Kids - Want 'em? Got 'em?

[maverick]

Well, this is sort of giving away the last Post Secret, but after learning that my parents are probably going to be adopting my cousin's two year-old child, I have decided pretty emphatically that I don't want kids.

Why? I made a list to try and consider how serious I was.

Things I Like That Are (Largely) Child Incompatible:

Disposable income
Far-ranging travel
Freedom
Danger
Solitude
Adventure
Extreme sports
Staying up late
Spicy food
Free time
Anarchy
Bohemians/flophouse types
Art supplies
Expensive home decor
Guns
Writing

Things I Don't Like That Are Child Obligatory (based on observation gleaned from the office):

Being obligated to attend children's sporting events
Household planners
Discipline
Rules
Teenage hell
Chore charts
Financial pressure/planning
Spit-up/vomit/piss/shit/snot
Whining/technology-dependent tweens
Sleep deprivation
Constant vigilance
Limited travel
Limited socialization
Forced social interaction (play dates, PTA meetings, etc...)
Crying babies
Loudness
Tantrums








Thoughts? Want kids or not? And if you already have 'em, do you regret the decision (obviously not all the time, but occasionally?) I know it's considered bad form to admit to not being head-over-heels in love with having kids 24/7/365, but we won't tell.

[malachite]

No
and
No


all done

[heatqueen]

Yes and no.

I see small children and get seriously maternal. Not going to happen for another 10 years though...

[RaRa]

NO NEVER NO NEVER NO.

Adopting a teenager that has reached driving age??? MAYBE.

[thedreamwatch]

I'm not gonna lie, I've considered having kids, but honestly I don't want them to be like me. I've had it rough enough dealing with mental illness on my own without passing it on. It's just genetically irresponsible.

Also, I have a phobia of vomit. No joke. Extremely emetophobic since I was little. This is not conducive to having children.

Maybe my brother will have kids and I can be a part of their lives.

Though this could all change depending on if the person I want to be with wants to have kids, still they will not be genetically mine. I couldn't do that.

[Elven]

I would love kids, nothing you've said has put me off . I feel I would gain far more than I would lose, those things seem like a small amount to pay to have the privilege to raise a child. Of cource this is just my own viewpoint, enjoying life to the full in the ways you've said seems awesome too and I'm definetly not going to adopt or something anytime soon, I've got waaay too much education, career prospects, travelling, romance, skiing , etc to attempt first.

[Ridiculous]

Noooooooooo I have absolutely no inclination towards children at the moment.

[Shevanel]

I want kids within the next 10 years.

[Nazo]

Right now, no. I rather dislike the things, myself.

[Eric]

I'd love to have kids some day. I don't have any at the moment, that I know of at least. o_O

[MyDecember]

I grew up with a bunch of little cousins. Love them squirts, I would adopt in the next 15 years in a heart beat.

[jrnewton2]

Oh most definitely want kids. What a depressing thought to never have any...

Plus my parents have taught me all I need to know about how not to raise kids, and I think I'd be a good dad.

[haelmarie]

I don't particularly want a lifetime commitment to one other (adult) person, but I definitely want children. Which puts me in a bit of a pickle. I figure I'll just make really good friends with a woman and commandeer her uterus - or we could adopt together.

[Sakura]

I would def. like to have a child within the next 10 years or so. I love kids (not so much the vomit, snot, and such but there's positive and negative things about everything, lol).

[Zontar]

No.

No.

I need freedom to pursue some rather unconventional dreams. The minute you get kids, it's 40 years confined to the most average life imaginable.

[GhostDog]

Don't have 'em, but want them! Eventually. Right now I've got a lot of partyin' and being a reckless young adult to get out of the way, and I'd love to travel before I settle down, but yeah, within 10 or so years would be nice.

Dunno if I want to actually have them or adopt them, but I figure that'll be something to discuss with future-wife-person (... y'know, once I have one and all). :3

[TheRoof]

Originally Posted by jrnewton2

Oh most definitely want kids. What a depressing thought to never have any...

Well you can always adopt, or do surrogate thingy.

Personally OMFG NO i never want kids, ever.
I'm just not a loving-fatherly-whatever type. Once I had to do like ESL teaching with small children in elementary school, and had the most awful time trying to deal with my little girl.
I just HATE the idea of being tied down and not be able to live my life as I want to.
I know how much my parents have sacrificed their own needs and wants to raise me and my sister, and I am truly grateful for all they've done for us, and sometimes feel sorry for all the shit that my parents had to endure because of us (opposite is true too).
Also I don't know if I'll be a good uncle either, if my sister ever had children. But at least I know I'll accompany them to shopping ad help them be fabulous , or take them to Broadway shows

[Revan]

My boyfriend and I both want kids. He wants to adopt a Chinese baby and has her name all picked out. Me I'm kind of on the fence about what to do. I mean I have Asperger's Syndrome so obviously I'm nervous about doing surrogacy or artificial insem because there's still a 25% chance that my kid could wind up with something on the autism spectrum, and after working with a severely autistic young man for four years, I kind of just don't want to deal with that having a kid. At the same time, I want a kid who is blood related. I want to look at my kid and see pieces of me there. Plus I know I have the name I want for my daughter and son picked out...so yeah.

[roborama]

one day i will most likely have kids ive always wanted them regardless of the bodily fluids

[MMAnick]

I DEFINITELY WANT kids. I also know that I'm not ready. I want to either be married or be with the person that I know i will be with for the rest of my life.

I think I'll be a good dad. I'm great with kids of all ages and one of the only people that can discipline my 6yo and 3yo cusins without feeling like they are just too much to handle lol.