Friends and gender - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

**Mogget** · 18th Nov 2010, 10:02 PM

There's a stereotype that gay men are mainly friends with women (dunno if a similar stereotype is true for lesbians). It's certainly true in my case, and I was curious to see what gender people's friends mainly are.

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Tried to create a poll for this, and failed utterly.

SwissBoy88 · 18th Nov 2010, 10:19 PM

Hm.... For me it's true....
Mainly women as friends or other gay men. Interesting though there's one straight male friend. He's also the first one I came out to.... He's jealous, because I get to work with some many beautiful women. Yes, it's my luck in life to be surrounded by beautiful women, hmpf (but thank god, there are 2-3 cute guys, too)

deep edward · 18th Nov 2010, 10:22 PM

The majority of my friends have always been other gay men; never really had any women friends at all, so the stereotype definitely doesn't fit me.

RedKnight · 18th Nov 2010, 10:23 PM

My best friends female but my friends are mainly a mix of both genders

Shevanel · 18th Nov 2010, 10:25 PM

Pretty stable and equal mix for me.

Artemicion · 19th Nov 2010, 12:35 AM

I would say for me: high school friends more females, university friends more males.

**Gerry** · 19th Nov 2010, 01:14 AM

I would say it's about even for me. But I generally know more females than males.

**Maddy** · 19th Nov 2010, 01:44 AM

About even for me. (I can make a poll if you'd like, just let me know.)

maverick · 19th Nov 2010, 03:05 AM

My friends have been predominately straight and gay men. But at work, I tend to socialize mostly with women, just because that's who I'm working with most of the time. Still, I greatly prefer the company of men. There's only a select handful of women I hang out with that don't get on my nerves. One on one they're fine, but put them in a group and gah - overload.

But I think that relates back to being transgendered, being in a group of women makes me extremely uncomfortable for the gender-related peer pressure alone. In a group of girls, it becomes much more obvious that I'm not like them.

MMAnick · 19th Nov 2010, 03:46 AM

Most of my friends are stright guys. Ihave one gay male friend but we go to know each other bc he does my hair lol. But im not out at all (not even to the gay friend) and dont know if any of them will stick around when or if i do come out.

19th Nov 2010, 03:46 AM

Most my friends are girls. But I do have guy friends..and straight guy friends!

**Owen** · 19th Nov 2010, 04:08 AM

In high school, most of my friends were female, just because that's how things worked out; that was the group of friends I just happened to fall in to. By senior year, though, I was starting to catch on to the fact that I preferred the company of men in both romantic and social situations. Now that I'm in college, most of my friends are men, both straight and gay. There are a few females I'm friends with, one of which I'm kind of close to, but the fact is that I have more female friends than male friends. Most of the females I'm friends with aren't all that feminine, too, which might have something to do with why I enjoy their company.

Vivi · 19th Nov 2010, 05:00 AM

I've got a pretty even mix i think, although my two closest friends are both straight males.

19th Nov 2010, 05:13 AM

for me its true i have more women friends than men, but i would like to have more men friends, its difficult for me tho. I dont know what to alk about with them sometimes

Rikudo · 19th Nov 2010, 05:25 AM

Pretty much all are straight male friends.

19th Nov 2010, 05:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ER73

Pretty much all are straight male friends.

Lucky you

Beertruck · 19th Nov 2010, 07:01 AM

Yeah most of my friends are straight and male with some ladies mixed in.

19th Nov 2010, 09:42 AM

All my closest friends are straight (as far as I know;-) guys but beyond that it's a fairly even mix.

LushLife · 19th Nov 2010, 09:58 AM

The majority of my friends are women and feminine gay boys. My best friend however is a straight guy and has been the most supportive of them all. Which shocked me because most of the straight guys im around (and this may be true for alot of gay males) but most straight guys think I want them. Which is so so far from the truth.

HazMattic_Force · 19th Nov 2010, 01:00 PM

About 1/4 straight female 2/4 GLBTQ [ yes i have a friend of each in the real world ] 1/4 straight males

18th Nov 2010, 10:02 PM	#1
Mogget Mad and dead as nails EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Kinsey 5 or 6. It varies Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Alaska Age: 22 Posts: 2,019 Join Date: Mar 2010	Friends and gender There's a stereotype that gay men are mainly friends with women (dunno if a similar stereotype is true for lesbians). It's certainly true in my case, and I was curious to see what gender people's friends mainly are. ---------- Post added 18th Nov 2010 at 09:04 PM ---------- Tried to create a poll for this, and failed utterly. __________________ "As to what I am, I once was many things but now I am only several." - Mogget in Sabriel by Garth Nix "The world is quiet here." - VFD

18th Nov 2010, 10:19 PM	#2
SwissBoy88 Charmed and Dangerous Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: best friend, MOM, some co-workers Location: Switzerland Age: 23 Posts: 6,721 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Friends and gender Hm.... For me it's true.... Mainly women as friends or other gay men. Interesting though there's one straight male friend. He's also the first one I came out to.... He's jealous, because I get to work with some many beautiful women. Yes, it's my luck in life to be surrounded by beautiful women, hmpf (but thank god, there are 2-3 cute guys, too) __________________ Either one is free or one is not. The concept of freedom is an absolute. After all, one cannot be moderately dead, moderately loved, or moderately free. It must always remain a matter of either or. After all... I'm just a boy, standing in front of another boy, asking him to love him....

18th Nov 2010, 10:22 PM	#3
deep edward Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Texas Age: 32 Posts: 30 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Friends and gender The majority of my friends have always been other gay men; never really had any women friends at all, so the stereotype definitely doesn't fit me.

18th Nov 2010, 10:23 PM	#4
RedKnight Random Guy #9 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I Know I Like Guys Out Status: Mum and some friends Location: Lower Hutt, New Zealand Age: 20 Posts: 850 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Friends and gender My best friends female but my friends are mainly a mix of both genders __________________ ________\o/______/l__________ Shark Attack!

18th Nov 2010, 10:25 PM	#5
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Friends and gender Pretty stable and equal mix for me. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

19th Nov 2010, 12:35 AM	#6
Artemicion :D :D :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who asks, but parents in denial. Location: Vancouver BC Canada Age: 23 Posts: 1,112 Join Date: Aug 2010	Re: Friends and gender I would say for me: high school friends more females, university friends more males.

19th Nov 2010, 01:14 AM	#7
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,551 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Friends and gender I would say it's about even for me. But I generally know more females than males. __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

19th Nov 2010, 01:44 AM	#8
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,704 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Friends and gender About even for me. (I can make a poll if you'd like, just let me know.) __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

19th Nov 2010, 03:05 AM	#9
maverick let watchers become warriors Full Member Gender: You tell me. Orientation: Hey good lookin'. wink Out Status: It's pretty obvious. Location: Alabama cue banjos Age: 26 Posts: 2,118 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Friends and gender My friends have been predominately straight and gay men. But at work, I tend to socialize mostly with women, just because that's who I'm working with most of the time. Still, I greatly prefer the company of men. There's only a select handful of women I hang out with that don't get on my nerves. One on one they're fine, but put them in a group and gah - overload. But I think that relates back to being transgendered, being in a group of women makes me extremely uncomfortable for the gender-related peer pressure alone. In a group of girls, it becomes much more obvious that I'm not like them. __________________ Shelter me oh genius words, just give me strength / to pen these things, and give me peace to well her wings / and oh, oh carry on, all you minstrels of the world, we will catch our lady's ear, we will win for us the girl. Last edited by maverick; 19th Nov 2010 at 03:08 AM..

19th Nov 2010, 03:46 AM	#10
MMAnick MMA Nick Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 30% BI and 70% Gay i do belive at this point Out Status: 1 person :) Location: GA Age: 23 Posts: 137 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Friends and gender Most of my friends are stright guys. Ihave one gay male friend but we go to know each other bc he does my hair lol. But im not out at all (not even to the gay friend) and dont know if any of them will stick around when or if i do come out. __________________ "But they ALL didn't see...the little bit of sadness in me..." - Kid Cudi

19th Nov 2010, 03:46 AM	#11
Lady Gaga Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Friends and gender Most my friends are girls. But I do have guy friends..and straight guy friends!

19th Nov 2010, 04:08 AM	#12
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,872 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Friends and gender In high school, most of my friends were female, just because that's how things worked out; that was the group of friends I just happened to fall in to. By senior year, though, I was starting to catch on to the fact that I preferred the company of men in both romantic and social situations. Now that I'm in college, most of my friends are men, both straight and gay. There are a few females I'm friends with, one of which I'm kind of close to, but the fact is that I have more female friends than male friends. Most of the females I'm friends with aren't all that feminine, too, which might have something to do with why I enjoy their company. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

19th Nov 2010, 05:00 AM	#13
Vivi Black Mage Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Ireland Age: 23 Posts: 152 Join Date: Mar 2010	Re: Friends and gender I've got a pretty even mix i think, although my two closest friends are both straight males.

19th Nov 2010, 05:13 AM	#14
yeahyeah Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Friends and gender for me its true i have more women friends than men, but i would like to have more men friends, its difficult for me tho. I dont know what to alk about with them sometimes

19th Nov 2010, 05:25 AM	#15
Rikudo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: Friends and gender Pretty much all are straight male friends. __________________ "Out of love, sacrifice is born... Hate is born... and we are able to know pain!"

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19th Nov 2010, 07:01 AM	#17
Beertruck Drunk Homosexual Full Member Gender: bro Orientation: bromosexual Out Status: bropen! Location: new jersey Age: 24 Posts: 420 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Friends and gender Yeah most of my friends are straight and male with some ladies mixed in.

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LostandFound Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Friends and gender All my closest friends are straight (as far as I know;-) guys but beyond that it's a fairly even mix.

19th Nov 2010, 09:58 AM	#19
LushLife Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out? I've never been in! Posts: 14 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: Friends and gender The majority of my friends are women and feminine gay boys. My best friend however is a straight guy and has been the most supportive of them all. Which shocked me because most of the straight guys im around (and this may be true for alot of gay males) but most straight guys think I want them. Which is so so far from the truth.

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HazMattic_Force EC's Residential Raver Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Little Rock, Arkansas Age: 19 Posts: 696 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Friends and gender About 1/4 straight female 2/4 GLBTQ [ yes i have a friend of each in the real world ] 1/4 straight males __________________ Humanity is Sadism at its Finest .