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RedKnight · 11th Aug 2010, 05:08 AM

Today when I was walking to the train station i decided to analyse my own body language of what I just thought. When I was thinking about being with another guy I continued walking with my head up, looking forward. When I thought about telling my mates that I was bi, my head would then look down so that I was looking at the ground. I figured out that I also do this when I think back about negative experiences in the past.

So I am wondering if when you thought about telling people about your sexuality that your had the same subconcious reaction or if its just me?

blankpaper · 11th Aug 2010, 05:15 AM

I always look away. Always.

Z3ni · 11th Aug 2010, 05:22 AM

I think it maybe self confidence issues?

RedKnight · 11th Aug 2010, 05:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Z3ni

I think it maybe self confidence issues?

yeah, i think thats pretty good reasoning. probably explains the reasoning why I can't look people in the eyes as I walk pass them on the street :P

still was fun analysing my body langauge though

Z3ni · 11th Aug 2010, 05:30 AM

Yeah I like to anaylse people body language lol, you find out some stuff like I did at work haha

RedKnight · 11th Aug 2010, 05:32 AM

yeah, I suck at analysing body langauge. Only got thinking about it from the show "lie to me"

xCrazyInsanity · 11th Aug 2010, 08:31 AM

my body language is probably very difficult to read for most people.
i almost never have the same reaction twice

but... yeah.
Coming out usually equates a nervous reaction.

malachite · 11th Aug 2010, 07:44 PM

if you can't look at the person look past them, don't look down especially if you're telling someone who may not be accepting. They'll smell weakness and come after it. Be strong.

RedKnight · 11th Aug 2010, 11:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by malachite

if you can't look at the person look past them, don't look down especially if you're telling someone who may not be accepting. They'll smell weakness and come after it. Be strong.

I didn't mean when telling people that I'm bi, I meant in general, walking down the street. is that worse? XD

VampConspiracy · 11th Aug 2010, 11:47 PM

Body language? I don't pay attention to it; while I'm walking, I generally have software designs/music/anxiety overflowing in my head.

fragomatrick · 12th Aug 2010, 05:56 AM

Look in the eyes of the listener always ! It intimidates them ! If you cannot look them in the eye, look at the center of the forehead. It's an old sales trick.

11th Aug 2010, 05:08 AM	#1
RedKnight Random Guy #9 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I Know I Like Guys Out Status: Mum and some friends Location: Lower Hutt, New Zealand Age: 20 Posts: 850 Join Date: Aug 2010	Body Language Today when I was walking to the train station i decided to analyse my own body language of what I just thought. When I was thinking about being with another guy I continued walking with my head up, looking forward. When I thought about telling my mates that I was bi, my head would then look down so that I was looking at the ground. I figured out that I also do this when I think back about negative experiences in the past. So I am wondering if when you thought about telling people about your sexuality that your had the same subconcious reaction or if its just me? __________________ ________\o/______/l__________ Shark Attack!

11th Aug 2010, 05:15 AM	#2
blankpaper Confusion all over the place Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Six friends, mom, dad and brother!! Location: Boston Posts: 220 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Body Language I always look away. Always. __________________ So is life...

11th Aug 2010, 05:22 AM	#3
Z3ni Ec's ADD Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayish Out Status: My Twin Location: England, Manchester Posts: 3,080 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Body Language I think it maybe self confidence issues? __________________ Through pain, lies success.

11th Aug 2010, 05:30 AM	#5
Z3ni Ec's ADD Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayish Out Status: My Twin Location: England, Manchester Posts: 3,080 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Body Language Yeah I like to anaylse people body language lol, you find out some stuff like I did at work haha __________________ Through pain, lies success.

11th Aug 2010, 05:32 AM	#6
RedKnight Random Guy #9 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I Know I Like Guys Out Status: Mum and some friends Location: Lower Hutt, New Zealand Age: 20 Posts: 850 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Body Language yeah, I suck at analysing body langauge. Only got thinking about it from the show "lie to me" __________________ ________\o/______/l__________ Shark Attack!

11th Aug 2010, 08:31 AM	#7
xCrazyInsanity Gay, no. Fabulous, totally. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: All BUT family Location: South-East Pennsylvania Age: 17 Posts: 750 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Body Language my body language is probably very difficult to read for most people. i almost never have the same reaction twice but... yeah. Coming out usually equates a nervous reaction. __________________ This is love, this is not treason.

11th Aug 2010, 07:44 PM	#8
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Body Language if you can't look at the person look past them, don't look down especially if you're telling someone who may not be accepting. They'll smell weakness and come after it. Be strong. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

11th Aug 2010, 11:47 PM	#10
VampConspiracy Not Upholding the Masquerade! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay. The slippery slide of outness. Out Status: Everybody and their dogs know I'm gay Location: Missouri Age: 20 Posts: 527 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Body Language Body language? I don't pay attention to it; while I'm walking, I generally have software designs/music/anxiety overflowing in my head. __________________ X__________________________________

12th Aug 2010, 05:56 AM	#11
fragomatrick Perpetually Bored! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Age: 21 Posts: 732 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Body Language Look in the eyes of the listener always ! It intimidates them ! If you cannot look them in the eye, look at the center of the forehead. It's an old sales trick. __________________ The man who smiles when things go wrong has thought of someone to blame it on. - Robert Bloch

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