A Twin Question - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

U N Owen · 24th Jan 2011, 03:41 PM

I am posting this because I am just interested in how many people here at EC have a twin. I currently have not come out to him though sine I know him so well I doubt he would care. In fact I have a high suspicion that he too might be gay however since he is as introverted as me, it is impossible for me to he is with certainty. I'm wondering who else had this issue and how they delt with it.

QuantumBoi · 24th Jan 2011, 05:55 PM

Unfortunately I do not have a twin, which would have its ups and downs. However, I wanted to respond and say it would be interesting if your twin were gay, too. Haha.

U N Owen · 24th Jan 2011, 09:56 PM

Thanks for the reply. I suppose this question might fare a bit better if I moved it into the support forum.

Revan · 24th Jan 2011, 11:50 PM

Twins often have a prevalent rate of both being gay. Not always, but there are studies showing there is a higher rate.

KittyBoy · 25th Jan 2011, 01:55 AM

I was dancing with some twins at a nightclub, both were gay. If that is any help... Fun time, fun time.

RaRa · 25th Jan 2011, 02:04 AM

I'm jelly. I wish I had a twin. Though Joey would probably think it would be a nightmare if there were two of me...

KittyBoy · 25th Jan 2011, 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by RaRa

I'm jelly. I wish I had a twin. Though Joey would probably think it would be a nightmare if there were two of me...

I wish I had a twin as well, but according to my parents and this guy that wants to date me it would mean the apocalypse... High maintenance and all that...

ok455 · 25th Jan 2011, 05:38 AM

I remember when i was high school i knew twins one was evil and the other one was very nice.

radiantdawn · 26th Jan 2011, 12:36 AM

urmmm... to ok455, that's not really a good thing to say...

That's buying in to the thought that one twin is the "nice one". Both are separate individuals with different temperaments, experiences, thoughts and feelings. If one of them is feeling nice one day, it will show.

Perhaps that association and label merely accentuated his bitterness. I know I get bitter when people label me. It hurts.

In response to the OP:

I have a twin. He's not gay. But when he was asked by someone he said: If I was it doesn't matter, and I wouldn't tell you anyway.

So maybe he's coming to terms with it? But I know that he does like girls for certain. In any case, statistics are just statistics. I'm surprised you aren't out to your twin though. He was the first person I told in fact, though I planned to tell him after I had told some friends, but it didn't work out the way I planned.

Are you close with your twin? He would be a good person to tell. If not first, tell some friends first, then tell him in case he takes it badly. I can guarantee you that he will be okay with it no matter what. He may at first be against it, if he's homophobic, but when homophobes are confronted with close people who are gay, it challenges their beliefs. Because twins are so close, I'm like 100% that he will be ok with it.

QuantumBoi · 26th Jan 2011, 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Revan

Twins often have a prevalent rate of both being gay. Not always, but there are studies showing there is a higher rate.

Yeah, and that lends potential evidence to homosexuality being at least partly affected by genetics. I consider homosexuality "half nature, half nurture."

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Originally Posted by KittyBoy

I was dancing with some twins at a nightclub, both were gay. If that is any help... Fun time, fun time.

Haha. Or were you drunk and seeing double? Just kidding. I want to dance with gay twins. =P

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Originally Posted by radiantdawn

urmmm... to ok455, that's not really a good thing to say...

That's buying in to the thought that one twin is the "nice one". Both are separate individuals with different temperaments, experiences, thoughts and feelings. If one of them is feeling nice one day, it will show.

He probably didn't mean anything by it. He was just saying he knew twins who were radically different. Thus he was basically supporting the same idea as you said.

Remk · 26th Jan 2011, 07:40 AM

I have a twin. I'm gay, he's not. He's married and has two kids with another on the way.

He's also my best friend so I decided I had to come out to him first. It was the best choice because he's been so supportive.

Not sure how your relationship is with your twin but if it's even remotely similar to the relationship I have with my twin you'll be fine telling him. You mentioned you know him well enough to know he will be cool with it. So my advice is trust tour instinct and take the leap. You won't regret it.

Z3ni · 26th Jan 2011, 07:43 AM

I'm Bi, and my twin is a gay boy xD

QuantumBoi · 26th Jan 2011, 07:58 AM

Omg so many twins on EC. Lol. We could gather an army of look-alikes.

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Originally Posted by Z3ni

I'm Bi, and my twin is a gay boy xD

Nice. =]

Connor22 · 26th Jan 2011, 07:59 AM

I always wish I had a twin instead of my wee sis

U N Owen · 26th Jan 2011, 09:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by radiantdawn

In response to the OP:

Are you close with your twin? He would be a good person to tell. If not first, tell some friends first, then tell him in case he takes it badly. I can guarantee you that he will be okay with it no matter what. He may at first be against it, if he's homophobic, but when homophobes are confronted with close people who are gay, it challenges their beliefs. Because twins are so close, I'm like 100% that he will be ok with it.

Thanks for the response from an actual twin!

My twin is not homophobic, but the reason I haven't told him is that I am holding out aginst hope that he is not gay. He often imitates what I do and I would not want to influence him by coming out to him first. He might be questioning himself and I would not want him to rush to any conlcusions based on what I say. While I would want him to be straight to continue the family line and all that I'm fine if he turns out to be gay. Perhaps I could tell him first, but I feel more comftorable telling my whole family at once, along with my adult lesbian friend.

British Lad · 27th Jan 2011, 03:42 AM

I would love a Twin but I have a little brother instead and were completely different.

**EM68** · 30th Jan 2011, 07:29 PM

I'm a twin. My brother is straight as they come! He is married and has 3 kids.

mischa91 · 31st Jan 2011, 07:10 PM

i have a twin brother, he's straight. i haven't officially come out to my brother but he probably knows or suspects, we're not very close anymore. i doubt he'd care as he has a few gay friends and isn't homophobic at all.

Davo · 1st Feb 2011, 08:59 AM

I have a twin brother too and he's straight. He was the only one of my family who had any sort of issue about me being gay but he's fine now.

24th Jan 2011, 03:41 PM	#1
U N Owen Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family only Location: Pennsylvania Age: 19 Posts: 79 Join Date: Jan 2011	A Twin Question I am posting this because I am just interested in how many people here at EC have a twin. I currently have not come out to him though sine I know him so well I doubt he would care. In fact I have a high suspicion that he too might be gay however since he is as introverted as me, it is impossible for me to he is with certainty. I'm wondering who else had this issue and how they delt with it.

24th Jan 2011, 05:55 PM	#2
QuantumBoi EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay, Kinsey 6 Out Status: Out to whoever asks. Location: Asheville, North Carolina, USA Age: 21 Posts: 350 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: A Twin Question Unfortunately I do not have a twin, which would have its ups and downs. However, I wanted to respond and say it would be interesting if your twin were gay, too. Haha.

24th Jan 2011, 09:56 PM	#3
U N Owen Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Family only Location: Pennsylvania Age: 19 Posts: 79 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: A Twin Question Thanks for the reply. I suppose this question might fare a bit better if I moved it into the support forum.

24th Jan 2011, 11:50 PM	#4
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,564 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: A Twin Question Twins often have a prevalent rate of both being gay. Not always, but there are studies showing there is a higher rate. __________________ "Is there some reason my coffee isn't here? Has she died or something?" - Miranda Priestly. Strength is not defined by physical capacity, but by indomitable will. ~ Mahatma Gandhi Procrastination is like masturbation, in the end you just wind up screwing yourself.

25th Jan 2011, 01:55 AM	#5
KittyBoy Kitty! (=｀ω´=) Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Sydney, New South Wales, Australia Age: 20 Posts: 3,479 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: A Twin Question I was dancing with some twins at a nightclub, both were gay. If that is any help... Fun time, fun time. __________________ Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~Judy Garland

25th Jan 2011, 02:04 AM	#6
RaRa We we we so excited Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Los Angeles, CA Age: 21 Posts: 7,439 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: A Twin Question I'm jelly. I wish I had a twin. Though Joey would probably think it would be a nightmare if there were two of me... __________________ Do you think about me now and then? Do you think about me now and then? Oh now I'm comin' home again Maybe we can start again

25th Jan 2011, 05:38 AM	#8
ok455 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Can't tell L!O!L Age: 24 Posts: 437 Join Date: May 2005	Re: A Twin Question I remember when i was high school i knew twins one was evil and the other one was very nice. __________________ http://209.50.252.116/smile.gif

26th Jan 2011, 12:36 AM	#9
radiantdawn Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Immediate family and close friends Location: Vancouver, B.C. Age: 18 Posts: 173 Join Date: Jan 2011	Re: A Twin Question urmmm... to ok455, that's not really a good thing to say... That's buying in to the thought that one twin is the "nice one". Both are separate individuals with different temperaments, experiences, thoughts and feelings. If one of them is feeling nice one day, it will show. Perhaps that association and label merely accentuated his bitterness. I know I get bitter when people label me. It hurts. In response to the OP: I have a twin. He's not gay. But when he was asked by someone he said: If I was it doesn't matter, and I wouldn't tell you anyway. So maybe he's coming to terms with it? But I know that he does like girls for certain. In any case, statistics are just statistics. I'm surprised you aren't out to your twin though. He was the first person I told in fact, though I planned to tell him after I had told some friends, but it didn't work out the way I planned. Are you close with your twin? He would be a good person to tell. If not first, tell some friends first, then tell him in case he takes it badly. I can guarantee you that he will be okay with it no matter what. He may at first be against it, if he's homophobic, but when homophobes are confronted with close people who are gay, it challenges their beliefs. Because twins are so close, I'm like 100% that he will be ok with it.

26th Jan 2011, 07:40 AM	#11
Remk Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Philly Suburbs. Age: 27 Posts: 41 Join Date: Nov 2010	Re: A Twin Question I have a twin. I'm gay, he's not. He's married and has two kids with another on the way. He's also my best friend so I decided I had to come out to him first. It was the best choice because he's been so supportive. Not sure how your relationship is with your twin but if it's even remotely similar to the relationship I have with my twin you'll be fine telling him. You mentioned you know him well enough to know he will be cool with it. So my advice is trust tour instinct and take the leap. You won't regret it.

26th Jan 2011, 07:43 AM	#12
Z3ni Ec's ADD Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayish Out Status: My Twin Location: England, Manchester Posts: 3,082 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: A Twin Question I'm Bi, and my twin is a gay boy xD __________________ Through pain, lies success.

26th Jan 2011, 07:59 AM	#14
Connor22 Stopped being (as) vague Full Member Gender: yes Orientation: up the bender Out Status: burned Narnia :D Location: Norn Iron Age: 17 Posts: 1,547 Join Date: Nov 2009	Re: A Twin Question I always wish I had a twin instead of my wee sis __________________ Kindness is a gift. Share it.

27th Jan 2011, 03:42 AM	#16
British Lad EC Biggest Tarantino fan Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: As bent as a roundabout Out Status: What Closet Location: West Midlands Posts: 1,275 Join Date: Apr 2010	Re: A Twin Question I would love a Twin but I have a little brother instead and were completely different. __________________ Who ever sayed "Ignorance is bliss" was a moron.

30th Jan 2011, 07:29 PM	#17
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: A Twin Question I'm a twin. My brother is straight as they come! He is married and has 3 kids. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

31st Jan 2011, 07:10 PM	#18
mischa91 Well Known Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some friends and fb Location: Ohio. Originally from Newcastle Age: 28 Posts: 229 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: A Twin Question i have a twin brother, he's straight. i haven't officially come out to my brother but he probably knows or suspects, we're not very close anymore. i doubt he'd care as he has a few gay friends and isn't homophobic at all.

1st Feb 2011, 08:59 AM	#19
Davo Is mise Daibhidh Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost out to everyone Location: Scotland Age: 25 Posts: 434 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: A Twin Question I have a twin brother too and he's straight. He was the only one of my family who had any sort of issue about me being gay but he's fine now.

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