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jimmy124 · 21st Dec 2010, 04:06 PM

ive recently met this guy who lives about 10mile away from me.

we've had some fun with one another but now he wants to take things further and i'm not sure about it. im really nervous about it all

anybody got any advice on what i should do, cos i do really like him and don't want to disapoint him

any advice would be great?
x

Miyaga · 21st Dec 2010, 04:36 PM

see where it goes. If you want to take it a bit slower let him know. Tell him how you feel and explain to him where you stand. If he is interested in you like you are in him he will do what it takes to stay with you.

I myself have been in similar situations where my nerves come into play, those darn butterflies need to just relax sometimes

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Hope this helps

jimmy124 · 21st Dec 2010, 04:51 PM

thanks, that's really gud advice.

i'll speak to him soon and tell him my feelings.

thanks mate
x

KatKut · 21st Dec 2010, 04:54 PM

follow your heart

partietraumatic · 22nd Dec 2010, 04:56 AM

I know its a cliche, but talking with the guy is always the best action to take. Explaining your feelings to someone is 99% of the time going to give a better outcome than not saying anything

hope it goes well.

**Lexington** · 22nd Dec 2010, 06:47 AM

Forgive me for not understanding the terms. By "had some fun", do you mean had sex? And "take things further", do you mean "become boyfriends"? It'd help me give better advice, I think.

Lex

djt820 · 22nd Dec 2010, 10:45 AM

Just fuck him.

jimmy124 · 22nd Dec 2010, 02:11 PM

by had some fun i mean just fooling around with him. and by take things further i mean want to have sex.

21st Dec 2010, 04:06 PM	#1
jimmy124 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: attracted to boys Out Status: Not out at all Location: West Midlands, UK Age: 19 Posts: 14 Join Date: Aug 2009	what should i do ive recently met this guy who lives about 10mile away from me. we've had some fun with one another but now he wants to take things further and i'm not sure about it. im really nervous about it all anybody got any advice on what i should do, cos i do really like him and don't want to disapoint him any advice would be great? x Last edited by jimmy124; 21st Dec 2010 at 04:07 PM.. Reason: spelling

21st Dec 2010, 04:36 PM	#2
Miyaga EC 's Gay Chef Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Who Doesn't Know? Location: New York City Age: 23 Posts: 452 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: what should i do see where it goes. If you want to take it a bit slower let him know. Tell him how you feel and explain to him where you stand. If he is interested in you like you are in him he will do what it takes to stay with you. I myself have been in similar situations where my nerves come into play, those darn butterflies need to just relax sometimes . Hope this helps __________________ "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind." "Live today like it is your last, no regrets, no second guesses, just truth and happiness."

21st Dec 2010, 04:51 PM	#3
jimmy124 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: attracted to boys Out Status: Not out at all Location: West Midlands, UK Age: 19 Posts: 14 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: what should i do thanks, that's really gud advice. i'll speak to him soon and tell him my feelings. thanks mate x

21st Dec 2010, 04:54 PM	#4
KatKut Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Boy Out Status: just people who I had sex with Location: Europe Age: 23 Posts: 119 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: what should i do follow your heart

22nd Dec 2010, 04:56 AM	#5
partietraumatic A gay heteropolitan? Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Enough for now Location: Oxford and Birmingham, UK Age: 20 Posts: 1,300 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: what should i do I know its a cliche, but talking with the guy is always the best action to take. Explaining your feelings to someone is 99% of the time going to give a better outcome than not saying anything hope it goes well. __________________ 'Im not your toy and this isn't another girl meets boy'

22nd Dec 2010, 06:47 AM	#6
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: what should i do Forgive me for not understanding the terms. By "had some fun", do you mean had sex? And "take things further", do you mean "become boyfriends"? It'd help me give better advice, I think. Lex

22nd Dec 2010, 10:45 AM	#7
djt820 Brutally Honest Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: DICKS EVERYWHERE Out Status: Like A Cock Slapping Your Face Kind-of Out. Location: SoCal Age: 19 Posts: 1,282 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: what should i do Just fuck him. __________________

22nd Dec 2010, 02:11 PM	#8
jimmy124 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: attracted to boys Out Status: Not out at all Location: West Midlands, UK Age: 19 Posts: 14 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: what should i do by had some fun i mean just fooling around with him. and by take things further i mean want to have sex.