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Old 29th Nov 2010, 10:01 PM   #1
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Today I went to psicologist and we talked for a while and then after some time he said: Ok let me understand, so there is the posibility that u can have a relation with a guy? and I was like yes excatly that.
In a part of the conversation we talked about another relation I had and all the time I said HE or HIM and I tought it was obvious. lol
Maybe he didnt want to be rude and thats why he asked it like that. What do u think?
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Old 29th Nov 2010, 10:21 PM   #2
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I'm assuming the psychiatrist just wanted to be clear. Unless you told him "I'm bisexual" or "I've had a sexual relationship with a guy", he might need to make that absolutely clear. Plus, he probably wanted to hear you state it outright, just to gauge how comfortable you were with it.

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*Psychologist.
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*For.
*Most.
*Modern.
*Web.
*Browsers.
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Um. Not at all.


Also, to have a valid presence in this thread. Basically what Lex said. Unless you explicitly told him prior, he wouldn't want to assume anything, and just wanted to safely figure out what your sexuality was without the possibility of offending you. You've got the right idea.
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Um. Not at all.
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Um. Not at all.
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There is a fine line between "stylin" on someone, and just being a flat out troll. I'm guessing you can't see you're flirting with the latter. Your original response was rude and not warranted. EmptyClosets is supposed to be a place of support. If you cannot control your urge to correct the people's grammar and not contribute at all to the original topic, might I suggest you not post?

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Next time you go, I would be more specific in your wording. Just come out and say it. I agree, the psychiatrist probably did not want to prod this out of you if you weren't comfortable. Granted, I would think he would be able to read your body language, but still.

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Old 30th Nov 2010, 12:29 AM   #11
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I was unaware that "douche baggery" was a style.

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There is a fine line between "stylin" on someone, and just being a flat out troll. I'm guessing you can't see you're flirting with the latter. Your original response was rude and not warranted. EmptyClosets is supposed to be a place of support. If you cannot control your urge to correct the people's grammar and not contribute at all to the original topic, might I suggest you not post?

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Next time you go, I would be more specific in your wording. Just come out and say it. I agree, the psychiatrist probably did not want to prod this out of you if you weren't comfortable. Granted, I would think he would be able to read your body language, but still.
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Old 30th Nov 2010, 11:15 AM   #12
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*Psychologist.
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*Thought.
*English.
*Not.
*OP's.
*Native.
*Language.
*English.
*Dictionary.
*Add-on.
*For.
*Most.
*Modern.
*Web.
*Browsers.
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*Stop
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As for the OP. I agree with what OuttoSea said. I think you should be a little more straight forward. He's your psychologist and if he's a good one, he can't judge you or anything of the sort just because you're being honest with him. Hope it works out
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Old 30th Nov 2010, 03:17 PM   #13
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Sorry about the grammar when I wrote Psychologist I was thinking in Spanish thats why. And about the others just a mistake when I was typing
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Old 30th Nov 2010, 04:01 PM   #14
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George, you just need to admit your fault.
Revan, why did you join a random argument you weren't in in the first place just to call him names?

Anyway, you should just be very blunt with psychologists. That way they don't ask as many questions, especially embarassing ones. Also, they don't get confused as much.

On the topic of your spelling and grammar, you're perfectly understandable, so nothing is a big deal. And since English isn't your first language you're excused from the Grammar Nazi's rule. But, overtime you will notice your grammar and spelling improving, after-all you are on an English forum. No better way to improve your English than by doing that..well, no better less-expensive option. Plus, English spelling is difficult.
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Uhh because I wanted to? Nothing's saying I can't Plus his cockiness was pissing me off. Plus I still gave my own two cents for yeahyeah.
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And let's end the bickering at this post, please!

Back on topic, I'm sure he was just trying to understand your situation better. Be as honest as you want~!
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Bwhahahaha.
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Yeah, your psychologist obviously just wanted to be clear. Nothing to worry about
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The way you explained it, he didn't really seem like he was trying to be rude or insulting, but simply trying to best understand what you were saying. Sometimes some people only understand what you're explaining with actual labels, like that of being gay or bi, after all, there is also the whole MSM (men who have sex with men) label meaning people who don't identify as gay or bi but simply have sex with men. So I suggest telling him, if you're still concerned about it, but if not then just continue your meetings with him and touch on it only if you feel like doing so.
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