Human Sexuality Paper

I am too tired to think up deep and compelling questions at the moment (it is 4am here...) but I will gladly help answer some.

 

always fun to answer questions.bring them on,I can take it!

 

I volunteer too! I like answering questions, but I'm not so good at thinking them up...

 

Sure I'll answer some! Well as long as I can remain anonymous..

 

Sure!! Why not

Bring it(or them) on, baby:icon_wink

 

Yeah, sure Ill do it...let me know what the questions are and Ill get back to you

 

The only question(s) I ever wondered were:
Why is this such a bad thing?
How come I am the one who has to be different?
*pause* My noise just cleared up and I can smell my cologne agian!!! woot!
*continue*
Why do I prefer boys over girls?
Why is it I have to hide this secret from the world just to make everyone else happier?

 

I'll gladly answer a few questions if responses from older members are useful. Post them here or send a PM, whichever you prefer. If you're quoting peoples answers in your paper it'd be best to just use a first name or nickname (enough to distinguish between different people in the paper, but not enough to actually identify anyone).

 

I'd be ok answering questions too - if you're looking for feedback from people my age (36).

 

I'm okay with answering questions if you like

 

Sure! would be fun

 

I would love to answer some questions, also if you want some stories, I would be happy to give you my two coming out stories. Just let me know.

 

Oooh I wanna help! Pick me pick me!

 

Ask away!

 

I'd love to help!

 

Um u can call me Carlos lol.I think marrige would be more fitting because str8 ppl have it too and we are not different we are all humans and since i was raised chatholic it would also be cool. But idk when ill get married lol.Um im not religious i just believe in god when i need him.I realized i was gay in like 6th/7th grade i liked lloking at guys not girls.I accepted it recently like fully embraced it when i found EC.When i came out the first time it was to my closets friend first i said it was a joke then i told him again and said it was serious he took it well and said he cudnt judge me and to do my thing lol i lubs him. I felt soo nervous my heart was like beating 10000 times per minute.

 

1. First provide an alternate name I can use to refer to you in the paper. (Good idea Paul, I don’t want it to sound all statistical and cold: Person #1, Person B, Person Pi, etc.)

My alternate name can be....... ummmm how about Emma

2. Would you be satisfied with civil union having all the benefits of and being on par with marriage? Or does marriage hold ideologies for you that you don’t think could be replaced by anything else?

To me, I can't understand why a civil union can't be called marriage, it does have the benefits of a proper marriage, but this is another way for "the haters" to feel as if they are better than gay people, because they can do stuff that gay people can't, they can call a marriage a marriage, wheras gay people have to settle for civil union.

3. For those of you who are religious: Does your religion and orientation conflict? If so, how do you deal with it?

Not that religious so can't really answer this one

4. When did you first realize you were homosexual/bisexual?

I think a part of me has always known it. I had strange crushes on girl friends even from a very young age, I didn't realise this was not normal, I just thought every one felt that way. But I was always the odd one out, the one that never fit in to the norm. Girls my age were always talking about lip gloss and mobile phones and boys, this was at about age 11-13, and I didn't see what all the fuss was about. But I wanted to be liked, so I played along, I pretended to like boys, I pretended to be in love with all of Westlife, I pretended to have a wardrobe full of pink tight tops and push up bras, but this wasn't me. And I wasn't happy, I spent most of my time on my own, playing football with myself and writing stories, then I changed school. I made friends, friends who were more accepting of the fact that I was different. And it was during that time, I developed more (of what I thought as) perverted crushes, on female teachers and friends, and one friend in particular. Because of sex education, I learned what a homosexual was, and tossed the idea in my head for a long time.

5. When did you accept it?

When I was about 14-15, I kind of realised that I was a lesbian, and was a bit afraid of it to be honest. I think my friends suspected it but I knew some other people who were gay and my same friends treated them no differently after they came out.

6. If you are out, describe the first time you came out to anyone. (How did they react?/How did you feel?/etc.)

Somebody actually asked me "So do you like any boys?" and I replied with "I don't like boys, I prefer girls" they then said "So you're a lesbian then?" and I kind of just replied with "Yeah, I am" and they just said "Oh, cool". I felt a lot better after that and had the courage to come out to a lot of other people.

7. For the more advanced generations, ☺, Describe how it is different growing up homosexual/bisexual back then and today.

8. Share anything else you’d like to, or that you think is important!

Now being a lesbian is part of who I am, and I am proud of who I am. There is no reason why anybody should feel uncomfortable about who they are

 

1. First provide an alternate name I can use to refer to you in the paper. (Good idea Paul, I don’t want it to sound all statistical and cold: Person #1, Person B, Person Pi, etc.)

They call me Cookie, but most of them call me Spiky you can call me Spiky then

2. Would you be satisfied with civil union having all the benefits of and being on par with marriage? Or does marriage hold ideologies for you that you don’t think could be replaced by anything else?

Well, I think peopel should accept gay marriage, and I am not satisfied with the way gay marriage are being banned in some places. Since America adopted the Declaration of Independence and Bill Of Rights, they should adopt the Declaration of Gay Rights. It a free country now, and everyone can enjoy the freedome of expression, and gay marriage should be allowed, more or less, peopel should reallize that gay love is also as normal as straight love, becaus eit is love, not hate

3. For those of you who are religious: Does your religion and orientation conflict? If so, how do you deal with it?

Im a Christian, and I read from some resources on the internet that gay and Christian have big struggles.
One time as I watched Tyra Bank show, a lady said that God will punish those who are gay because we make America doomed, and she said if we dont repent, we will all go to hell, which made me so furious. Then why do God create people who are gay then they all have to go to hell
I dont care, I will be gay forever, and I dont care, because I dont do nothing wrong. Im a gay Christian

4. When did you first realize you were homosexual/bisexual?
5. When did you accept it?
6. If you are out, describe the first time you came out to anyone. (How did they react?/How did you feel?/etc.)

I was first reallized that I was gay when I was in elementary school, around 7 years old. I started to have feelings for guys and like to look at them

I accepted myself right away, because to me, it was not a big thing, it was ok, though I didnt come out at that time, but I was happy about who I am, because nobody could hurt me

I started to come out to the world 7more than half a year ago. The 1st person was my sister. Actually, I accidently came out to her, and she was pretty ok with it. But she just kept telling me that gay is wrong and such and such. But she didnt hate me or anything, all she wanted was that I can turn into a straight guy, but that will never happen, because when a nail is stuck in a wall, you cant get it out.
My friends are my supporters, and I just sit here watching the reaction chain as they tell people my real person without moving a muscle

7. For the more advanced generations, ☺, Describe how it is different growing up homosexual/bisexual back then and today.

Before, the society didnt accept homosexual as much as for now , because now teh gay population increased a lot, and we have lots of activities like gay prides.
Before, it was not easy to be a gay person, you didnt have the internet to get help from others gay people, you didnt have many gay communities an dhot lines, and it was much much harder to come out. Since today, Im pretty happy to have more opportunity to get help from people. And as you can see, more people are open to gay than before

8. Share anything else you’d like to, or that you think is important!

Well, I am gay and I am proud of myself. I have a dream that one day peopel will accpect us, and they treat us the same as they treat themselves, and I hope that gay people wont be scared to come out, and accept themselves, rather than trying to ddeny it and have to do something that is not good at all.

Being gay makes me stronger and more confident

It dosent matter who you become, you are still you, you have to accapt yourself, people need to accept you, because being gay is not a bad thing or a wrong thing, you have to be proud of yourself, and Im glad that we have gay pride months in the year

It's important to keep going when you think you will fall, it dosnet matter how life treat you as a gay person, you can not die, because you have to be strong and get over it

I wish I can live till the day that gay people are happy and fully accepted

Dont be afraid of love, but hate, gay love is not wrong, and you should be proud of it!