain. Full Member Gender: 男 Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: Om nom nom. Location: Johnson City, TN Age: 20 Posts: 1,633 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Are bad coming outs a thing of the past? Hmm, I've still heard of a bunch lately. I've yet to experience one, but then again, my extended super-Christian family doesn't know... so I might. =/ __________________ Ph'nglui mglw'nafh Cthulhu R'lyeh wgah'nagl fhtagn.

3rd Jul 2010, 02:36 PM	#3
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 5,576 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Are bad coming outs a thing of the past? There are plenty of them on EC, relatively recently. Among the bad ones, the majority do eventually end up fine, but a lot of parents freak out initially, say rude or mean things, threaten things, and the like... though the actual incidence of encounters where a teen is thrown out of his or her house is, thankfully, a lot less common (at least in most western countries) than it was 20 years ago. The "straight camps" are still filled with people, ignorant, closeted asshats like George Rekers still spout their venom, and parents still make poor decisions out of ignorance, fear, or religious dogma. But it is definitely much better than it was 20 years ago.

3rd Jul 2010, 05:47 PM	#4
Apocalypte Ytse Jamming. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 27 Posts: 2,217 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Are bad coming outs a thing of the past? They do still happen, but not as often as they used to, thankfully. I know I've only ever had one really bad reaction, which resulted in me breaking off all communication with a friend. __________________ "I like my beer cold...my TV loud...and my homosexuals flaming." - Homer Simpson

3rd Jul 2010, 06:53 PM	#5
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Are bad coming outs a thing of the past? Wait for when I come out again. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

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