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maverick · 24th Jan 2011, 10:00 AM

Okay, so this is kind of an offshoot of the "do you want to get married?" thread. How would you propose? Where would you do it? How do you feel about rings; if you want one, what kind? Or would you not want to propose, and would prefer to be proposed to? What are your expectations for post-married life?

I'm interested to see what people's different opinions are of what it is like to be married, and how they imagine starting the whole thing out.

Like I said in the other thread, I think it'd be cool to set up a proposal flash mob. Plus, with our current level of technology, it'd be pretty easy to organize a really epic one (like Tosh O. worthy) with a little networking and creativity. Impromptu music video say what?

Beertruck · 24th Jan 2011, 10:59 AM

Honestly, I would do it very low key. Probably do it somewhere that's important to (the eventual) two of us. Same with the wedding. Something memorable, to be sure! But low key.

I'm not a big fan of these gigantic gestures that comes with a wedding ceremony, personally. >_> When we overemphasize the importance of one day, we get bridezillas and couples who get divorced after a year and a half. Make it something nice and romantic and important to you. It isn't a Super Sweet 16.

Connor22 · 24th Jan 2011, 11:25 AM

via dung beetle.

Black Cat · 24th Jan 2011, 11:38 AM

For starters, I LOVE your idea Maverick. Who wouldn't say yes to a flashmob proposal?

I'd probably do it in some super cheesy way, like with breakfast in bed and roses. I think I'd just put the ring on him while he's sleeping and when he wakes up bring him breakfast and then we could just sit in bed all day together until he noticed - which would be followed by me asking him to marry me.

If the situations were reversed, like if he were proposing to me, I'd want it to be something different though. He has to be creative enough to not just steal my ideas.

maverick · 24th Jan 2011, 11:55 AM

^ I love this style of wedding ring.

**Eleanor Rigby** · 24th Jan 2011, 12:09 PM

My husband proposed to me in a very strange way. We were in a supermarket, in the middle of doing shopping and I don't even remember what we were talking about, when he suddenly stopped, looked at me and said "Would you marry me ?".
It's been 10 year this year that it did happen

Here is a picture of my engagement ring (the one with the emerald) and of my wedding ring (the simple gold ring)

maverick · 24th Jan 2011, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Eleanor Rigby

My husband proposed to me in a very strange way. We were in a supermarket, in the middle of doing shopping and I don't even remember what we were talking about, when he suddenly stopped, looked at me and said "Would you marry me ?".
It's been 10 year this year that it did happen

Here is a picture of my engagement ring (the one with the emerald) and of my wedding ring (the simple gold ring)

That's beautiful! I love that your husband just threw that in there, lol...

ToTheCeilingFan · 24th Jan 2011, 12:38 PM

I would want to do something really weird and wacky...I LOVE the idea of a flashmob proposal. Maybe I'd set up a treasure hunt and have her follow clues to find the ring? Love this idea for a thread.

x2x2x2x2y2 · 24th Jan 2011, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Eleanor Rigby

My husband proposed to me in a very strange way. We were in a supermarket, in the middle of doing shopping and I don't even remember what we were talking about, when he suddenly stopped, looked at me and said "Would you marry me ?".
It's been 10 year this year that it did happen

Here is a picture of my engagement ring (the one with the emerald) and of my wedding ring (the simple gold ring)

I LOVE this!!! If a guy proposed to me, I'd want it to be something like this!!

maverick · 24th Jan 2011, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by ToTheCeilingFan

I would want to do something really weird and wacky...I LOVE the idea of a flashmob proposal. Maybe I'd set up a treasure hunt and have her follow clues to find the ring? Love this idea for a thread.

The only thing about a "public" proposal is that you better be damned sure whoever you're asking is going to say yes.

Otherwise...

thedreamwatch · 24th Jan 2011, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ToTheCeilingFan

I would want to do something really weird and wacky...I LOVE the idea of a flashmob proposal. Maybe I'd set up a treasure hunt and have her follow clues to find the ring? Love this idea for a thread.

I love the treasure hunt idea! You could even make it things from your history together, like, "go to the place where we had our first date and find the next clue" etc.

Adam · 24th Jan 2011, 01:09 PM

I would not want a public proposal.
I love nature and outdoors, so would want to do it somewhere beautiful like hike to the top of a mountain and do it.

**lostinthought9** · 24th Jan 2011, 01:19 PM

I'm not too keen on the flash mob idea.

I prefer something a bit more intimate and private.

Although, in a relationship, I'd emphasize that we were equal. No stereotypical "man and woman." So, I wouldn't want an engagement ring, unless he had one. He also better not get on one knee either, haha. I dunno, I want something simple and sweet.

I'm not sure if that made sense or not. Lol.

I will say this, I want either silver or platinum male wedding rings. I seriously dislike gold jewelry. xD

**Rosina** · 24th Jan 2011, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Black Cat

For starters, I LOVE your idea Maverick. Who wouldn't say yes to a flashmob proposal?

I'd probably do it in some super cheesy way, like with breakfast in bed and roses. I think I'd just put the ring on him while he's sleeping and when he wakes up bring him breakfast and then we could just sit in bed all day together until he noticed - which would be followed by me asking him to marry me.

If the situations were reversed, like if he were proposing to me, I'd want it to be something different though. He has to be creative enough to not just steal my ideas.

Oh my gosh

, if that happened to me, eeeeeeek, that'll be the best thing ever and something I would totally not see coming (but now I kinda would, having read it XD). The only way I see it happening is a place that hypothetical hubby and I frequented, a lovely spot under a tree or overlooking a beautiful landscape. But I would just melt inside if the above happened :3

I don't think I'd have the guts to propose to a guy, though XD

Shevanel · 24th Jan 2011, 01:34 PM

I ain't givin up my secrets

roborama · 24th Jan 2011, 02:59 PM

im definitly that loser who would wait for her to propose

Idonteven · 24th Jan 2011, 03:12 PM

I'm a romantic at heart. If I were to propose I'd want to do it in a special place to the both of us, preferably not a public place in as romantic way as I could think up.

As for Rings... is it sad to want a Lord of the Rings ring?

ok455 · 25th Jan 2011, 05:03 AM

I am such a chicken with that kind of stuff i would be scared to purpose i probably write it on a paper and tape it to the fridge and then leave for a few hours. And wait for him to call me

maverick · 25th Jan 2011, 05:06 AM

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As for Rings... is it sad to want a Lord of the Rings ring?

^ Hell no, I'd choose this over a wedding ring:

Lotty · 25th Jan 2011, 08:54 AM

If I'd propose I think I would ask him or her on the beach somewhere around sunset. With a ring of course. A silver one, because I hate gold.

Last night I dreamt someone proposed to me. I was a bit older than I am now, of course. I was in a hurry and I just wanted to leave the house when she took my and asked me: 'Will you marry me?' No idea what my answer was, because that's when I woke up.

She had given me a ring though. A silver one with rubies. A bit like this, but not exactly of course:

24th Jan 2011, 10:00 AM	#1
maverick let watchers become warriors Full Member Gender: You tell me. Orientation: Hey good lookin'. wink Out Status: It's pretty obvious. Location: Alabama cue banjos Age: 26 Posts: 2,118 Join Date: Nov 2010	How would you propose? Okay, so this is kind of an offshoot of the "do you want to get married?" thread. How would you propose? Where would you do it? How do you feel about rings; if you want one, what kind? Or would you not want to propose, and would prefer to be proposed to? What are your expectations for post-married life? I'm interested to see what people's different opinions are of what it is like to be married, and how they imagine starting the whole thing out. Like I said in the other thread, I think it'd be cool to set up a proposal flash mob. Plus, with our current level of technology, it'd be pretty easy to organize a really epic one (like Tosh O. worthy) with a little networking and creativity. Impromptu music video say what? __________________ Shelter me oh genius words, just give me strength / to pen these things, and give me peace to well her wings / and oh, oh carry on, all you minstrels of the world, we will catch our lady's ear, we will win for us the girl.

24th Jan 2011, 10:59 AM	#2
Beertruck Drunk Homosexual Full Member Gender: bro Orientation: bromosexual Out Status: bropen! Location: new jersey Age: 24 Posts: 420 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: How would you propose? Honestly, I would do it very low key. Probably do it somewhere that's important to (the eventual) two of us. Same with the wedding. Something memorable, to be sure! But low key. I'm not a big fan of these gigantic gestures that comes with a wedding ceremony, personally. >_> When we overemphasize the importance of one day, we get bridezillas and couples who get divorced after a year and a half. Make it something nice and romantic and important to you. It isn't a Super Sweet 16.

24th Jan 2011, 11:25 AM	#3
Connor22 Stopped being (as) vague Full Member Gender: yes Orientation: up the bender Out Status: burned Narnia :D Location: Norn Iron Age: 17 Posts: 1,547 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: How would you propose? via dung beetle. __________________ Kindness is a gift. Share it.

24th Jan 2011, 11:38 AM	#4
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: How would you propose? For starters, I LOVE your idea Maverick. Who wouldn't say yes to a flashmob proposal? I'd probably do it in some super cheesy way, like with breakfast in bed and roses. I think I'd just put the ring on him while he's sleeping and when he wakes up bring him breakfast and then we could just sit in bed all day together until he noticed - which would be followed by me asking him to marry me. If the situations were reversed, like if he were proposing to me, I'd want it to be something different though. He has to be creative enough to not just steal my ideas. __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

24th Jan 2011, 11:55 AM	#5
maverick let watchers become warriors Full Member Gender: You tell me. Orientation: Hey good lookin'. wink Out Status: It's pretty obvious. Location: Alabama cue banjos Age: 26 Posts: 2,118 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: How would you propose? ^ I love this style of wedding ring. __________________ Shelter me oh genius words, just give me strength / to pen these things, and give me peace to well her wings / and oh, oh carry on, all you minstrels of the world, we will catch our lady's ear, we will win for us the girl.

24th Jan 2011, 12:38 PM	#8
ToTheCeilingFan crazed Full Member Gender: let's just say...grrrl Orientation: as straight as a side view of Christina Aguilera Out Status: completely out as lesbian, not out at all as GQ Location: Somewhere over the rainbow... Age: 18 Posts: 185 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: How would you propose? I would want to do something really weird and wacky...I LOVE the idea of a flashmob proposal. Maybe I'd set up a treasure hunt and have her follow clues to find the ring? Love this idea for a thread. __________________ "Abercrombie isn't about helping people. It's about playing rugby with your best buds in a fresh green field, only you both forgot your clothes."

24th Jan 2011, 01:09 PM	#12
Adam EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Posts: 539 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: How would you propose? I would not want a public proposal. I love nature and outdoors, so would want to do it somewhere beautiful like hike to the top of a mountain and do it.

24th Jan 2011, 01:19 PM	#13
lostinthought9 EC's Biggest Xena Fan EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Louisiana Age: 21 Posts: 2,059 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: How would you propose? I'm not too keen on the flash mob idea. I prefer something a bit more intimate and private. Although, in a relationship, I'd emphasize that we were equal. No stereotypical "man and woman." So, I wouldn't want an engagement ring, unless he had one. He also better not get on one knee either, haha. I dunno, I want something simple and sweet. I'm not sure if that made sense or not. Lol. I will say this, I want either silver or platinum male wedding rings. I seriously dislike gold jewelry. xD __________________

24th Jan 2011, 01:34 PM	#15
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: How would you propose? I ain't givin up my secrets __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

24th Jan 2011, 02:59 PM	#16
roborama EC's Teenage Grandma Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Fluid Out Status: Out to everyone Location: MA Age: 17 Posts: 397 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: How would you propose? im definitly that loser who would wait for her to propose __________________ Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. Harvey Fierstein

24th Jan 2011, 03:12 PM	#17
Idonteven Enigma Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: England, United Kingdom Age: 21 Posts: 535 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: How would you propose? I'm a romantic at heart. If I were to propose I'd want to do it in a special place to the both of us, preferably not a public place in as romantic way as I could think up. As for Rings... is it sad to want a Lord of the Rings ring?

25th Jan 2011, 05:03 AM	#18
ok455 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Can't tell L!O!L Age: 24 Posts: 437 Join Date: May 2005	Re: How would you propose? I am such a chicken with that kind of stuff i would be scared to purpose i probably write it on a paper and tape it to the fridge and then leave for a few hours. And wait for him to call me __________________ http://209.50.252.116/smile.gif

25th Jan 2011, 08:54 AM	#20
Lotty Everybody's fool Regular Member Gender: Mostly female Orientation: I've given up on that one. Out Status: I don't hide it. Location: Holland!!!<3 Age: 17 Posts: 460 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: How would you propose? If I'd propose I think I would ask him or her on the beach somewhere around sunset. With a ring of course. A silver one, because I hate gold. Last night I dreamt someone proposed to me. I was a bit older than I am now, of course. I was in a hurry and I just wanted to leave the house when she took my and asked me: 'Will you marry me?' No idea what my answer was, because that's when I woke up. She had given me a ring though. A silver one with rubies. A bit like this, but not exactly of course: __________________ .That's myself in the mirror.