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British Lad · 5th Jul 2010, 08:43 AM

So tell me what does your orientation identity (either gay/lesbian/Bisexual/other) Mean to you? (I would like people to use this starter please but if you have a better one use it)
For me being (insert your orientation here) is....

For me being gay is well just a word, a describer and a it does not affect me one tiny bit except a word used to describe my sexual orientation, that is is there wise to me it is meaningless

theJosephDean · 5th Jul 2010, 08:49 AM

Though when I'm talking with friends, I'll call myself gay, I don't really choose one of the labels when being honest. The reason I just tell people I'm a Kinsey 5 is because though I've a high attraction to males, I have been in (albeit unsuccessful) relationships with females and there's always the rare girl that I can find myself attracted to. I can't completely call myself gay.

That being, I'm not bisexual because in general, men turn me on - women don't :P

Identifying as such isn't just a phrase or a word to me, but simply who I am. It's a part of me, just like being an atheist and a vegetarian is a part of me. I believe people should not be categorised based on their characteristics or identifications, but they are very important aspects of them that should be appreciated.

If any of that made any sense at all

^_^

British Lad · 5th Jul 2010, 08:55 AM

that is not what asking i am asking what does that word mean to you?

Davy · 5th Jul 2010, 08:58 AM

For me being gay is a label so other people can identify the fact i have a sexual attraction to the same sex. It's not who I am but part of me.

Rikudo · 5th Jul 2010, 09:05 AM

Gay= liking men
Lesbian= liking women
Bi= liking both

It's as simple as that.

VampConspiracy · 5th Jul 2010, 09:10 AM

For me, being bisexual is having the capability to make those strong emotional bonds you may call "love" with anybody regardless of what's inside their pants. Sexual activities are secondary; the primary goal is the reciprocating of emotions. Forget the junk you see on Empty-V and MyScrape, and forget the stereotypical whore.

5th Jul 2010, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ER73

Gay= liking men
Lesbian= liking women
Bi= liking both

It's as simple as that.

This

4 seat · 5th Jul 2010, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Steven

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Originally Posted by ER73

Gay= liking men
Lesbian= liking women
Bi= liking both

It's as simple as that.

This

Exactly. ^That's what they mean. If you're a man and you like men, you're gay. If you're a woman and you like women you're a lesbian. If you like both sexes, you're bisexual. If you're unsure, then you're unsure and for all orientations, whether you verbalize it or not, there's always the rare(or more common) incident where you're attracted to the sex you don't identify as initially being attracted to. I don't understand why having the label is such an issue for yourself if that's what you are. But I guess that's just me.

British Lad · 5th Jul 2010, 09:45 AM

obviously you did not get the point, what do those word mean to YOU, not there really meaning, what do you in your own head what do they mean, are they meaning less discipers to you or are they much more meaningful? that is the question i was asking

Spectre · 5th Jul 2010, 10:06 AM

They're words used to describe sexual orientation. Nothing more. Just because they don't have some profound meaning to other people (i.e., their meanings are simple and of the norm) doesn't mean people aren't getting the point.

4 seat · 5th Jul 2010, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by British Lad

obviously you did not get the point, what do those word mean to YOU, not there really meaning, what do you in your own head what do they mean, are they meaning less discipers to you or are they much more meaningful? that is the question i was asking

No, I did get the point. They don't mean anything more to me than sexual orientation.

Rikudo · 5th Jul 2010, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by British Lad

obviously you did not get the point, what do those word mean to YOU, not there really meaning, what do you in your own head what do they mean, are they meaning less discipers to you or are they much more meaningful? that is the question i was asking

Nope there meaning to me is as simple as that. I don't understand the need to somehow complicate things. Being gay shouldn't define who you are it's just another piece of you.

AlyssWonderland · 5th Jul 2010, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by British Lad

obviously you did not get the point, what do those word mean to YOU, not there really meaning, what do you in your own head what do they mean, are they meaning less discipers to you or are they much more meaningful? that is the question i was asking

I did get the point. They're just words to describe orientation.

settlingsound · 5th Jul 2010, 02:06 PM

To me... the word gay/bi/lesbian/trans means a part of who we are, as a human race we are all diverse and have many great differences between each other. Being gay/bi/lesbian/trans is just to show how beautiful we all are.

Inhuman · 5th Jul 2010, 04:07 PM

To me, being non-straight/gay means that I'm into guys more than girls and probably gay. It comments on who I find attractive, and has nothing to say about my gender identity or any part of me.

Smiles

GhostDog · 5th Jul 2010, 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by theJosephDean

Though when I'm talking with friends, I'll call myself gay, I don't really choose one of the labels when being honest. The reason I just tell people I'm a Kinsey 5 is because though I've a high attraction to males, I have been in (albeit unsuccessful) relationships with females and there's always the rare girl that I can find myself attracted to. I can't completely call myself gay.

That being, I'm not bisexual because in general, men turn me on - women don't :P

Identifying as such isn't just a phrase or a word to me, but simply who I am. It's a part of me, just like being an atheist and a vegetarian is a part of me. I believe people should not be categorised based on their characteristics or identifications, but they are very important aspects of them that should be appreciated.

If any of that made any sense at all

^_^

It did make sense and you basically got across the gist of what I would've said anyway. =P

"Lesbian" is a word that I feel currently best describes an element of myself. It's not an insignificant element of my identity, since what it describes has undeniably shaped my experiences and I would probably be a different person if I hadn't had those experiences. Realizing that part of myself has led to a lot of positive changes in my life and I am so much happier for it. But it's not all-encompassing, either.

At heart I prefer thinking of myself as queer, but I don't normally feel like explaining that one to people. =P

5th Jul 2010, 08:43 AM	#1
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? So tell me what does your orientation identity (either gay/lesbian/Bisexual/other) Mean to you? (I would like people to use this starter please but if you have a better one use it) For me being (insert your orientation here) is.... For me being gay is well just a word, a describer and a it does not affect me one tiny bit except a word used to describe my sexual orientation, that is is there wise to me it is meaningless __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

5th Jul 2010, 08:49 AM	#2
theJosephDean Nothing but the rain. Full Member Gender: 男 Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 Out Status: Om nom nom. Location: Johnson City, TN Age: 20 Posts: 1,633 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? Though when I'm talking with friends, I'll call myself gay, I don't really choose one of the labels when being honest. The reason I just tell people I'm a Kinsey 5 is because though I've a high attraction to males, I have been in (albeit unsuccessful) relationships with females and there's always the rare girl that I can find myself attracted to. I can't completely call myself gay. That being, I'm not bisexual because in general, men turn me on - women don't :P Identifying as such isn't just a phrase or a word to me, but simply who I am. It's a part of me, just like being an atheist and a vegetarian is a part of me. I believe people should not be categorised based on their characteristics or identifications, but they are very important aspects of them that should be appreciated. If any of that made any sense at all ^_^ __________________ Ph'nglui mglw'nafh Cthulhu R'lyeh wgah'nagl fhtagn.

5th Jul 2010, 08:55 AM	#3
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? that is not what asking i am asking what does that word mean to you? __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

5th Jul 2010, 08:58 AM	#4
Davy I like panda's! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Scotland (That's the bit with hills & rain) Posts: 414 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? For me being gay is a label so other people can identify the fact i have a sexual attraction to the same sex. It's not who I am but part of me. __________________ Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands? Ernest Gaines

5th Jul 2010, 09:05 AM	#5
Rikudo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? Gay= liking men Lesbian= liking women Bi= liking both It's as simple as that. __________________ "Out of love, sacrifice is born... Hate is born... and we are able to know pain!"

5th Jul 2010, 09:10 AM	#6
VampConspiracy Not Upholding the Masquerade! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay. The slippery slide of outness. Out Status: Everybody and their dogs know I'm gay Location: Missouri Age: 20 Posts: 527 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? For me, being bisexual is having the capability to make those strong emotional bonds you may call "love" with anybody regardless of what's inside their pants. Sexual activities are secondary; the primary goal is the reciprocating of emotions. Forget the junk you see on Empty-V and MyScrape, and forget the stereotypical whore. __________________ X__________________________________

5th Jul 2010, 09:45 AM	#9
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? obviously you did not get the point, what do those word mean to YOU, not there really meaning, what do you in your own head what do they mean, are they meaning less discipers to you or are they much more meaningful? that is the question i was asking __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

5th Jul 2010, 10:06 AM	#10
Spectre My Avatar is a Magic-Eye Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: The world at large Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 262 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? They're words used to describe sexual orientation. Nothing more. Just because they don't have some profound meaning to other people (i.e., their meanings are simple and of the norm) doesn't mean people aren't getting the point.

5th Jul 2010, 02:06 PM	#14
settlingsound Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I'm out but ppl don't believe me lol Location: Canada Posts: 10 Join Date: May 2010	Re: What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? To me... the word gay/bi/lesbian/trans means a part of who we are, as a human race we are all diverse and have many great differences between each other. Being gay/bi/lesbian/trans is just to show how beautiful we all are. __________________ "People tend to complicate their own lives, as if living weren't already complicated enough." — Carlos Ruiz Zafón (The Shadow of the Wind)

5th Jul 2010, 04:07 PM	#15
Inhuman Coolio Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Let's go with gay Out Status: The whole world, but not some extended family Location: Winnipeg Age: 18 Posts: 70 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: What does gay/lesbian/Bisexual mean to you? To me, being non-straight/gay means that I'm into guys more than girls and probably gay. It comments on who I find attractive, and has nothing to say about my gender identity or any part of me. Smiles __________________ RUNESCAPE IS GOOD <a href=http://runetrack.com/profile.php?user=Not_Inhuman><img src=http://runetrack.com/sigs/stat/gold/pose/237/Not_Inhuman.png border=0></a>