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Dare2bProud · 23rd Oct 2010, 09:02 AM

Just a quick poll: How do you handle people who ignore you? (i.e. they don't return your calls, they don't pay attention to your text messages, don't respond to your emails etc ....)

Revan · 23rd Oct 2010, 09:24 AM

I use to constantly text them over and over. Nowadays I just let it go. I know it's hard but either the person is busy, or their phone died/they're away from the phone and didn't get the messages, or they're jerks and you should forget about them.

stad90 · 23rd Oct 2010, 10:31 AM

Unless you need the person for something (i.e. a school project) or they're family, then that person probably isn't worth wasting time on. Move along and find someone who'll pay attention to you.

fragomatrick · 23rd Oct 2010, 10:40 AM

Forgive them and move on. if they don't care about you, thew you shouldn't either. When you learn to do this, tell me how did it!

starfish · 23rd Oct 2010, 11:28 AM

Yeah just let it go.

I am the worst about returning calls and texts, and email. Usually I'll read the message, pause to think...... Hey a puppy. You're such cute puppy, yes you are, yes you are. Awww look how he sakes his leg when I scratch behind his ear. This your dog? What his name? Well hello Fido, you are such a good puppy. Oh you have to go. OK, well bye Fido. Now what was I doing. Oh yeah, checking the price of tea in China. Man tea has gotten expensive. That's inflation for ya. I wonder what wikipedia says about inflation.

Three weeks later.
Hey I never returned Tom's text.

So I would give a few days and then give them a another try. If they don't respond then let it go.

**Chip** · 23rd Oct 2010, 02:02 PM

If you text, call, email more than a couple of times with no response, it's time to let it go. You might send one last email that says "I've been trying to reach you for a week (or whatever) and you haven't responded. I'm going to assume that you aren't interested in maintaining contact. If that's the case, you don't need to do anything else, I won't contact you again. If it isn't the case, please get in touch soon.

And then.... really let it go. Don't call, text, email again.

The ones that you have to pester to communicate with you aren't worth communicating with.

malachite · 23rd Oct 2010, 04:08 PM

depends is it someone your into?
or, is it friends your trying to get in touch with?
Is it someone you hooked up with?

MusicIsLife · 23rd Oct 2010, 09:15 PM

my ex never returned my texts, calls or emails, then when she finally got around to getting back to me, she laughed it off. Hence why shes my ex. People who ignore you for any reason is lame. Just forget them, not worth the effort.

Z3ni · 24th Oct 2010, 07:49 AM

Well.. I just pass it off, I can understand if their busy..

Lol its funny, I got this friend.. he likes this girl.. and he texted her and he waited the whole day for a reply, then hes goes and gets depressed about it coz she hasnt replied.. I'm like.. its only a day.

**Lexington** · 24th Oct 2010, 08:32 AM

I take the hint and move on. I've got enough people who DO return calls, e-mails and texts to bother chasing down those that don't.

Lex

ok455 · 24th Oct 2010, 11:25 AM

I move on i just assume they are not interested in keeping touch with me. I used to have my ex high school friends on facebook i tried to keep in touch with them sending them messages and stuff and they ignore me or delete my messages i just delete them off and move on. I don't have time to chase after people.

23rd Oct 2010, 09:02 AM	#1
Dare2bProud Theatre Scholar Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: MO Age: 28 Posts: 627 Join Date: Mar 2009	Ignoring Just a quick poll: How do you handle people who ignore you? (i.e. they don't return your calls, they don't pay attention to your text messages, don't respond to your emails etc ....)

23rd Oct 2010, 09:24 AM	#2
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Ignoring I use to constantly text them over and over. Nowadays I just let it go. I know it's hard but either the person is busy, or their phone died/they're away from the phone and didn't get the messages, or they're jerks and you should forget about them. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

23rd Oct 2010, 10:31 AM	#3
stad90 Your neighbourly nutball. Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Los Angeles, CA Age: 20 Posts: 101 Join Date: Oct 2010	Re: Ignoring Unless you need the person for something (i.e. a school project) or they're family, then that person probably isn't worth wasting time on. Move along and find someone who'll pay attention to you.

23rd Oct 2010, 10:40 AM	#4
fragomatrick Perpetually Bored! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Age: 21 Posts: 732 Join Date: Jan 2010	Re: Ignoring Forgive them and move on. if they don't care about you, thew you shouldn't either. When you learn to do this, tell me how did it! __________________ The man who smiles when things go wrong has thought of someone to blame it on. - Robert Bloch

23rd Oct 2010, 11:28 AM	#5
starfish This space for lease. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I like guys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Hippie Town, Alberta of the US Age: 31 Posts: 2,108 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Ignoring Yeah just let it go. I am the worst about returning calls and texts, and email. Usually I'll read the message, pause to think...... Hey a puppy. You're such cute puppy, yes you are, yes you are. Awww look how he sakes his leg when I scratch behind his ear. This your dog? What his name? Well hello Fido, you are such a good puppy. Oh you have to go. OK, well bye Fido. Now what was I doing. Oh yeah, checking the price of tea in China. Man tea has gotten expensive. That's inflation for ya. I wonder what wikipedia says about inflation. Three weeks later. Hey I never returned Tom's text. So I would give a few days and then give them a another try. If they don't respond then let it go. __________________ All the problems of the world could be settled easily if men were only willing to think. The trouble is that men very often resort to all sorts of devices in order not to think, because thinking is such hard work. --Thomas J. Watson

23rd Oct 2010, 02:02 PM	#6
Chip EC Advisor EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: northern CA Posts: 5,579 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Ignoring If you text, call, email more than a couple of times with no response, it's time to let it go. You might send one last email that says "I've been trying to reach you for a week (or whatever) and you haven't responded. I'm going to assume that you aren't interested in maintaining contact. If that's the case, you don't need to do anything else, I won't contact you again. If it isn't the case, please get in touch soon. And then.... really let it go. Don't call, text, email again. The ones that you have to pester to communicate with you aren't worth communicating with.

23rd Oct 2010, 04:08 PM	#7
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Ignoring depends is it someone your into? or, is it friends your trying to get in touch with? Is it someone you hooked up with? __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

23rd Oct 2010, 09:15 PM	#8
MusicIsLife EC Addict Full Member Gender: Not even sure anymore. Something in between. Orientation: I like girls :) Out Status: Everyone on orientation 7 people on trans issue. Location: Montréal, QC Age: 23 Posts: 1,595 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Ignoring my ex never returned my texts, calls or emails, then when she finally got around to getting back to me, she laughed it off. Hence why shes my ex. People who ignore you for any reason is lame. Just forget them, not worth the effort.

24th Oct 2010, 07:49 AM	#9
Z3ni Ec's ADD Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayish Out Status: My Twin Location: England, Manchester Posts: 3,082 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Ignoring Well.. I just pass it off, I can understand if their busy.. Lol its funny, I got this friend.. he likes this girl.. and he texted her and he waited the whole day for a reply, then hes goes and gets depressed about it coz she hasnt replied.. I'm like.. its only a day. __________________ Through pain, lies success.

24th Oct 2010, 08:32 AM	#10
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Ignoring I take the hint and move on. I've got enough people who DO return calls, e-mails and texts to bother chasing down those that don't. Lex

24th Oct 2010, 11:25 AM	#11
ok455 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Can't tell L!O!L Age: 24 Posts: 437 Join Date: May 2005	Re: Ignoring I move on i just assume they are not interested in keeping touch with me. I used to have my ex high school friends on facebook i tried to keep in touch with them sending them messages and stuff and they ignore me or delete my messages i just delete them off and move on. I don't have time to chase after people. __________________ http://209.50.252.116/smile.gif Last edited by ok455; 24th Oct 2010 at 11:35 AM..

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