Straight crushes piss me off...

[Super Trouper]

Well... I've been in love with one of my best (straight) friends for the past 3 years... It actually made me fall into a deep depression last year, but I've been trying to get over it. The problem is that my attraction for her has been growing like crazy, since she's gotten so damn hot lately
I've actually caught myself eye-screwing her in the last few weeks, and I think she notices it.
So, I was wondering how you guys are able to control yourselves when you're around your crushes, cuz I sure as hell don't xD

Thanks.

[pteen]

yah i got caught doing that today, to one of my friends.
But from my "experience" it will probably be impossible to do unless you are really good at acting or have plenty of self control. GOOD LUCK though!

[ok455]

Wow 3 years is a long time You ever thought about taking a break from her for a few days? and seeing what happens? I know if im away from a crush for a while i lose interest. Maybe you spend too much time with her? How do you react when she has a boyfriend?

I hate straight crushes its annoying i have a crush on a guy at my job hes just so hott i had a crush on him before and it stopped and it came back. When i have a crush i play around with the guy a lot and laugh and i guess flirt but i just force my self to control my self. Even working with him if hes in another area i just try to find excuses to go over there and mess with him.

[Pseudojim]

my problem is usually crushing on gay women =( most straight guys don't do it for me

[GoinStag]

To keep from "eye screwing" my straight crush I would usually just try not to look at him...believe me.....I know that sounds impossible, and it practically was. That's just what I did.

[Shevanel]

Originally Posted by Pseudojim

my problem is usually crushing on gay women =( most straight guys don't do it for me

DUDE! I totally do the same thing! Lesbians tend to be fucking amazing (well, lots of people are, but a lot of Lesbians tend to usually have like 99% of the qualities I look for in a person, but they are obviously unavailable to me ) . I always swear that I was meant to be a lesbian >_>

[Hollowsoul]

I have a hard time controling my self. Every boy I like seems to be straight and i have the same problem as you my I've had a crush on my chubby friend for 3 years and he's straight I think and it sucks it's really hard to not make a move on him or try to kiss him lol

[Pseudojim]

Originally Posted by Shevanel

DUDE! I totally do the same thing! Lesbians tend to be fucking amazing (well, lots of people are, but a lot of Lesbians tend to usually have like 99% of the qualities I look for in a person, but they are obviously unavailable to me ) . I always swear that I was meant to be a lesbian >_>

yep, same!

[peaceandlies]

My Experience: Oh god - I hate crushes. I had a three year crush and it was more complicated than yours, I swear. So it was a guy - he was the main reason I thought I was bisexual for so long, but half way through last year, I figured one very important thing: I wasn't sexually attracted to him. It explained a lot, and I realised I was a lesbian. Then here comes the best bit: He's gay. He doesn't realise it yet, I think, but he's definitely gay. But that wasn't what made me get over him. I took a three month break from him over the summer, and came out, and got damn close to having sex. The combination kind of made me immune to him (and all non-sexual male crushes). I also watched A LOT of porn.

My Advice: Come out (If you can), get a girlfriend or boyfriend, and get off on something else that isn't her. Also, wear sunglasses when you can until your over the eye-fucking.

Is this the friend your out to?

[AlyssWonderland]

Augh I hate straight crushes. This girl I've been in love with for like a year now is straight, and I dated her best friend, so its no chance at all even if she was the slightest bit bi.
I just try not to talk to her too too much, and when I do get a little weird talking to her, I say I'm tired, out of it, or hyper hahah. And when that fails, I pull out my acting skills. Sorry if that doesn't help to anyone who can't act.

[Super Trouper]

Originally Posted by peaceandlies

My Experience: Oh god - I hate crushes. I had a three year crush and it was more complicated than yours, I swear. So it was a guy - he was the main reason I thought I was bisexual for so long, but half way through last year, I figured one very important thing: I wasn't sexually attracted to him. It explained a lot, and I realised I was a lesbian. Then here comes the best bit: He's gay. He doesn't realise it yet, I think, but he's definitely gay. But that wasn't what made me get over him. I took a three month break from him over the summer, and came out, and got damn close to having sex. The combination kind of made me immune to him (and all non-sexual male crushes). I also watched A LOT of porn.

My Advice: Come out (If you can), get a girlfriend or boyfriend, and get off on something else that isn't her. Also, wear sunglasses when you can until your over the eye-fucking.

Is this the friend your out to?

No, she isn't the friend I'm out to, but I once talked to her about it, and she seemed to be cool with that sort of thing, so I think she'll probably be the next person I'm gonna come out to.

---------- Post added 28th Oct 2010 at 10:18 PM ----------

Originally Posted by AlyssWonderland

Augh I hate straight crushes. This girl I've been in love with for like a year now is straight, and I dated her best friend, so its no chance at all even if she was the slightest bit bi.
I just try not to talk to her too too much, and when I do get a little weird talking to her, I say I'm tired, out of it, or hyper hahah. And when that fails, I pull out my acting skills. Sorry if that doesn't help to anyone who can't act.

Lol, it's okay, I'm starting to learn how to act around straight crushes
Hope it all works out with yours.

[malachite]

I hear you its the holy trinity
Straight, Taken, or not interested

[Super Trouper]

Lol, good one xD

[507bro]

I had 3 straight crush and I'm done with playing guessing game.
Three strikes and I'm out. I told myself when the times come it comes.
still waiting

[Super Trouper]

Yeah, you're right. But the problem is getting over them, which seems to be the hardest thing ever...

[KT1990]

The first girl I kissed was straight and she didn't know I liked girls or that I had a crush on her we were playing truth or dare and she told me she was straight and just liked the attention, I didn't care I just wanted to kiss her. Shes one of the first people I told and she told me she already knew. I was actually surprised I asked her how she knew she just said I wonder

[Mad Man L]

The only way I got over my straight crush was by discussing how I felt for, but that was only after him finding out, him completely ignoring me then semi-tearing myself apart and going through a period of wild mood swings.

So yeah, I'm hopeless

[midwestgirl89]

I have had the same issue for the past 5 to 6 years so I understand what you're going through. Straight crushes suck big time... The thing that helped me the most was to take some time away from my friend. You don't have to stay away from her for long but it might help you to feel a little better and not so depressed. Does she know how you feel about her? If you do need time away from her, you can tell her you're trying to get over everything.

It's really tough so don't be too hard on yourself. It's not your fault that you love her. Have you talked to other friends about your feelings? It might help to get your feelings out.

Also, have you tried meeting some gay friends? They would be good people to talk to about this and you might just find a girl you like who can return your feelings.

---------- Post added 22nd Aug 2011 at 04:48 AM ----------

I also suck at controlling myself so I'm not sure how to do that. You could pretend she has a giant thing of spinach in her teeth and smells bad, lol. Sorry I'm not much help with that but when you figure out how to control yourself around straight crushes let me know. : )

[Kosie345]

Ugh, straight crushes are hell. I've been through many and it's never pretty. I'm out to most people, and I've found that it's much better for my sanity to tell my crushes that I'm into them. One thing is for certain, straight crushes are like drugs, you need to quit using. Avoid the person, get away and think of yourself, your own happiness. Avoid falling into the trap of creating fantasies.

Hard as it may be, try to reason with yourself.

[Rinto]

^- I agree with Kosie-san... Hard to accept but it sadly is the truth. They're addictive and hard to resist but we're better off without them in our lives; they bring no good.

But, on my other half, I think crushing wouldn't really hurt that much, as long as you keep yourself from indulging in to the next level. I myself am addicted to someone I just can't get over with but I'm recovering as much as I could.