Small towns

Depends on the small town. Pretty little College Towns like Ithaca NY are probably the most LGBT friendly small towns. Thats for sure.

 

Well I would figure a question like

would refer to LGBT Friendliness. Anything else would be silly to mention because then why put "gay" infront of man? And then to further add the silliness, If the question was just "Can a man be happy in a small town?", then it would be common sense the answer would be yes otherwise there would be no small towns as no one would want to live somewhere where they wouldn't be happy.

Just saying.

 

Personally, I grew up on the outskirts of NYC in the giant suburb of Nassau County, Long Island, which is densely populated, and sometimes within the city itself. I absolutely love the city. And thats how I lived for 18 years of my life. Then I went to the city of Buffalo, NY for 1 year of College. Now, the approximate population of the NYC Metropolitan area is 19,006,798. Buffalo is 1,254,066. Buffalo is also the 2nd most populous city in NY. Which I find funny.

Anyway, living in Buffalo, I definitely didn't consider it a city, but that's because I was spoiled with the largeness of NYC, and I hated it, for many reasons, but one of them was definitely because it was too small and not busy enough. So if you really love cities, maybe you might be able to live off of a small town, but I personally wouldn't.

EDIT: I'm a sucker for 24 hour stores. So if a city doesn't have at least one of them, I freak out. xD

 

I live on a farm, but our closest town is about 5,000 people. In Ireland, being gay is not what an Irish man is. Me bro and I live with our Granda and Granny and the both of us are gay. If we came out, life as we know it would cease to exist. We're needed here to help work the farm so leaving them alone is not an option, nor de we have a right to destroy their world. To cnsider just ourselves would be selfish and lacking the love and compassion that gay's are supposed to embody.

I've had the odd bloke glance at me, the laser cruise, but I've no desire to start something in the community and me bro has had the same, maybe him more so than me cos other boys, and girls, seem t fancy his blond hair.

County Donegal is rural old time Ireland. We speak Irish here everyday, and when we go up to the pub of an evening, Sean McGinty's grandsons are expected to be good Irish, republican lads. Gay doesn't exist or fit in our world, so our dragon stays hidden in the Hills of Donegal for all our good.

 

I live in a small town as well. It sucks. I don't like it here. Can't wait to move out of here someday.
I don't believe you can. Maybe you can be impervious to other people's opinions. But what about your children you talk about? After all, small town people are known to be narrow minded. They wouldn't be as comfortable about your sexuality as you would want them to be.
For someone who is not rustic anymore, would find it really difficult to survive the less developed lifestyle. But if you HAVE to get used to it, then just suck up to it!

 

This post makes me so, so glad I live in Dublin. I couldn't imagine living in a small town at all.

 

No, it's not possible for a gay man to be happy in a small town. I speak from experience!

 

Not impossible. My town = 961 people. I =

 

I'd hate to live in a small place. I grew up in Oxford which has a population of 154 000, and it seemed very small to me. A lovely place, liberal and relaxed, but definitely small, and sometimes there isn't alot to do.

I then moved to Birmingham for university, which has a population of 1million. It seems so much move alive and vibrant. I love the city. I couldn't imagine living in the country side, i'd hate it!

 

I grew up in a small town (8000 people or so) and recently I've grown to really like the place.. although I'm moving out tomorrow to go to uni D).

 

Can you be happy? Yes, definitely. It'll be harder to find people to date'n'mate, but there are ways around that.

There was a neat documentary about being gay in rural towns. I think it was "Farm Family - In Search of Gay Life in Rural America". They talked to gay singles and couples who lived on farms and small towns. It was almost dull, which actually was a great thing. For instance, they talked to a rancher who had one employee - a gay man who helped milk the cows and whatnot. And the rancher sort of shrugged. "He's gay. It's kinda weird to me, but hey - I don't care." And the employee said "I milk the cows. I'd like to get a boyfriend, but right now, I'm enjoying the farm life." And so on.

Lex

 

I live in a town of 56,000 (28,000 of which are college students) and really like it here. That said, it is a college town and the presence of a major university brings a lot of advantages that your average town of 50,000 doesn't have. I spent the first 13 years of my life living in a town of less than 350 people. I liked it, but I don't think I'd ever want to live somewhere that small again. After that we moved to a nearby town of about 5,000 on the outskirts of a mid-sized city (Omaha, with about 850,000 in the metro area). Of course you can be happy anywhere, but I think that's the best option. We were less than 30 minutes outside of downtown and all of the stuff in the city while living in a quite and safe small town.