Is it just me who thinks this way? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Madithis · 4th Sep 2010, 03:38 PM

Good day everyone.

I am currently picking up from people that I chat to, that people in their 20's dont care about relationships and only want sex. Why is that?

I feel like im the only person who wants to have a relationship and be close to someone.
What happened to looking for personality then looks?

x2x2x2x2y2 · 4th Sep 2010, 03:44 PM

What people are you chatting to???

I don't think that it's true, atleast for the most part. I think like 98% of all people want a relationship deep down, whether they acknowlege that want or not, is up to them.

**Owen** · 4th Sep 2010, 04:01 PM

That seems to be a commonality among my friends too (and I, too, want more than just sex), but I think that's just because people are more likely to talk about their sex-capades than their relationships, so you're more likely to hear about someone's conquests if they just want sex than their relationships if they are looking for that.

starfish · 4th Sep 2010, 10:04 PM

I think a lot of it has to do with where you are looking. It is going to be hard to find a Ford at the Chevy dealer. Sure you might find one eventually but the easiest way to find one is to go to the Ford dealer.

Just Adam · 5th Sep 2010, 03:55 AM

i dont care about sex infact i almost dislike sex...its awkward... i only care about relationships .

sadly its almost impossible to have a relationship without sex.

llenadepecas · 5th Sep 2010, 04:24 AM

I think a lot of people are scared to admit all they want is to have someone so instead they make a joke about it and cover it up. Also, it's a bit of a social thing, a competition. so people often feel they have something to prove. It's lot easier to talk about something more...trivial like sex, isn't it? So I guess it could be any of those. or none. What I will say is, don't go looking for a relationship. Look instead for a friend, and if something more is an option, it will find you

csm123 · 5th Sep 2010, 08:25 AM

Hi,i totaly agree with starfish on this one.This is also how it works for straight couples aswell,90% of clubbers are out for a 1 night stand, gay/bi/straight they just want sex.

Just try looking elsewere or even try looking on a gay dating site to see if there are others in your area looking for the same as you.

Good luck

Revan · 5th Sep 2010, 01:46 PM

I sort of find that gay men in their teens/early 20s do want sex more often, but I think this has to do with finally being free in college/university/whatever. They are just trying out what sex life is like before deciding to settle down.

4th Sep 2010, 03:38 PM	#1
Madithis Newbie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual mostly gay Posts: 4 Join Date: May 2010	Is it just me who thinks this way? Good day everyone. I am currently picking up from people that I chat to, that people in their 20's dont care about relationships and only want sex. Why is that? I feel like im the only person who wants to have a relationship and be close to someone. What happened to looking for personality then looks?

4th Sep 2010, 03:44 PM	#2
x2x2x2x2y2 PARAWHORE!!!!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: ~I like guys~ Out Status: Everyone, pretty much. Location: Wonderland (and California, USA) Age: 18 Posts: 3,971 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Is it just me who thinks this way? What people are you chatting to??? I don't think that it's true, atleast for the most part. I think like 98% of all people want a relationship deep down, whether they acknowlege that want or not, is up to them. __________________ "THINGS ARE LOOKING UP, OH FINALLY!!" "I believe that there's hope buried beneath it all and...Hiding beneath it all and... GROWING beneath it all!!" -Paramore ...and the lesbians

4th Sep 2010, 04:01 PM	#3
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,871 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Is it just me who thinks this way? That seems to be a commonality among my friends too (and I, too, want more than just sex), but I think that's just because people are more likely to talk about their sex-capades than their relationships, so you're more likely to hear about someone's conquests if they just want sex than their relationships if they are looking for that. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

4th Sep 2010, 10:04 PM	#4
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Is it just me who thinks this way? I think a lot of it has to do with where you are looking. It is going to be hard to find a Ford at the Chevy dealer. Sure you might find one eventually but the easiest way to find one is to go to the Ford dealer. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

5th Sep 2010, 03:55 AM	#5
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Is it just me who thinks this way? i dont care about sex infact i almost dislike sex...its awkward... i only care about relationships . sadly its almost impossible to have a relationship without sex. __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

5th Sep 2010, 04:24 AM	#6
llenadepecas Property of Pandapops Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: West Midlands, UK Age: 20 Posts: 397 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Is it just me who thinks this way? I think a lot of people are scared to admit all they want is to have someone so instead they make a joke about it and cover it up. Also, it's a bit of a social thing, a competition. so people often feel they have something to prove. It's lot easier to talk about something more...trivial like sex, isn't it? So I guess it could be any of those. or none. What I will say is, don't go looking for a relationship. Look instead for a friend, and if something more is an option, it will find you __________________ chav accent "I has messed with your chocolates, so now you can get a Dairy Milk for 10p and for 50p you can get a CHOMP!!!... And there's nothing you can do about it!" Pandapops

5th Sep 2010, 08:25 AM	#7
csm123 Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: dad,brother+7more Location: Lincs(UK) Posts: 158 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Is it just me who thinks this way? Hi,i totaly agree with starfish on this one.This is also how it works for straight couples aswell,90% of clubbers are out for a 1 night stand, gay/bi/straight they just want sex. Just try looking elsewere or even try looking on a gay dating site to see if there are others in your area looking for the same as you. Good luck

5th Sep 2010, 01:46 PM	#8
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Is it just me who thinks this way? I sort of find that gay men in their teens/early 20s do want sex more often, but I think this has to do with finally being free in college/university/whatever. They are just trying out what sex life is like before deciding to settle down. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

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